Men with feminine traits makes better husbands?

India
January 5, 2007 11:36am CST
Its found in a new study which can be an encouraging news for those men who are not that "Icredible Hunk" type. For it says that a girl would date these "Incredible Hunk" but would look for feminine traits in the man she chooses to marry. Acording to the study evolutionary sense plays a great role during when a woman is deciding on her mate. Men with masculine features are ok with a girl for a date but a man with more feminine traits like who sendins her flower on her birthday is her more liklier choice for husband.Square jawed men with well defined brow ridge are looked as ideal short term partners while those with more feminine traits like rounder face and fuller lips are perceived as long term mates..
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43 responses
6 Jan 07
I do think we like men to understand us and not be the big macho man all the time. But I still like a man to be protective and strong, although not in a domineering way. Also for me a man must have big man hands. I cannot stand small feminine hands that some men have. Thats my preference, not everyones. Each to their own I say. By the way, do you know if men intouch with their feminine side tend to go for strong minded women?
@Bangalorean (1283)
• India
21 Feb 07
Thats true, but only when the feministic nature is within tolerance limits
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@shywolf (4529)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I know that I personally am more attracted to men who are senstive and emotional. I cannot stand macho types. They get on my nerves, for the most part. So I agree with the study that you were researching there. I would love to be sent flowers for my birthday. I don't know that I agree that I look for a man with feminine _looking_ aspects, though. That can be a bit offputting *laugh* Depending on just how feminine he looks, that is.
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@ESKARENA1 (18306)
5 Jan 07
hey you know I think this is true. Many of my female friends have told me im as near to a woman as its possible for a man to get and no, im not gay lol
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• United States
6 Jan 07
I THINK WITH THESE TRAITS ARE WONDERFUL..MY GRANDSON IS LIKE THIS AND HE IS WONDERFUL AND HE IS CONNECTED TO WOMAN AND MEN.....BUT HE LIKES TO DO TO COOK AND KNIT AND PLAY WITH THE KIDS AND HAVE FUN AND NO HE ISN'T GAY HE IS A MAN WITH GOOD TRAITS.....HIS PASSION IS FOOT BALL AND HE CRY'S WHEN SOMETHING HURTS OR SOMETHING HAS HAPPEN HE IS JUST FUN ALL THE WAY AROUND HE LOVES LIFE HE GIVES STRENGTH TO EVERYONE....PEOPLE LIKE HIM AND HE LIKES PEOPLE.........
• India
6 Jan 07
Your grandson can be a nice husband.
@yoleis27 (557)
• Israel
6 Jan 07
The problem with men is that they sometimes can be really stupid and they just don't understand how the woman feels... I think that if they have their "feminin" side, that this can do better for a coupeles meridge...
• India
6 Jan 07
Men are stupid? I had a dimaterically opposite view. I all these days from my experience that girls were stupid.
• India
6 Jan 07
You sure must have found some species in the Esplanade area. There are many moving about during the evening hours. In fact I had a bit of an altercation with a few such guys who started harassing me with their female traits and said if we got you in the proper place, we will give you a taste of what we can do to you? That was in 1979. Frankly speaking, people's traits would depend on the time and place of birth of every individual and the behaviour of such persons will also alter accordingly. It is human astrology that will teach us everything. You have males who hardly spot a moustache because they never develop and there are people who have hair all over their body. There are people who act like girls (as you have yourself identified in your subject)etc etc. These are all freaks who are born under different stars. And coming back to the liking of girls, I do not agree with your contention that men with feminine traits will make better husbands. Because, a girl, if she really is a girl to the core, will always be on the look out for hefty, hardy, tall and handsome sturdy men who will have the capacity to protect them through thick and thin. Those girls who fall for boys with female natuer will, one day or the other chagne their liking or in course of time start viewing other males for their long term choice.
@nuffsed (1275)
6 Jan 07
By your own theory...there are as many girly men as there are manly girls, and everywhere in between. The real rarities are the extremes, the all manly man, and the really girly girl. In fact these are the least desireable for the majority, so things work out pretty well. And yes, a lot of not so manly men are happy with strong women. And there's no reason a "girly" guy can't blow your mind in the bedroom either. If there was nothing odd about your last "normal" lover, then you missed it. It might have made you want them to hang around for more. lol
• United States
6 Jan 07
Not to me. I need a man who will challenge me and who will watch sports on a Sunday and Monday Night, otherwise he can seem like a pansy to me.
