divorce

I recently split up with my husband. Like you, I had no idea where I stood. I consulted a legal aid lawyer and she drew up the separation papers for me, then I reviewed them and made the changes I wanted. I am lucky in that my ex really didn't argue with most things I wanted. We have joint custody of our 3 children, and so far, it all seems to be working out well. Consult an attorney, you'll feel much better if you do :) Good luck!

Check with your local office of the American Bar Association. Ask for a referral to the local Law Project or Pro Bono Project. They may go by a different name, but they offer free or low cost legal aid for lower income people. Usually they limit their advice to custody and tenant-landlord relations. Another thing you can try is seeing a family law attorney, most offer a free initial consultation. You can then explain your financial situation and see if they will work with you on a payment arrangment. Even if you can't hire the attorney, you will have a better idea of what your rights are. And if you are on civil terms with your soon-to-be ex, maybe you can sit down together and reach some agreements on how the custody will work, how to split your joint property and debts. If you can do this between the two of you, you will save a ton of money on the hourly fees attorneys will charge to negotiate for you. Even if you do reach an agreement on your own, I would still try to find the money to have an attorney look it over to make sure it is legal and that you have a clear understanding of what you are signing. Good luck.

well i will suggest you to talk to your husband and dont divorce.....what will be the effect of it on your daughter...have you thought of it????? so please consider your desicion again!!! best of luck!