Romantic ways to propose to your girlfriend.

Engagement Help - The time has come for me to ask my girlfriend to marry me.  It has been four years already and everyone is asking the age old question. "When are you going to ask her?"  "What is taking you so long".  You arent getting any younger?  You know how it is.  Im just looking for romantic ways to pop the question when there is no way of it being a surprise,because the topic is brought up every day.  Thanks.
United States
January 12, 2007 11:51am CST
I am looking for everyones opinion. I consider myself to be a pretty romantic guy. I am not the best at it though but im ok. I have been dating my girlfriend for four years now and want to ask her to marry me. Her family is constantly asking when, and so is she. Nomatter when i ask her it wont be a surprise, because it is brought up almost everyday. What can i do to make this proposal a surprise. All help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks Everyone.
8 people like this
59 responses
@zal3x89 (280)
• Romania
12 Jan 07
Certainly, one of the first essential tasks of any groom-to-be is to determine a way to propose to his beloved. There are certainly any number of exciting, memorable ways to perform a proposal. Here are some of the most elegant, romantic methods to get your girl to say "yes": Recreate your first date. This will bring back a flood of fond memories and will put her in the right mood for your proposal. Chances are she’ll also appreciate your thoughtfulness in trying to recreate that special experience. Plan a surprise picnic. Consider taking your beloved to the woods or to a Southern California beach for a romantic picnic. At the picnic site, you might consider spelling out the words "Marry me" with stones or seashells. Bring out the bubbly. During dinner, serve your girlfriend a glass of champagne with the engagement ring in the bottom of the glass. You’re then in a perfect position to toast your future together. It’s hard for a girl to pass up a ring when it comes in such elegant packaging. (One fun and elegant location to have the bubbly served is at an upscale Las Vegas hotel. The lights of the strip at night coupled with the glamour, fun and upscale service that can be found in Vegas, might just make the perfect backdrop.) Pop the question in a cookie. Consider dining together at your favorite Chinese restaurant. Have the waiter serve her a fortune cookie with "Will you marry me?" hidden inside. It’s the type of dessert she’ll never forget. The Christmas tree proposal. At Christmas, invite her over to your place to view your Christmas tree. Make sure that the tree is lighted, but has only a single decoration—an engagement ring. In all likelihood, her heart will melt once she sees her ring adorning your yuletide tree. Spell out your proposal with style. Get her a "just because" gift. Purchase an elegant charm bracelet. Have the charms on it be letters that spell out your special request "M-A-R-R-Y M-E". Place the gift at her place setting during a special dinner. Of course, there are numerous other ways you can propose—on board a plane, on an island, on a mountaintop, at the top of the Empire State Building, in the back of an SUV limousine in Las Vegas. How you ultimately propose will depend on a number of factors: your history together, your personal style, and her particular preferences. The most important thing is that the proposal comes from the heart. If it is truly sincere, chances are your intended will be totally captivated. In the end, it’s not the proposal itself, but the groom, that really matters.
4 people like this
• United States
12 Jan 07
Those are all great suggestions. And seem so easy to do. I guess I am just to worried about exactly how I want to do it without her knowing. She always seems to figure things out and it is very hard to surprise her. Im sure one of those suggestions will work, and will surprise her. Thanks for the reply. I will let you know the outcome and how it was done when it is done. Thanks Again
1 person likes this
• United States
12 Jan 07
So, this sounds a lot like myself... I asked, my parents asked... and well it would have never been a surprise. So my boyfriend, now my husband... did it this way. It was valentines day... he woke me up and said he was sick and was not going to work. I felt bad... and well, I went off to work myself. Well little did I know he was out the door the minute i was looking for the perfect ring to buy me. With the help and support of my brother they found the one... and he said he was a nervous wreck all day! I kind of had the idea that he was going to purpose later in the summer... cause that's what he always told me. But that morning he said he woke up and saw me asleep beside him... and he just decided right then and there he was going to do it that day. So he pretty much decided he was going to purpose, he went and picked it out and bought it and the pirposed all in the same day! Kinda crazy! It was so last minute the ring didn't even fit me and i had to wear it about my knuckle for almost 2 weeks before I could part with it!
3 people like this
• United States
13 Jan 07
sorry it took me so long to respond but thank you for the advice I have alot of reading to go through but appreciate your response. That sounded like a truly romantic way of asking you to marry your boyfriend. Thanks again and best of luck to you!
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
12 Jan 07
You could get 2 or 3 small romantic gifts in addition to the engagement ring (if there is no engagement ring, provide something with 'will you marry me?' on it...a rolled up scribe anything!). Leave her a list numbered 1-3...in the form of a scavenger hunt! Number one: say a small bouquet of flowers....is left somewhere and you give her clues to follow to find it! The clues for Number 2: say a box of candy or something...are left with the flowers...and she follows those to find the candy. Keep this pattern up with as many items as you deem fit...with the final item being the proposal! Of course, if the final item is a ring...it should be left in a place that is safe from theft! The places for the items should be far apart..not all in the same building! Good luck!
2 people like this
• United States
12 Jan 07
wow. That really sounds great. Fun and romantic. It will take some planning out, but it will be worth it at the end. I hope she says yes lol. Thank you for your reply you are very creative. I will definately put your advice to good use. Thanks Again
1 person likes this
@missytia (387)
• Australia
12 Jan 07
If you like to have a bit of a joke with each other this is how you could do it. She's expecting you to do it any time now. Take her out somewhere real special, go for a romantic walk etc.... she'll be thinking all night that you are going to propose. The once you are finished out and about, go back home and spend the night together. She'll still be expecting a proposal but will start getting a little disappointed by now. She may even be annoyed with you. Don't worry, it should all work out in the end. Then, in the morning, first thing, have a nice breakfast in bed with a bunch of flowers and propose then. She should be sooooo suprised. Once she has said yes, explain to her the reason you went about it that way is because she was expecting it and you still wanted it to be a suprise. Your proposal will be both a memorable and funny story to tell in later years. ****NB: I wouldn't suggest trying this if you both do not have a sense of humour. Good luck and I hope she says yes.
