How long do you have to know someone before getting married?
By pearlypearl
@pearlypearl (95)
Indonesia
4 responses
@fervor (8)
• India
10 Jan 07
There is no time limit as such u require to know each other... Sometimes people dosen't understand each other even after living years with each other.
TO get married one should be concerned abt only one thing... whether ur partner is flexible in his/her attitude or not, becoz living together envolves give and take... u have to adjust a lot... whether he/she is ready to change himself/herself is what matters....
Now how much time u need to know this abt ur partner is sololy depends on u.
In our Country India, still more than 80% of marriages are arrange marriages, where boy and girl hardly get few hrs to know each other, everything is arrranged by there parents... even then more than 90% of those marriages are successfull.... as compared to less than 50% successful marraiges in states, where one spends years with each other before getting married.
@pearlypearl (95)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
Well, i just don't believe in an arrange marriage. Or it's a mere fact that i'm selfish, I won't sacrifice much. It took quite a long time for me to adjust with other people. I guess how long it take is depend on how much quality time you two spent together. Getting to know someone takes time, and for me marriage is something you can only do once in your life. But it probably just because i haven't experience what they called the "Zinggg...". The feeling you get when you found your true love. Or is the zinggg really exist?
@melody1011 (1663)
• India
10 Jan 07
I guess its more of a personal choice rather than a thumb rule that every one should follow. I wanted to know my future husband for at least 7 years before i married him and I guess it came true for me as I will be getting married to my BF at the end of this year and I have been going out with him for the last 7 years. I think like this as I have seen many marriages break up cuase the couple never really knew each other so thats why I wanted to wait. But I dont regret my decision one bit
@domenyag (1273)
• Philippines
10 Jan 07
atleast 2 years. my husband and had been friends since childhood. we became friends for atleast 14 years that was during elementary and high school. we were boyfriends and girlfriends for 2 years and we are now married for 2 years also
@blogyourself (1577)
• United States
10 Jan 07
My husband and I went on our first date on January 10th, 2003 and we were married on January 10th 2004. Exactly one year later. Tomorrow is our 3 year wedding anniversary and our 4 year anniversary of being together. Before that first date we had only talked a couple of times. I know people thought we were crazy, but we knew we were in love and that we were meant to be together. I don't think this is right for everyone though. Some people need more time.
