Are you a "people person"?

@Muslimah (811)
United States
January 12, 2007 4:04pm CST
I try to be nice and kind to everyone i meet but i was never a person of being long winded with speach ....you know too much talk.... and i keep to myself alot. So i had someone say to me "your not a people person are you?" and i had to stop and think about that. What is a people person? and is it wrong not to be one?
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@James72 (26832)
• Australia
13 Jan 07
In my professional life I would say that I am definitely a "people person" as I am involved in marketing and sales so have to deal with many different types daily. Personally, I am more protective of my private life and tend not to be so socially outgoing. I don't necessarily describe a "people person" as someone who talks a lot. To me they are more congenial; I guess in that they are able to communicate well with many different types of personalities regardless of their background, profession etc etc
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@timou87 (1643)
• Singapore
13 Jan 07
Actually I think you have made a very important point. Most working people tend to have what I would say, 'two faces'. Nothing negative, but at work we tend to put up one side of us, a more outgoing personality typically so that everyone can get along well, but when it comes to private details of our life, we tend to be firecely protective over own private space.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
yeh that is a good point thank you for stating that.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
12 Jan 07
i am not a people person either. i do go out with friends and talk but not talk at every second when we're together. i talk when i find it necessary to talk. i joke around when in the mood. but they say i am not a people person since i hate parties and i don't go out to meet a lot of whole new people. i like to be alone more sometimes. but that does not mean i am weird. i just find peace in silence and i love being on my own more. and there's nothing wrong with us! we're just different.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
thanks for the comment.
• Melbourne, Florida
12 Jan 07
you don't have to talk alot to be a people person. If you like people, if you are helpful, and generous, and kind. If you give everyone the benefit of the doubt. If you see only the good in people and don't judge them for their actions. All these things are the definition of a people person. You must remember that when someone criticises you for something, they are usually seeing a mirror of themselves. For instance a person who talks about people behind their backs will often criticize others for gossiping. It's the law of reflection.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
hummmm thats something to think about. i'll take that into consideration next time someone has something to say about my character. take care.
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@SetoKun (288)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
I think a "people person" is similar to being sociable/friendly and influential/convincing. If you are sociable and friendly, you dont just sit there and keep quiet. You try to talk and entertain your friends and acquaintances. If you are practicing the art of Public Relations (PR), it is close to being influential and convincing and I think it makes you a people person. A people person do not talk too much, instead they are good in talking.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
15 Jan 07
VERY good point "A people person do not talk too much, instead they are good in talking" I think i might have a best responce. Thanks
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@SetoKun (288)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
I didn't notice that my response was the best response. Thank you. *Appreciated*
• United States
13 Jan 07
I am an extremely shy person and I am a stay at home mom. I tried to join this moms group to make new friends, but I would get too nervous at have small anxiety attacks from meeting new people. I do have a couple of friends, but I just rather be at home alone with my kids. I love to be outside and in the garden. I am not sad and I am quite happy just hanging out at home, but my mom thinks I need more friends.
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@kgwat70 (13398)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Meeting new people can make some people nervous at first because you do not know how they will treat you or say to you. I think joining some clubs or groups would be a great idea to meet people since already you know that there are people with similar interests as you. I should make things a little easier. It is important for all of us to have some friends that we can talk to about anything. We need to have friends as they are like a support group as well as being friends and can help us get through rough and good times.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
i dont have much of a problem meeting new people. i just dont like alot of chit chat. thanks for the comments
• India
13 Jan 07
Power of speach Power of words can change the direction of whole mankind.A good speaker use words as a tool of revolt of mind.This speciality makes them "people person".
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Thanks for the comment
• United States
13 Jan 07
I have to say I am a people person I love the company of people , i like to strike up conversations but in the same token I not real loud about it. I am somewhat shy. But lately i have been a little cautious though because people may see that you are kind and take that as a weakness.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Thanks for the comment. And it is true most people take kindness for weekness. Take care
@vanities (11351)
• Davao, Philippines
13 Jan 07
a people person i think is one who can easily mingle with people without difficulty and and gain some friends in return...not being a people person?? well if you think your ok with not socializing with others coz your shy or not comfortable with others especially strangers then so be it...its what you are,,,live according to your wishes as long as you dont hurt anyone on that process...
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
14 Jan 07
thanks for the comment.
@manong05 (5030)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
I am a people person and I enjoy being with people, I don't talk a lot though but sometimes it can't be helped. I find enjoyment in interacting with different people including children. I also find that I am an ice breaker most of the times. There are some moments though that I feel I'm not in the mood and I don't want to say anything, if ever I do, words are few and carefully chosen.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
14 Jan 07
at times i break the ice at gatherings but not all the time. thanks for the comment.
