On Abortion-what's your take on this?
@jenvalenzuela (267)
Philippines
January 12, 2007 12:13am CST
I recently learned from my boyfriend that his classmate, this girl, at the time she found out she was pregnant, took Cytotec (a drug taken orally to remove or abort pregnancy. I know this one can't be bought over the counter. I wonder where she got it..) I don't know what happened but she later was brought to the hospital. This girl who did herself abortion is just 17 years old and recently a second year Nursing student. Ironic don't you think that she came up with this saddening decision when she should be more responsible of her own health as eventually she'll be taking care of others' health in the near future? Right now, she's been reflecting signs as if she's regretting what she has done.
What's your take on this? If this girl is your friend, what is the most sound advice that you could give her (assuming she is still on the stage of deciding whether or not to pursue her pregnancy?)and what will you say now that she's realizing what she has just commited?
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@jbones32103 (717)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I'm not proud of it and still live with the pain of having an abortion. I was facing 10 years in prison just for being around the wrong crowd and didn't think I could even have kids since I had tried for 10 years. The best advice I could give is if she still wants to do the abortion, she needs to think about the emotional scare she'll carry for life. I still regret what I've done, but know that it was the right decision at the time. I am still suffering emotionally although I have my first son and three other children now. You will always wonder what would it be like if you hadn't had done it. Remind her, you might get well physically, but maybe not mentally.
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@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I would personally always encourage abortion as a strong option to an unwanted or untimely pregnancy. But it seems what your friend did was without the aide of a doctor's supervision which may be why she got sent to the hospital. She may have panicked and that's what led her to endanger her safety, for fear of what people like you might say. She may not actually feel bad about having the abortion, he may feel bad for having been stupid about it, or she may have been made to feel bad by people she loves and trusts who should be supporting her at this time.
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@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
no matter how modern and how high-tech and how advanced the world could get, the Ten Commandments will always remain the same. Thou Shall Not Kill and that would include killing your unborn baby. there's no argument for this one; it's downright wrong and sinful.
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@ponppy (102)
• Nigeria
12 Jan 07
I will advise her not to terminate the pregnancy and after she attemped to do so and find herself realizing what she had done to herself,i will pray for her to be alive and tell her not to get herself even her friend in abortion for the rest of her life,letting her know that abortion is dangerous to commit and not only that that she engage in murderer.
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@neshia_002001 (37)
• United States
12 Jan 07
If this was my friend I would ask her what the hell was she thinking not only did she put her child in danger but she also put herself in danger. I would also ask her why she didn't want the baby because something would have worked out because things are not always as bad as they seem. I know the feeling of being pregnant and not knowing what to do but she really needs to find a friend she can trust and talk to in case it happens again and she will take better actions than what she did before.
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@bonnielass (484)
• United States
12 Jan 07
An abortion isnt a bad action. Pro choice is a choice so people dont go back to unsafe hanger abortions.
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@jenvalenzuela (267)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
abortion may not be a bad thing to you.... but still, we have to admit, it is a sin. Maybe i talk this way because I have seen quite number of fetus being aborted, and I so pity them. Maybe that is.
@cutekristine (526)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
cytotec is given to patients with ulcer but because of its side effect which can abort fetus, it is given with prescription. i had a friend who is also a nursing student who took this medication and it caused her profused bleeding for three days. after seeking medical help, the baby was really aborted.
i have friends who became pregnant while still in school and its really difficult to be in their place but the best thing was that they all decided to pursue their pregnancy. the best thing that your friend can do is to accept and decide to continue her pregnancy. though people might judge her, it will just past. her conscience is her worst enemy when she does that. afterall when the baby's born, it will surely changed her life and as well the people who love her.
a mistake should not be followed by another mistake.
@jenvalenzuela (267)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
A mistake should never be followed by another mistake. I agree. I commend your friends who pursue with their pregnancies.... they mustered enough courage to face the consequences that their actions brought them.
