I love you!!!
January 15, 2007 11:30am CST
Those three little words means so much but still i think they are used so lightly. Atleast over here. People can date for a week and all of a sudden they LOVE eachother... Is it just me or is it wrong to use the word love that earlie. For me love is something that u feel when u know a person, when u know bad things about him as well as good and still wanna be with him. Love is when u after a long time stil laughs about how he looks when he´s tired, just woke up. or when u still look at him and thinks he´s cute while he is sleeping. Love is when u can not remember how your life was like before you met him and do not wanna find out what it would be like without him.. I get annoyed when people get engaged after a month, just to break up a month later.. People just don´t take love serious anymore=( What do you think?
• United States
18 Jan 07
Marie, you said this so beautifully! This is my definition of love, also. I recently dated a man who, after about 1 month, started to end phone conversations with "I love you". This made me extremely uncomfortable, and I told him so. His reply was that he didn't expect me to say it back, but that he was in love with me. I ended that one VERY quickly. It had "Fatal Attraction" written all over it. This man couldn't possibly have known me well enough to love me in that short length of time. First of all, when you start dating someone you usually try to present your best impressions at all times. In 1 month he never had the "pleasure" of dealing with any of my moods... I also know that I am a complex person- I've been told so my entire life. He was seeing what he wanted to see, and nothing else. Now I'm with someone who I'm getting to know well; we've had a few rough situations to get through, and we're getting to know each other. Most important, we're becoming friends as well as "boyfriend and girlfriend".
18 Jan 07
You are so right, to be friends with the man you are with is soooo important. If u have a friendship as a base u will be able to handle the realtion in a different way. i consider my bf my best friend, as well as the man in my life and I sometimes gets funny looks for this *he he he*
15 Jan 07
I tend to agree with you. I think the younger generation of people and teens tend to use "I love you" as soon as they get in a relationship in high school. For the most part they do this just because they think that is what is supposed to be done. I have been going out with my girlfriend for almost three years now and probably didn't say those three words til at least 4-6 months into he relationship. Now we know our love is true, and I hope we can stay together forever!
15 Jan 07
I have just been with my bf for a year but like you i think it took me about 5-6 months before i said the 3 words. he was ahead of me and I told him that i do not wanna use them before i feel that they are really true.. now i can´t stop saying it *he he*
16 Jan 07
The word Love means differently to different culture, people, upbringing and the list goes on... there are this parental love, then the boy-girl love. You are right that when one say 'I love you" it carries with it a deep meaning that involves the heart thus shouldn't be spoken lightly. I like to believe that its subjective thus there is no right or wrong.
15 Jan 07
I don't go out with someone until I'M able to say I love you. When you are with someome it,s because you love them, not to know them a little bitmore. You can do that when you are a friend. In english it,s ok because you have the I like you and the I love you. In french we use the same word for these two different things, so thats why it come easily.