feelin down---hlp!

@falcon20 (148)
India
January 9, 2007 2:59am CST
hi i'm a 20yr old guy.i really loved dis gal a lot...so things went well in d beginin but tho she spent a lil time wit me n even made out she kpt sayin dat she hasnt goten ovr hr ex.so wen her ex came back she left me...coz of dis i stopd tlkin to her.bt nw i feel like getin bak wit her dho i'm not sure if she is single....but den again shld i??...shld i make d compromise!or shld she b d 1 doin so?pls help.give ur advise on wat i shld do.pls hlp.
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21 responses
• India
10 Jan 07
Hi dont compromise with her. U are a guy and dont let down ur pride..try to get such a gal who really loves u very much..u vl get such a gal definitely..and if u want that gal only then act infront of her like engaging with other gal..she vl defntly come back into ur life..
• South Africa
10 Jan 07
If she is single and you get back together, how long will it last. Until she decides she wants her ex back again. You should be nobodys second choice.
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
10 Jan 07
Hi, well it is better to try than to give up completedly especially if the girl is finished with the other man, and you are only young so it is best to try and see nothing can hurt as long as you try to work it out Good Luck.
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@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
10 Jan 07
if she's already single again, you can go and ask her if you and her can still be together one more time. but if so, be sure that she's already over her ex boyfriend so you won't end up having the same problem again. be honest with her. ask her things that you want to clarify if in case she's also interested in getting back with you. it's better to be open with her than end up being hurt again.
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@Darren78 (18)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
It's better to stop seeing her before it gets too late... You were just excited of your feeling right now, but once you get over her, you can move on. You're just being conquered by your emotions, you'll get to know all about this stuff once you really fall in love...
@bonnibp (103)
• United States
10 Jan 07
If you really love her talk to her and see where her head is at. Only then will you know that she want to be with you or not.
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@Jlowe110 (313)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Hey man, just try and do everything better than her old boyfriend did. Then shell feel like your a better man and hopefully forget about her ex. Try and spend as much time with her, and buy her lots of gifts. Ladys love the gifts.
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• Philippines
10 Jan 07
you just have to think if you really love her.. i know you like her but maybe your just infatuated. You know if she really love her ex, then let her be. Dont make a move that would hurt you.
@maryannemax (12172)
• Sweden
10 Jan 07
yep. in a way, you have a point. it's not nice to make a move that it's gonna be you who's gonna be hurt at the end. if she loves her ex, then let her be with her ex. you'll soon find true love anyway. you just need to wait for the right person to come your way.
@falcon20 (148)
• India
11 Jan 07
well wat wld u say if i told u dat her ex is only lookin to sleep wit her...dho i don knw if dey alredy did...she says she hasnt...well wateva it is dat guy dusnt really lov her.....its so evident...but y is she still so crazy abt him?
@falcon20 (148)
• India
11 Jan 07
well wat wld u say if i told u dat her ex is only lookin to sleep wit her...dho i don knw if dey alredy did...she says she hasnt...well wateva it is dat guy dusnt really lov her.....its so evident...but y is she still so crazy abt him?
• United States
10 Jan 07
I was in a situation very similar to yours. My boyfriend left me for one of his ex-girlfriends and then he came back to me and begged me to take him back. Things went fine between us until I found out that he had once again gone back to his ex. This went on in a pattern with him going back and forth between both of us until she told him that she would never be with him again. At this point in time he told me that he loved me and would never leave me. He stayed true to this until he got me pregnant and now he is back with his ex. I am personally glad to be done with him. If you truly feel that you love this girl then you need to talk to her but be careful.
@falcon20 (148)
• India
11 Jan 07
firstly i'm sory for wat u had to go thru.but don u tink u shld hav taken d wen he was switchin btwn u n his ex.u knw dey say once its a mistake,twice can b forgiven, thrice get the hel outta here....n u knw i'm tryin to sav my ex from d same situation coz dat guy don lov her...he only wans to sleep wit her from wat i hav herd!
@jesi06 (279)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I am sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time, but don't let it get you down. From what I have heard it honestly sounds like your ex does not respect you or the love you have for her. She may be confused, but once you fall into this "web" it is very hard to get out. Know in your heart that there is a woman out there that will love you just as you love her. Do not ever settle for someone who spends time with you simply because you are there. I would let her be, as they say...if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be,if not they were never yours to begin with. (OK maybe that isn't EXACTLY how it goes, but I hope you understand) I am sorry to say this, but it sounds alot like your ex may have used you to "pass time". I would not get back with her so quickly, if she wants you back, make her prove herself to you first. Don't allow your heart to be broken by her hands. Whatever you decide good luck!
