Have you ever????

i'm not ashamed of anything. the reason i am hiding him is my family dont approve of my life. i was raised in a church and living together unmarried is a sin in their eyes and that is the first thing. the second thing is he is quit a few years older than me and they think that he only wants me for s*x and he's just using me. that's not true at all. we've been together for a year and nearly 1/2. if that's all he wanted i'm sure he couldve found it somewhere else. i'm proud to be with him and i love him very much i'm just scared that my family will think i'm no good. i am pretty rebelious in their eyes starting with i have 3 piercings and am going to get more and i also want a few tattoos and i am living and having s*x with my boyfriend. to tell you the truth we probably won't be married for a long time so i guess they'll have to live with it. i was just so tired of them telling me you're living wrong and you're doing wrong. and they tell me i dont approve of how you're living and all that.. thank you for responding. you've opened my mind to a few things with your response.

i'm not ashamed of anything. the reason i am hiding him is my family dont approve of my life. i was raised in a church and living together unmarried is a sin in their eyes and that is the first thing. the second thing is he is quit a few years older than me and they think that he only wants me for s*x and he's just using me. that's not true at all. we've been together for a year and nearly 1/2. if that's all he wanted i'm sure he couldve found it somewhere else. i'm proud to be with him and i love him very much i'm just scared that my family will think i'm no good. i am pretty rebelious in their eyes starting with i have 3 piercings and am going to get more and i also want a few tattoos and i am living and having s*x with my boyfriend. to tell you the truth we probably won't be married for a long time so i guess they'll have to live with it. i was just so tired of them telling me you're living wrong and you're doing wrong. and they tell me i dont approve of how you're living and all that.. thank you for responding. you've opened my mind to a few things with your response.

i always try to be honest and not lie. but this hurt me and i didnt know how else to deal with it. sometimes parents dont want to know everything but sometimes they have to. it's hard to hide things like this from them. thank you for responding sunshinecup :)

yea my parents love me. they will just have to accept him too. i thank you for responding to my discussion and for sharing your views.

it's the hardest thing i've ever done. since we live in another city it's a little easier to hide, but when my family calls me on the phone it's really hard. you may have to cough or sneeze or something. i hope my parents will begin to get along with him so we can be blissfully happy. thanks for responding.

my parents are really strict too. wow. you had a lot more of a tough situation than me. with your parents and the navy. thanks for sharing your experience. thanks for responding.

long distance relationships don't seem to work out so well these days. thanks for responding

my special someone was also muslim and i am christian. i guess that's good that he lives in another country and your family lives a bit farther away. that sounds like a bad situation since your grandma provides for you. i hope she will not find out. good luck. thanks for responding

believe me it's really not anymore. free is the last thing it is. they've taken away a lot of our rights and are pushing to take away more. the some US residents have morales and religious views. which my family has. no he's not 100% bad. he has some good traits and a few bad ones but so does everyone else. we've been together nearly 2 years.

that's good that it worked out and you got married. when you live with your parents you have to go by there rules or at least compromise with them. i had to do that for the first few months. thanks for responding

yea your sister would be taking a big risk. yea kids are smart and they figure things out pretty quickly. see my grandma didn't know he moved back in with me. he was living somewhere else for 2 weeks in september last year and i didn't tell her he moved in until this year. i told her after i started this discussion. they're kind of happy we worked things out but things that we've been through and other things they know is why they don't think it's a good idea. thanks for responding

yeah your situation is harder since they didnt know at all. that would be so hard to not even go out with him in fear that someone would see you. my boyfriend and i are also from different cultures and backgrounds. i was raised a baptist christian. i went to church my whole life. since he is 25 years older than me is hard for them to think about. he is from albanian and was raised a muslim. which that has no conflicts between us. i respect his religion and he respects mine. i hope things get better for you and i wish that your family wouldn't try to tear you apart. good luck and thank you for sharing your story.

thank you very much!i also wish you good luck with your bf. They say as long as you love each other, you will surpass any problem.. really hope it goes well for us cause it's really a very complicated one for us..

that's a shame that your family was no where to be found when you needed them the most. it's also sad they didn't even let you attend church because you weren't married and pregnant at 16. i know a lady that has a few kids and she is a preachers daughter. her first child she was unmarried until a few months before the baby was born. her family still loved her and were there for her. that's sad that they weren't there when you were in a horrible abusive relationship. no they're not very christian to have abandoned you. people are so sickening these days. thanks for responding and you have all my support.

my family didn't approve and dont approve of mine either. it gets complicated when someone is really sick. it's good that you guys got married and had a child. sorry to hear that your dad passed before your wedding. thanks for responding

that's good that you've never hid anyone. i just don't want my family to look down on me since they are all pretty religious. they do have to let me make my own choices and yes i've made bad choices but that's what you learn from. i know they are just trying to look out for me and i do put some of their input into my life. thank you for responding

it wasnt a pleasant situation for me either. they still don't want him around or anything. mainly because of his age. thanks for responding

that's good that you never hid a boyfriend from your family. it's much easier if they know. my parents are also very judgemental. they aren't really controlling because they know they can't control me. my grandma and mom doesnt approve because of our age difference either. hey it's your life and your boyfriends father is the one losing out. he's missing his son's life and possibly grandkids if that is to come. thanks for responding

i think they have now realized that i will make my own choices and my own mistakes. yeah i may split with him someday but i know they will be there for me. it's a bit less stressful but they still put some pressure on me for this. thanks for responding

it's one thing to hide a relationship but it's another by getting married without them knowing it. that's good they accepted you guys after your church wedding. thanks for responding

i'm really happy with him but i was hiding him because he is much older than me and my family doesn't approve. my boyfriend is about the same age as my mom as well. i usually don't care what others think but i didn't want my family to cause any problems. i did tell them and they don't like it but it's not as bad as i thought it would be. thanks for responding.

i wish you luck with your boyfriend and hope you can spend time with him. thanks for responding