Invasion of privacy

@manong05 (5029)
Philippines
January 14, 2007 7:33pm CST
when someone reads the message on your cellphone first before telling you that you have a message, will you get mad? Do you consider this an invasion to your privacy?
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14 responses
• Philippines
27 Feb 07
Yes. I personally think that it is invasion of one's property and I'd be hurt because he/she doesn't respect my privacy. I'd be greatly offended. My husband used to do that, although he has right but still I think it is just not proper.
@essilem (286)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Yes, that would really peeve me if my messages are read by another person especially wothout my knowledge. This are private messages and it should remain private. Proper Etiquette is violated here if someone does that to you.
@Bizziebod (3526)
17 Feb 07
Oh I don't mind too much, I've not got anything to hide so why should I get mad, although that would only apply to family! If it was just an acquaintance or a college then I wouldn't be very happy at all!
@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
It all depends upon who it is that had done this. I know that my other half usually will ask me if he could do something such as this.. And he wouldn't allow himself to just do this without my consent. I believe this is the only one who I would allow to do this, but even then.. In the past he would ask me before hand instead of just going ahead & checking my messages himself. I think it all stems from how he respects me & will not do something to make me feel uncomfortable. On the other hand.. If let's say I was out with a friend.. Or a friend or relative was over at my house & they then had done this without my permission. I think I would honestly feel like they had invaded my privacy. To me if someone doesn't have your permission to do something when it comes to your own personal belongings.. That is someone invading your privacy & it is so very wrong for someone to do this to another in my opinion.. No matter how close the person may be to you. I have had instances where a relative within my family would do things such as this. Maybe not with my cell phone but instead pick up a piece of mail without my permission.. And then go ahead & decide to read it without me giving them permission.. I reacted very angry & I feel I had every reason to do so.. They then began to make up excuses such as.. "Well you just left it laying on the table or on the seat in the car.. So I thought you we're giving me permission to go ahead & read what was laying there.." I was absolutely furious when this had happened. Also that someone would have the audacity to try to use an excuse such as this one to try to excuse there behavior.. To me when someone doesn't have your permission they should know better to just leave things alone.. Especially when it comes to your own personal belongings.. I believe on the other hand though that.. If you are willing to share with the person what was said on your cell phone then that is another story.. But I believe that if someone truly cares about you.. Whether that be a friend or relative or whomever you love that they would respect that you wouldn't want to be willing to share with them the message that may have been sent to you. I believe any time a person goes through your belongings or tries to push you to share with them information that you are unwilling to share.. That this is a sign of an invasion of ones privacy.. I know that I would never allow myself to stoop this low to just go ahead & read the persons messages on there cell phone before even telling them in advance.. No matter how tempting it may be at the time.. I believe that everyone needs to have some form of privacy within there lives.. And when it is invaded by someone whom they care for.. It actually can lead to a person losing that friendship or relationship with the other.. I know personally that I would never want to do this.. As I treasure all the people whom I have relationships with who are apart of my life.. In conclusion.. To me this is indeed an invasion of privacy. If I came across anyone doing this to me I know longer would trust them. Nor would I know longer hold them in highest regards. I believe it's important to respect one's privacy in life.. As I know I would want the same done to me in return! . . Thanks for allowing me to share! xx
• United Arab Emirates
16 Jan 07
Though it hasn't happened to me yet coz i always keep my mobile phone with me, it is a definitely an invasion to my privacy if ever. Regardless if the message there is confidential/ personal in nature or not, i think another person has no right to meddle with it coz it's a personal thing. In my opinion, SMS are a form of communication just like letters or emails which anybody must not open if it is not rightfully for them.
@katyzzz (2902)
• Australia
16 Jan 07
I do consider it an invasion of privacy
@spreadout (127)
• Nigeria
16 Jan 07
It is an invasion of my privacy for someone to read my text messages first before telling me
@creationhub (3068)
• Malaysia
16 Jan 07
Although I do not like others reading my text messages before I do, I have one exception. I'd allow my wife at anytime to do so. Not because I am lazy but rather as a matter of trust. If you value your relationship and really do not have any kind of hanky panky, there is nothing wrong to let your spouse read them first. This of course do not apply to any other third party including our children.
@ashjoe76 (1434)
• India
15 Jan 07
Definitely! It irritates me the most. I consider it a highly offensive behaviour, and couldn't simply stand it, even if the message happens to be a trivial harmless one. I do not like people invading my privacy.
• Sri Lanka
15 Jan 07
This type of situation should never have taken place. A mobile is your private property, and is not something that others should mess around with. Seeing your messages is like evesdropping, so put an end to this immediately. I keep my cellphone very close to me. And when it rings or I get a message, even if it is somewhere else in the house, my wife or son will bring it to me without messing around with it.
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
I really hate also when people mess with my things without any permissions. It is annoying when they attack your privacy, isn't it?
@Island_Geko (3760)
• Canada
15 Jan 07
oh yes, it is a matter of respect and privac and it should be respected
• United States
15 Jan 07
This is one of my biggest pet peeves! I don't understand why people feel they can just take it upon themselves to read another person's messages first...no matter who they are. I never have anything bad or exciting in my messages, but I still certainly don't want someone else reading it. I definatly think it's rude.
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
definitely! especially if the message is not just a forwarded msg but a personal one. i am more of a private person and i dont like people going through my messages especially without permission.