@kcbabez14 (967)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I would smack her silly! i don't understand how people can do it.. "You made your bed, now lay in it" That's what i say about the whole deal.. There are many other ways to take care of this situation. Plus she's lucky that she's still alive because that pill has killed many of girls who have taken it in the past!
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@micheller (1365)
• United States
12 Jan 07
Well is she feels that she can't raise a child right now then she should consider adoption. You should never have an abortion unless in a case of danger to the mother's health or rape (which honestly I think should consider adoption also). It is wrong to take the life of someone who can not choose whether or not they want to live and has did nothing wrong.
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@jenvalenzuela (267)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
i so agree with what you said. But i think it would be hard for a mother to conceive, take care of the baby for nine months, give birth then give it to someone else for adoption. Yet ofcourse it is better than commiting adoption.
@rosie_123 (6113)
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12 Jan 07
I am a firm believer in a woman's right to choose when it comes to abortion. It is her body and her life, and no one should force her into keeping a baby that she doesn't feel ready to have. Equally, no one should force her to have an abortion if she wants to keep the baby - but it has to be her choice and no one elses. I am sorry that this poor girl found it nevessary tu gu through this herself though - but I guess she was scared of talking to parents/counsellors or even friends in case they were judgemental of her. In many ways I'm sure she will be a better medical professional beause of her experience, because she may be able to empathise better with patients in that situation once she has qualified.
@jenvalenzuela (267)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
i too hope she'll become a good health care provider.... and a better person with this recent experience she had.
@knewelle (127)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
In our country, abortion is illegal and consider as a sin. So I personally not recommend abortion to your friend. She can continue the pregnancy and if she could not take the responsibility for being a mother to the unborn baby, she could have the baby for adoption. Considering the profession she would have, it would not be a good image herself, how can anyone trusted their life to her if she cannot take care of her own life.
@amaine (2027)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
if a am her friend , , well , , i want to blame her , , but i won't , , later on, , she will realize what she has done is wrong , , having aborted her own baby is a big weight for her , , why should we add up to the burden that she is carrying , , i do not tolerate her , , but, , what can i do? , , what's done is done , , as of the moment , , all that i can do is be there for her, , be at her side always and make her realize that she has a friend by her side no matter what , ,
@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
13 Jan 07
well im against abortions so i would try and convince her not to have a abortion and to have the baby then in 9 months after the child is born if she does not want it then their is adoption but do not kill your baby it is wrong.and if she is realizing what she has done urge her to seek professional help because this is going to affect her in a major way especially if she is regretting it.
@faylinn_chaeli (1619)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
I don't like the idea of abortion. It is illegal here in our country right? Not only you are committing a mortal sin, you are also placing your life on the line. Besides the baby has nothing to do with it, that's an act of being irresponsible for the actions that you have done.
If I have a friend like that I would advice her to continue with the pregnancy. Parents do get angry at first but in the long run they will get to accept the baby.
@shywolf (4514)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I am really sorry for what happened :/ It sounds like your classmate felt that she had no other option. Yes, I do think that it is ironic that a possible future nurse would be neglectful of her own health and safety. But it is all just in human nature, I suppose. We all make mistakes.
Personally, I think that there are already so many people in the world that we are becoming overcrowded and overpopulated. I don't feel the need for anyone ot bring a child into this world that they know that will not be ready to raise properly. But I am still really sad for what your classmate did and how she felt she had to go about it. :/
@Sawsen (793)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I do not believe in abortion. I think that there are only two cases which I believe are the except in my religion. The first being if the woman was raped and got pregnant. Then I think that is her decision. The second being if the baby poses a life threatening health risk to the mother, than it's the mother's decision if she wants to terminte her baby. And I honestly believe that God knows what he's doing.
@datiger (102)
• Estonia
13 Jan 07
I'm not against it. If you have to, you have to. But it can harm your health and make you sterile.
I recommend using the rubber next time.
And if you did a mistake then please go to the doctor. Don't try to do anything yourself.
