Standing up is hard to do.
January 11, 2007 4:08pm CST
Ive spoken up to a women who is 4 months pregenate and has yet to see a dr. So offcourse, Im the bad person. I hate being the bad person. People in her trimester already know what the hell there having, but she excuses it as I was to tired to go. Or I dont have Medicare. She doesnt have Medicare because she never went to the dr appt they told her to go to. Ive had a friend miss carry before at 8months. Its hell. im just feeling a little guilty now just because she is mad.
• United States
11 Jan 07
Well, I understand where you are coming from... I knew a girl who refused to go to the doctor while pregnant, then she got a kidney infection, and from there she went to the ER where they gave her medicine. She stopped taking her medicine early and developed yet another kidney infection. To me it just seemed very irresponsible at the time, but it was her life, and I couldn't make her do anything she didn't want too. Then about a month and a half ago I found out I was pregnant, about a month along. Between my busy work schedule, and my husbands, not to mention the Holidays in between, I have yet to be to a doctor. I have an appointment scheduled for next week, but I will be well on my way to 3 months by the time I go to that appointment. Time passed so quickly with how busy we have been, and I think I just got caught up in other things without realizing I had spent so much time without thinking about the baby. Of course I had been taking over the counter prenatal pills and eating healthier, but I think sometimes people just get overwhelmed. Also, I am not sure if you have ever been pregnant, but it is an exhausting experience. Everyone is different. With my first child I was sick once in awhile, but felt fine mostly and had energy. This time around I am like zonked out on the couch most days without doing anything, and I am sick all the time. I am so physically tired my husband can barely get me to go grocery shopping with him without wanting to ride in one of those motorized carts! But, you did the right thing. Just try to approach her differently and let her know you are just trying to help. Offer to take her to an appointment so she doesn't have to drive or tire herself out. Maybe take her to lunch afterwards? If it is that important to you that she go, try to bribe her. I know it isn't fair that she is not going, but maybe there are ways that you can make it more appealing to her. Is this her first child?
• United States
11 Jan 07
Don't feel guilty because you did the right thing. She definately needs to get to the doctor to make sure the baby is Ok and her as well. If she has a low income she can apply for assistance and go to the doctor on Medicaid. If not there are community organizations that she can go to that offer services. Another option is to contact her county's health department. They offer OB/GYN services that should not cost very much. She really needs to get to the doctor because she has already gone to long not being under a doctor's care.