How will u decide ur life partner? Need help

India
January 15, 2007 1:15am CST
In our family their are always 2 views regarding the marraige 1 of your family that they want 2 select bride/groom of their choice & force their choice upon us & the other is of ours that we will marry only the person whome we like. But in many cases its found that our family members dont like our choice & they normally force their choice on u. So in that case how will u takle this situation. Also if the family members are very suborn about their decision. In that case what u do? Plz suggest.
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9 responses
@rsp9098 (755)
• India
15 Jan 07
ya,i know itz always hard to break our relations with parents and go marry our own choice!but love is a strong feeling and i believe itz the strongest relation! even if parents disagree with ur selection,they ll surely agree later!
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• India
15 Jan 07
I agree with u but my situation is totally jumbled & i think my life is on stake in deciding the life partner.
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@dravid (1050)
• India
15 Jan 07
hai the most impotant thing in ones lifeis deciding upon the life partner ...iy u have chosen the right partner,,,your life will be great but if u have chosen the wrong onw ur life will be hell... See what i fell that have been with some person...and felt comfortable...i fell that could be a real measure of ur life partner...if som1 reallt just takes care of u geneuinly without any purpose...
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• India
15 Jan 07
yaa but what about the family pressure u get. So how can 1 decide where 2 go in such situation.
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@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I was in this situation once and what I did was I married the man that I love and my parents disapprove off. I think you want to go with what your heart wants because it is you and not your parents that will be living with that person. And if you don't love them or at least like them, it is going to be hard to be happy with them. Think of your happiness first and if your parents don't see it the same way as you, give them time. Maybe someday they'll come around.
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• India
16 Jan 07
Deciding the life partner is a big problem for evey one. We can imagin that our life partner should be as we imagined. But as per practice I feel that partner decides for girls and boys at their birth by the god. We all are not in the picture
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@maru_047in (1007)
• India
16 Jan 07
I think so they have to b friendly and must b cooperative in things i do and with good thinking and knoledge so that she has to b brave enough to tackle any kind of problems by her own.
• India
16 Jan 07
My sugg is take her for a date in a public place with lots of pple around, notice her reaction to the pple around, and see how she reacts when u talk to some person u know. and how she gets along.... If the frequencies match and u both like each others behaviour then it sholud be a perfect match. Coz life is effected by the pple around :)
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@Liezel (47)
• Philippines
16 Jan 07
Its really hard situation, just follow what they want to you but in terms to your heart, a girl you want...do not allow them to choose for you because your the one who will acompany her...you know what is wrong and what is right for you...if you allow them to decide for you in the end you will be suffer you and the girl who choose for you will you always fighting..and that not good for both of you right?... If I where you choose you want to LOVE....
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• United Arab Emirates
15 Jan 07
tho my recent sitiation i went thro my suggestion is to go for wht ur parents say its beter to fall in love with ur wife after marriage and not before it as in love the other person demands a lot after marriage and ends up disapointed!so beter go for the parents choice ino in our culture v should do as per parents say and now i have realized that i should of waited insead of falling in love before marriage!so plz go for the girl and believe in love after marriage who wil be with u 4 ever...
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• India
15 Jan 07
I would suggest that you go for what you like and what you think is correct for you. If the girl choosen by your family is not upto your remark than you can always deny and go another choice. And if you have somebody in your mind you can tell your family and go fo it. And afterall it depends on you what you think and how you cope.