Can your spouse have an affair and be truly forgiven?

No, I would not forgive. I would ask for separation definitely. There is no chance for a second chance. Once trust is broken, its very difficult to regain it, no matter how hard you try.

what about itif shetold you that she was ingaged with any one before meat to you? i do not think its cheating? what u say?

You can try to forgive and forget but it would always be a doubt in the back of your mind that you could never get rid of, or atleast that's how I feel about it. I've been cheated on...several times and usually they are cheating on me with my sister. It's unforgiveable. I've tried to forgive both of them, and I just can't get past it. I had to walk away from both. And I'm much happier now! :-)

it may be because im still too young and inexperienced but i think i would have forgiven my husband if its a one time thing only AND he confesses to me before i got to learn about it from someone else. yes, it may hurt a lot, but i dont think i will be willing to throw everything away just because of his stupid mistake. but of course it still depends upon whether our relationship is strong enough to endure such problems. however, if it wasn't the first time ive been cheated, lied to, or done worst, i would pack all my belongings and leave.

I beleive forgivness is much greater than anything,mistakes are committed all the time , the person who forgives has a better chance of overcoming ,the person who walks away I doubt they could ever heal.Yes it is a long and very hard road to fully forgiving but it's worth trying

Hi WebMann :) I would have to agree with you , i dont think i could ever forgive my partener if he had an affair.It would take all of the trust out of the relationship. I also feel that by having an affair is showing me "True Feelings" because i believe you cant say you love someone if you are prepared to do something like that to them.

If I put my time, trust heart, and my all into a man and he cheats on me, there is no way in hell I am forgiving him..I don't care what he says, does, or buys, he cannot make up for what he did..he has respected me, and our relationship...

I would never forgive them. The whole point of marriage is to be monogamous! And its deceitful to have an affair, you never know if this other person could have diseases and you could unwillingly get it because of an unfaithful partner! I'd never trust them again and it would be the end of the relationship

well i do not think so i will be able to forgive her if she did some thing like that..i agree with you that trust is the base of every relationship and one's it is broekn the whole things crumbles...it will really be a painfull experience and i really hope i do not have to go through it at all