@lastwish (780)
• India
13 Jan 07
YES!!! i am the people person ii love to talk every time with different people and i suggest u to be a people person u know!! try talking to different people u know u cant achive much if ur cant speak much... if u want something u need to make noise!!!
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
14 Jan 07
but thats the thing i get what i have to get done being how i am now. "in and out" thanks for the comment.
• United States
13 Jan 07
a people person is somebody who likes to talk to and be around other people.and no it is not wrong to be one,i think im the same way.i talk to people but after i get my point across im done.i usually become a listener after that.lol.....
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
14 Jan 07
yeh less talk more listening ...im all for that. thanks for the comment
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
That would be mean you're not an outgoing person,who doesn't loves discussion;not going in the flow of converstaion. It'svery offending to the other part that you dont partictipate in the the group as if you dnt exist. I once that too, but i practice to love conversation with other people and im happy i did it. Im not that boring person to be with anymore.Try it..
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
too much talking isnt good anyway and to train yourself to do it hummmm.... i dont know. thanks for the comment
• United States
13 Jan 07
I'm a people oriented person, and I'm not sure, but I think it may be the same thing. I love to be around people - I love to know who they are and what's going on with them, and I try to help them in any way that I can...at least on most days. Today, I'm sick as a dog and I don't want to be around anyone - except for my boyfriend, and unfortunately, he doesn't want to be around ME *grin*. But generally, I want to be around people - and I don't think it's bad that you don't...nor does it mean that you're not a people person just because you don't talk a lot. It's all chalked up to our personality in the end.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
Thanks for the comment ....hope you feel better soon
• United States
13 Jan 07
I think a people person just means being able to get along with people, and working well with others. I don't go out of my way to make a ton of new friends, I love the friends I have, and I am not a person who likes to go to big parties and mingle, I strictly like those who I have known for awhile and I know are my good close friends. But then when I am at work (I manage a movie theater) I see people on a daily basis, and I am extremely friendly and open and talk to everyone just to see how they are doing and such. I think people can easily talk to me because I am very open minded and not hard to talk too. I will listen to anyone if needed, and I am very honest and sincere in how I speak. I think there are many ways to be considered a people person, but I definitely don't think it has to mean that you enjoy meeting people and being loud and talking to everyone.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
i agree i dont the party thing either i go to gatherings but not often. i dont know i guess i have to remember everyone has an opinion. thanks
@Sawsen (795)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I don't think a people person necessarily is someone that likes to talk a lot. I think it just depends on how you like to socialize with people. Sometimes I like to socialize, and other times, I'm not really in the mood. And I think it also depends on the TYPE of people you socialize with. So don't take it too personality. I don't really think there is such a thing as a "people person" because we all talk to people, but I think it just depends on the type of people we choose to engage with.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
i agree 100% some people i think are social others dont think they are and vic versa. thanks for the comment
@Bee1955 (3887)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I'm a "people person" because I enjoy chatting and meeting all types of people. I work freelance journalism part-time and find you cant be introverted around people, you have to adapt to their moods and situation to get the full story. I have many friends who look me up for a nice conversation and relaxing atmosphere. If that isnt being a people person, what is?
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
As salamu alaikum Bee so you have trained yourself to be a people person?
@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
13 Jan 07
I know how you feel . Ihave no idea how to start a conversation with strangers,I have a friend who can talk to anyone fromout of the blue and never stop for hours. I asked him once how he can do that and heis respone to me was "WHAT TALK" . I had to laugh it just comes natural for him, but not me and I love people.Like to listen to especially the older peole with the tales about their life growong up its very interresting to me. But see I am just listening not talking thats what I enjoy.
@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
yeh i love the wisdom of an older person its nothing like it. thanks for the comment
@dracone (126)
• Philippines
13 Jan 07
i can certainly feel what you feel ryt now.. that also happened to me and just like you, i was not and am still not good at making 'speeches' with others... sometimes, i feel like i'm out of place when people around me are laughing out loud and here i am in the corner, talking to myself and only to me... but don't think badly of yourself just because you're not able to 'talk too much' to others.. maybe that's just you.. hey, everyone is different okay?... don't worry, you're not alone..we are many.. you'll get by just fine.. Goodluck and take care
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
thanks for the comment
@Devinarun (387)
• United States
13 Jan 07
i feel that i am a people's person but i ahve my limits ...i canrt simply go on and on.moreover i should like the person ho i am talking to and i should be comfortable to carry forward that conversation.
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
thanks for the comment
@mzbubblie (3840)
• United States
12 Jan 07
I believe I am a people person. I don't mind speaking or saying hello to anyone. Plus being that I do like to talk alot so I supose that helps too (smile) I've always been able to talk to anyone even the ones that seem to have a chip on their shoulders. I believe a people person is something that naturally happens. Either you are or you aren't. Introvert or Extrovert....
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@Muslimah (811)
• United States
13 Jan 07
good comment take care.