I need advice from other "Born Again" Christians... I need Godly advice.

Step aside and let God take over. The seed is planted but continue to pray for your friend. God changes people,you can't! God knows our hearts. Let go and let God. God bless you Berlynn 1975.

Berlynn, I am joining you in prayer for your friend. You are in a situation not uncommon to Christians. We have found a pearl of great price and an abundant life which we want to share with others, and sometimes it breaks our hearts that they don't see what Christ has done for them. The Scriptures tell us this will happen. 1 Cor 2:14 tells us that the natural man CANNOT understand the things of God because they need to be spiritually discerned. Many other places tells us the same thing. The fact is, that while it is OUR responsibility and privilege to present the Gospel to them, it is GOD'S work to open their understanding to receive the message. God has chosen to work through His people and in answer to their prayers, and we have to be obedient to His call, but it is still HIS work and ONLY He will reach them. With regard to your friend, it would appear that you have done everything you can, and are still doing all you can, but I know how you feel. I've been there many times myself. It is not easy when you know you have the answer to her problems and the way to a real life of satisfaction, but she doesn't respond. It is heartbreaking. What we need to keep in mind is that no one knows her true spiritual condition. It is so easy for people to get caught up in a social atmosphere and go along with something on an emotional scale, or even to accept mentally what they see and hear - without a true experience of knowing Christ as Saviour and Lord. Has she ever been presented with the way of salvation? Has she ever accepted Christ as her own personal Saviour? The approach is dependent on her spiritual condition, but with limited knowledge of the case, unless you have reason to believe otherwise, I would say you need to approach this as though she has not. I don't know exactly what you mean by "bluntly confronted her" but you say you are still friends, so I guess things are OK between you and if you offended, it was not lasting. You say that as a friend you cannot be her mentor. I disagree with that. The fact that you know her well - and still love her, in spite of - puts you in a position to be just that. No one would be better qualified. You say you'd be judgemental. This is an overdone saying these days. The fact is that YOU are NOT judging. The fact is that GOD has already laid down the rules. HE has made the judgement: not you. Of course, there are various ways of presenting His judgement, and some of these could be called accusitive or judgemental. This is where your friendship comes in. You know her, you know things about her, but you still love her. You are concerned for her, and showing her God's way is NOT being judgemental, but the way to a peaceful, joyful, new life. Without knowing all the details, I would suggest that you visit her. Tell her how you feel about her. Tell her you care deeply. Tell her that it doesn't matter what she has done or is doing, it doesn't affect the way you feel. Make sure she understands before telling her that you are concerned about her spiritual condition and be equipped to present the Gospel clearly. I will be praying that you have opportunities to talk with her privately, that you will be undisturbed, that she will be responsive, that you will be given wisdom and the right words to speak, and that your friendship will be the means used to bring her into a real relationship with a loving heavenly Father through the Lord Jesus Christ. I know God will continue to bless you and use you to bless others.