have kids, will get burnt

Canada
January 15, 2007 12:22pm CST
I am just wondering as to why people have such a hard time with the fact that I have five kids? What is it to anyone else how many kids I have? They are taken care of, they are doing amazingly well. So why do people feel the need to toss insults when you say how many kids you have? Personally I think you have as many as you can handle. The masses need to sit back and realise that there are some out there who enjoy big families.
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@Stephanie5 (2953)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I have five children also and 4 step-kids. I'm 29 years old. I also have a grand-son by one of my step kids. The question/comment I hate the most is...Don't you know what causes that? And the next one is How many more you gonna have? I totally agree with you. I have lots of people make rude comments about how many we have. They are our children, we take care of them, so leave us alone. I've never had anyone on Mylot make a rude comment or anything about the number of kids I have. Have you? Or just in 'real' life?
• Canada
15 Jan 07
Okay mylot keeps eating my comments OI I am not cutting and pasting, knock it off! :P Anyways its always offline, or on other forums... I don't understand how people like to knock other people for the amount of kids they have, but ok...
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@kaspyv (1011)
• United States
16 Jan 07
i agree that its no one's business but your own as to how many kids you have as long as you are happy and able to take care of them. i only have 3 kids but my daughter has 4 and she gets the comments too. its sad that people have nothing better to do than talk about how many kids a woman has!
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I don't see any reason why someone should limit the number of childrend they have as long as they are able to provide for them. I have no children of my own. But in 2000 I was just about to begin foster care in our states foster-adopt program. Unfortunately I became very ill and am still recovering. But when I am able I will begin again. I think big families are great. I have 3 sisters and 6 brothers....lol, some halfs and steps.
• Canada
15 Jan 07
I think having as many as you want, as long as you can handle them, and love them is fine! :)
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@LadyCroft (706)
• Australia
16 Jan 07
I think as long as the kids are thriving (which they obviously are) and you yourself are staying healthy and happy, why the hell would anyone have the right to tell you your nuts. I personally dont think I could handle more than 3 (I go mad sometimes with 2) but I will not stand there and throw insults at you. It is normally the case though, that alot of women who cant handle this (like me) will not respect a woman who can handle the responsibility.,. Gee Am I making any sense at all.... Bottom line is flip them the bird hun (not in front of the kids) and tell them to get a friggin life.
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@pookie92 (1714)
• United States
16 Jan 07
AMEN!! Do ya hate this one, "You know what causes that?" or "were ya going for a boy". Damn, people are so rude. I mean, I didn't go up to that nasty biddy and say "wow, you know you can get better wigs from mail order catalogs" or "is that your hair or did your cat die on your head?" hmmmmmmmmmmm........... if it's none of your biz, just BUTT OUT!!!
• United States
16 Jan 07
Thats an accomplishment to have five children and nothing wrong with it whatsoever. My girlfriend is one of 5 girls. I am a twin and I wish I had more siblings. Dont let people get you down. It sounds like your family is healthy and happy and you should be greatful and honored to have such a large family. Best of luck to you!
@briennekb (613)
• United States
16 Jan 07
It has never dawned on me to make fun of someone with five kids. I'm shocked that you get rude comments. I know several people with 5+ kids and it has never crossed my mind to make fun of them or put them down. Personally, five is too many for me. I don't think I was meant to raise so many kids. But I applaude anyone who can. I have one child and being a mom can be difficult at times. I imagine those of us woth one child can't really understand what a mother of five does for her kids. Also, if someone ever questions whether or not your kids are taken care of just because you have so many, they just need to be slapped. That is just plain silly. I imagine your head may spin at times, but that doesn't mean that they aren't taken care of.
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@mdilan (803)
• United States
16 Jan 07
It is a decision that very couple makes. Now, it is very important to take care of them and to make sure that we give them the attention that they deserve.
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@kawillow74 (1417)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I think it is your choice how many kids you want to have aslong as you are taking care of them and other people don't have to pay for them. I have 2 boys and would have love to have 1 more but with the prices of everything today I am happy with my boys. As a child I would have loved to have more siblings.
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• United States
16 Jan 07
I find it difficult to understand WHY anyone would have enough time on her their hands to insult people about how many kids one has. It is crazy. You ignore them. It isnt worth your time
• United States
16 Jan 07
GOOD FOR YOU :) My Mom & Dad had 10 of us & I think it's great. 3 of the 10 have 5 & 6 kids and the others have atleast 3. One of my sister's who have 5 kids, said that people just look @ her like she's crazy & they ask her if she thinks she's had enough. Basically, I think people are jealous...maybe jealous that they don't have that many, or wonder how you can be managing just fine with 5 when they struggled with their one or two etc. So-- good for you-- I hope you have more :)
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@boogasmom (149)
• United States
15 Jan 07
I agree with you. I am 26 and have three children. My husband and I have now started talking about having another. I really don't care what other people think. I called and talked to my mom about it. Really hers and my dads opinion are the only ones that count. Even at that is still the sole choice of me and my husband.
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@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
16 Jan 07
I Come from a family of 7 sibs, I always got made fun of so I ended up with sore nuckles at the end of the day. That was when I was 8 now I'm 27 and handle things different. I am just as rude to them as they are to me, especialy if it is a repeat customer;whats it to you I reply? I only have one child so far, he's 4 and I have been begging my husband for more. He says no, I have to get my mother out of the picutre first (she causes majore problems and they don't get along) so I have been trying to figure out ways to convince him. I would love to raise a big family
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@durham (22)
• United States
16 Jan 07
Personally, I feel like it's none of anyone's business how many kids anyone has as long as they are, as you clearly put it, taken care of..... I have all together 11.
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• United States
16 Jan 07
The types of people who make rude comments like that, are the same types of people that think they know everything. I guarentee you, if it wasn't comments about your family, it would just be something else. Those people ALWAYS find something. Personally, I have no desire to have that many children. If you have the patience and financial circumstances to handle all that, more power to ya.
@rick615 (413)
• United States
16 Jan 07
It is amazing what some people will say about anything. I hope you have gotten a lot of support on this one, because you deserve it. I agree with you; if you can afford five kids and love them all, go for it! Personally, I sometimes wonder how I handle my three and am constantly amazed with the larger families. while my mom came from a family of nine kids and my Dad from a family with 13 siblings, my parents chose to nly have two. I like having my three kids, it's a good number for me. i'm happy that you are content with five. Tell anyone who has a problem wit it, to go suck an egg.
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• United States
16 Jan 07
Don't sweat it. I was stepmom to 5 at 22 and was graced with my first grandson at 28. You sound happy. Sounds to me like your kids are healthy & happy. Wtf would you even care what people think? Screw 'em, lol. Your life, your kids, your business. Tipping coke can to you :)
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• United States
16 Jan 07
The only time I might judge some one as having too many kids is if they were relaying on state support to raise them .I think as long as you can provide both for their physical and mental needs who is to judge . I came from a family of five kids myself .
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
18 Jan 07
I think people really need to keep their noses in their own business. Obviously if your kids are taken care of, it shouldn't matter to them how many you have. I have the same problem on the other end of the spectrum, and it looks the same from there. Nothing but nosiness.
@krysy1982 (1042)
• United States
17 Jan 07
I have four kids and get all kinds of rude comments. I just ignore it.
• India
17 Jan 07
hey nice dat u can handle 5 children !!!