• India
6 Jan 07
But how would that be when in a romantic moment he says come honey lets excercise??
@Devinarun (388)
• United States
6 Jan 07
wheer did you get this piece of information fom..well it sounds interesting...i dont think i saw all that when i got married n i guess i like the hunky males and my husband is also one...
• India
6 Jan 07
This was part of a research study. well I guess the contention of women liking men with feminine traits is in general terms and Exception proves the law
@simplegal (123)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
Yes. I agree with you. My husband is a 100% man but his feminine in a sense that he is vain in physical appearance and he is not sporty like most of the guys but he is responsible and he loves our kid so much.
• India
6 Jan 07
But I had heard that no man is 100% man and like wise no lady is 100% lady. So who's right?
• United States
31 May 07
I agree that men with some feminine traits may be better husbands but if you think about what makes these traits feminine? Maybe we sterotype too much.
• India
19 Apr 07
Are things like sensitivity and kindness feminine traits? Is being rough and tough all about being masculine? Are you sure that a hulk like Mathew Hayden could not be afraid of cockroaches? Or could not like to cook? Are these feminine traits? I guess, not. But yes. Females do have a stronger sense of bonding than males in general. It is a natural attribute that we have inherited from our mammalian roots. Women normally care more than men for people around them. And that quality is always a bliss, whether in a woman or in a man. If that's a feminine trait, well...
@arwenrey (316)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
I agree with you my husband looks very musculine but he has the physical traits of a woman like he is sentimental, emotional and cry easily. When i tickle him he squirt like a girl.
@kefkaix (33)
• United States
6 Jan 07
It really isn't too hard to be both masculine and understand your partner, you just don't have to compete with others, I mean I excercise regularly and work out and such, but I'm not trying to compete or anything. The other thing is it could also be stereotypical to say that and it may be naive of me to say but I think I understand my girl friend, atleast I try anyways.
@zipporah (151)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
yeah I agree with that theory, I am single and more or less i am looking for a guy who knows how to cook... men when in compete with women cook better.... and I agree with that... I like men who are neat looking and is meticulous when it comes to dressing up and arranging things around the house.. there are guys who are even more better in interior design.
• United States
6 Jan 07
Is this study really new? I think that men who have had more exposure to females are often the ones who develop these traits women are looking for. I have 5 sisters. Did that give me an edge when it came to dating? You better believe it. Most men who are sensitive to how women feel, have had long-lasting impressions left on them from a family member or close friend. So, that only son who was raised by his mother, aunts and grandmother, he is the one who is getting all the play. The guy who can't tell a rose from a lily, he is going to be the one riding the bench watching mister sensitive pick up the touchdown.
• United States
6 Jan 07
yeah. probablly. i dont like those masculine guys who are all like "ahh i like to kill things and eat them" id rather have a sensitive guy who cares about the world. but im about to give up on all men now as they all disgust me.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
6 Jan 07
I think it depends on the person. My father has very masculin features, and there's nothing girly about him. Whereas myself.. my boyfriend's very romantic, very soft and sensual. He appreciates the little things we share together. I do agree with that. Girls want to spend their life with someone who they can relate to, and someone who enjoys some of the same things they like. Such as laying in bed for the purpose of being in eachothers arms. If my boyfriend were that "macho macho many piece of man"..I don't think I'd love him like I do.
@iyhen22 (25)
• Philippines
6 Jan 07
i agree with the study. men with feminine traits are more responsible especially when it comes to family matters and handling kids.
@Sthurm86 (17)
• United States
6 Jan 07
I wouldnt call a man feminine just because he sends me flowers or is in tune with his feelings or anything of that nature. As far as im concerned, you're supposed to do that. But yes i can say that I wouldnt marry a guy who is too on the manly side. I do love a man to take charge but i dont want a man who thinks he's kind of the jungle...make sense?