• United States
13 Jan 07
As you can see I have received a lot of good advice. I have to admit though yours is right up there with one of the best I would have never thought of just slipping it on her finger when she is sleeping. That sounds like a great Idea, I just hope she doesnt wake up if I try to do that. I appreciate your comment and thank you.
• United States
12 Jan 07
Proposing is a huge deal! I have often pondered the same question and I am sure others have as well. I too have been dating my girlfriend for four years. We were High School sweathearts and now go to the same college. Luckily, I do not have the same problem as you, since she and I have decided that marriage will have to wait until we both graduate from undergrad and are fairly settled into our lives. But my advice to you is to slip the ring on when she is sleeping. I agree with the previous poster that a nice night out is a must! You can even rent a nice but not necesarily expensive hotel room for the night. If she has any other rings on her hands remove them and place the engagement ring on her hand, preferably on the right finger. Do not mention anything about the ring or marriage until she notices!!! She will be EXTREMELY surprised, when she discovers the ring on her finger. If you feel she may need a clue place her other rings close to the bed so she notices they are off. The rest is up to you. You can wake up earlier than her and make breakfast or you can pretend like you are sleeping until she notices. Either way have fun and good luck!
2 people like this
• China
12 Jan 07
Bring 1000 roses to her and said, 'would you please marry me, I will love you in my whole life', then kiss her. After finish your long kiss, asked again"would you?" if she nodded, then shout to the around, "I am the happiest man in the world, i am going to marry (your gf's name)".
• United States
13 Jan 07
That sounds like a fun way to do it. Im just afraid that by me screaming out to the world she will get very embarrased. I thank you for your comment and will take into serious concideration. Thanks Again!
• Canada
12 Jan 07
This one isn't as great as the ones i read... But bring her to where you both first met. Make a picture book collection of great times together and then write under each moment give it to her once you guys get comfortable. At the back of the book leave a note 'Will you marry me' When she looks at you, show her the engagement ring...
2 people like this
• United States
13 Jan 07
Hey! Give yourself some credit. That is a great idea and very romantic. It ranks right up there with the top suggestions. I appreciate your comments and will seriously look into that. Thanks Again!
• United States
13 Jan 07
My ex-boyfriend had this idea of his own of how he wanted to propose to me, back when he said we were going to get married, he was never going to leave me (loser. lol), etc...he said he would have gone to the manager of a restaurant, and ask to redo their menu...and then go to that restaurant...then when she opens the top of the menu, it'll say "Will you Marry Me?" and when she looks up you'll have the ring out and everything.
1 person likes this
• United States
13 Jan 07
That wasnt a bad idea. Romantic. I will think seriously about that. I am taking everyones suggestions seriously and greatly appreciate your comment. Thanks Again
• India
13 Jan 07
first u should propos to ur girl friend and after that tell everything to her parants. if u have already propose her teh first tell me she accept ur proposal or not. if she love u and agree to merry with u then talk to ur parents and they will talk her perents. i think its write way.
@siluka (303)
• Romania
12 Jan 07
depends how much you love her ;)
1 person likes this
• United States
12 Jan 07
Thank You for your advice.
1 person likes this
@adnanmd2 (830)
13 Jan 07
Ask someone who is closer to you.. he will tell you
1 person likes this
@Mecboy (1050)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Well, just go up and ask her to a for a walk, ask to marry when you are ready. You know, its up on how you feel. Look for a date, and have some fun with her. Time will tell.possibly.
1 person likes this
• United States
13 Jan 07
Thank You
• Ireland
13 Jan 07
Hi, my brother had hidden a ring in a kinder surprise. It took him a lot of them to be ables to put it back right together but the effect was there. Hope she likes chocolate. Good luck!
1 person likes this
• India
13 Jan 07
To make it a surprise just "drope a nuke on her head" and that will be a great surprise,juat tell her that ur not intrested in her.This will help you understand how much she loves you and amidst of this small pain suddenly disclose the truth.
1 person likes this
• India
13 Jan 07
dont directly start with proposing because u may loose then firt start with some snsible topics then start talking about relationships then talk about u suiting with her and then reach upon the final thing and propose the girl this is the best way out..
1 person likes this
@anandsaab (590)
• India
13 Jan 07
Dont propose any girls.. let them propose u..hehe
1 person likes this
@rap_craig (154)
• India
13 Jan 07
just give her a big hug....and say whatever you want to without a break.....
1 person likes this
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
13 Jan 07
I am guessing that it takes abit of the excitement away when she is expecting it. i would want to chock her completely and give her something she would never forget... but what.. It also comes down to how much money you are willing to spend... maybe take here away somewhere or take her outf. Get the resturantpeople involved and just plant the ring somewhere (Maybe in a fortune cookie) or somewhere else. This is a very hard question and I hope u return to tell us how and when you did it =)
1 person likes this
@myfriendz (1226)
• India
13 Jan 07
i have an intresting way to propose ur girl friend ask her to stand on her terrace on her birthday at night 12:00 exactly and u propose her by leaving 100 ballons from the ground it thinkits very filmi but intresting isnt it
1 person likes this
• India
13 Jan 07
i give u the best way to make this proposal a surprise.you do one thing try to avoid her so that she should feel that u want to get rid of her.then stop talking to her & meeting her & after a few days propose her.she will be gasping
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
Just follow the way your heart tells you to do..that would be the most romantic proposal for me..
1 person likes this