what's the proper thing to say....

January 7, 2007 5:12am CST
to someones who's mourning the death of a loved one without sounding phony?
1 response
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
10 Jan 07
That's hard. One thing not to say is "I know how you feel" especially if you don't. Many times when someone is mourning, they are not looking for some deep answer or response, they just want a friend to hold thier hand and listen to them. For someone to be supportive, even if they don't completely understand how it feels. ALso, sometimes they need someone to just stand there with them, as they make small talk with distant relatives, and for someone to help them and head off any awkward situations.. because not all people are sensitive or sensible about what they say to someone who is grieving. Another good Idea, Someone who is mourning, usually forgets simple things, like to eat or drink.. or sleep and they need thier streangth as crying/weeping takes alot out of a person.. so bring them food or drink.. remind them that they need rest.. and just try to be thier for them. .Good luck to you.
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• Philippines
12 Jan 07
going to a wake and being in a wake is one of the hardest things i ever have to do. but, you're right. when someone grieves, sometimes your mere presence is enough. the only awkward moments, probably, are the first few minutes upon your arrival but later on, i guess you don't have to say anything at all. thanks for your input.