why married couple fight with each other
26 Jun 07
A couple might fight for several reasons, possessiveness, insecurity, a desire to gain authority over the situation, sadistic nature of the spouse etc. I have seen couples fighting like cats and dogs but they still prefer to stay under the same roof for one big reason - their children. But they are not aware of the fact that the children will suffer the consequences of their strained relationship. It will affect their life, too. I have also seen there are fights which are not just verbally hot, but also get horribly physical. Getting physical in a fight is a crime of rage power. It is a technique of 'coercive control'. One person wants to dominate the other, making her/his afraid to do what she/he wants or say what she/he thinks. It is never wise to store all the pent-up anger inside our heart. It will eventually overflow having a devastating effect on a couple's relationship. I can suggest some solutions for those who fight to endanger their relationship. 1. Keep to one topic and do not bring up past grievances. 2. Get the fight as soon as possible. 3. Do not argue or fight in public or in front of your children. 4. Never hit each other or throw things around. 5. Do not suggest ending the relationship.