Is it right to stay married just for the sake that you are married?
By delaney36
@delaney36 (817)
Philippines
January 11, 2007 1:41am CST
Marriage is no bed of roses. Yes, one dream i have in my life is to get settled and have my own family. I finally got that. Got married and have a son. But all things are not what i thought it would be. Things are started to get hard. It seems like it's impossible t live with each other. Not a day that we wont argue even n small things only. Sometimes i don't talk anymore to avoid any arguement but it doesn't stop there. Whats keeping me in the relationship is just the thought that i am married to him. Is it right to stay on for just that reason?
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6 responses
@IMkindofaBIGdeal (58)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I think that if there are children involved then it's very imortant to give it all you have. I think as long as you can keep your relationship somewhat happy and there isn't so much tension that it's affecting your child then you should stick with it. A lot of people would dissagree saying that if you arn't happy , leave. But I feel that once a child id brought into the world it is their happiness that you live for. Just my opinion
@delaney36 (817)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
that is my main problem coz it's affecting our son already.
@delaney36 (817)
• Philippines
12 Jan 07
you are right about that. Before i thought of marriage as something that i have to keep forever in good times and bad. But right now i feel its not right anymore specially if it affects our son's future.
@sanell (2112)
• United States
12 Jan 07
no but there is obviously some issues that need to be laid out on the table between the two of you that need to be resolved, I know that having a baby can sometimes be a bit of an adjustment between a husband and a wife...SERIOUSLY, one, lack of sleep, and two husband having a little resentment feeling left out of the bonding between mom and child...yes it can happen and it happens often,
I would just try to clear the air with eachother, before starting to think about leaving the other...that is where I would work on first...you will get through this
@koerporation (367)
• Indonesia
11 Jan 07
well, i think you should remember what's your (both of you) goal when you two got married? when you were not married before, i think you also find problem but you must have found a solution for that. if you can do that before, why you can do it now?
of course, marriage is not a bed of roses, not as easy as fairy tale. but that's not a reason for you to give up your marriage.
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
13 Jan 07
No, it really isn't. One should never stay in a relationship or a marriage just for the sake of being with someone or for the sake of keeping the marriage together. Why spend your life unhappy? You should free yourself from this marriage so that you have the chance to meet someone new and wonderful who will be better for you than you ever dreamed! ^_^