@falcon20 (148)
• India
11 Jan 07
ur rite i felt dat myself.bt d urge to get back is really strong...wat do i do?......i tried lookin arnd to start a new relation to get my mind of her but neither is dat happenin.....wat do i do?
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
sorry to hear that. Its very sad but i would like to ask you. Does this gal loves you?or perhaps that time she is just looking for companion and you just misenterpret it. as for now you want her back but your not sure she is available then the solution is to know her status and of course her true feelings for you. If i were in your shoe, in the situation you said i should not get back since i know the fact she still inlove with her bf and i will move on. Anyways if your really meant for each other then the fate will bring back you together.
@falcon20 (148)
• India
11 Jan 07
hey thnx for ur advise.well she did say once or twice dat she thinks she is fallin in lot with me.......but if she was goin get back wit her ex any way den y mak out wit me n tel me dat she ws never goin get back wit her ex!
@ashishsab (498)
• Canada
9 Jan 07
Dude I think that gal never loved you and was just sharing sometime and feelings with you. She actually love her ex. very much and the moment she got him back she went with him. IF she would have truely loved you frolmw within of her heart she would have never left you alone. Always remember Love is giving without expecting something in return. If you are expecting something in return then its not Love. By the way did she knew that you love her? Did she ever said herself she loves you? If you look for answers of these two questions you will come to know that she loved you or not. If she doesnt loved you but she found her love and if you really love her then your happiness should be in her happiness. Let her live her life with her love. Also I will suggest if you really love her then tell her irrespective of that she love someone else or not. Atleast she will come to know and you will be having one satisfaciton in the back of you mind that you atually proposed the girl you really loved. I am sure if you follow the mantra I gave in this discussion you will never regret and not feel lonely. I am sure you will find a real love soon.
@falcon20 (148)
• India
11 Jan 07
firstly thnx for d encouragement...well i did tell her dat i loved her a lot n expressed them to d fullest.but don u think it was wrong on her part to call me time n again n to make out with me.n wat wld u say if i told u i find her walkin arnd with every other guy i knw?
@amanda84 (263)
• Malaysia
10 Jan 07
the first things u should ask urself is that - does she loves u i mean even u together with her but she dun loves u..so what is the point of being in a relationship. its kinda hurts. Anyway, i being in this situation b4. my ex do not love me but i really love him. but things get worse cos its onli im the onli one who loves him.
• Pakistan
10 Jan 07
Sigh ... I know how you feel but in my case the relationship went on for a year and a half. Her ex was her cousin and a big flirt, they had a row and then they broke up. I was friends with her and then she was the one who proposed me! But she did say that I have replaced you in my heart instead of that jerk. But when the "flirt" got caught and was confronted by all the girls he was in a relationship with ... he came running back to my gf and well he proposed her and apologized for being an idiot and guess what apology accepted and I'm out of the picture. though she did state that we could be friends but I outright rejected that idea. its easy to start a relationship with friendship and move on to love but its not easy to love someone for an year and a half and then move back to be friends ... Well think about it she left you for her ex and what IF the history is repeated. I'm not saying its going to be easy forgetting her ... I was a wreck. But I have recovered over time and yes painfull memories still flood back to me but I think " Wherever she is, I hope she is happy and doing well" I'm 20 as well:)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
You're sti;l young dude, i i think you need something else to divert your time. Think about your career and future first. and besides there's still a lot of girls out there. You'll get over her soon, think wisely. Do something productive. Falling in love too much will kill you anddnt be one of them,
@usman400 (1588)
• Pakistan
10 Jan 07
I think yes you should, because look what she did with his ex, when he came back, she again was with him, similarly u can also come back to her, after all u r now the latest ex for her !!!
• United States
10 Jan 07
well this girl told you that she was not over her ex.its not like you did not know.so it really wasnt a suprise for her to go back to her ex.I would not get involved with someone who cannot get over their ex because that is what i call a relationship on the rebound which basically is someone who got hurt and just jumps into a relationship with someone else.I would just move on until she can get over her ex because her ex will be on her mind until she gets over him.but if you want you could stay friends with her.I know you love this gal but in a situation that she is not over a ex someone which is you is bound to get hurt.im not trying to upset you but ive been in a relationship like the one you had and i got hurt and now i think about it and it was really not worth the pain i had to go threw you can find someone who will love you and only you im sure you have alot of love to offer the right girl.
• United States
10 Jan 07
If I've learned ANYTHING from dating, the one thing I have learned, is to never pursue someone who is not over their ex. When you fall for someone like that, you are only inviting yourself to get hurt. No matter what you do, I promise, you will NEVER live up to the standards they have built up (because of their EX).
@atul_asv (523)
• India
10 Jan 07
This is not good. You have to examine yourself that you really love her & if the answer is yes then go ahead & try at your level best. If the she is your destiny, you will get her.
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
sorry.. i cant help