Should we get married?

You aleady are married. Legally you have the same rights as a married couple, and you have the same lifestyle. So basically its all about if you want a wedding. Or, if you are religious, then to commit yourselves to each other in the eyes of God.

there is no law that says you have to get married. I mean if the both of you are comfortable at the level you are at, then why change it?

Only you can decide. you already have kids, but if it isnt working,it isnt working. All relationships have there ups and downs. But when it comes down to it, would you let him go?

Hmmmm...a topic on marriage. Well gurl, getting married is a big step, and unless you are 100% sure ( which most of us think we are, but aren't really ) that it is what you both want and aren't doing it "for the kids" or for propriety's sake. That you're both sure it is for keeps and you love each other madly...then go for it! Hehehe. marriage isn't something to trifle with and some people do change once they have that ring on their finger. Some people view that when they get married, they "own" the other person. All marriage actually does is make your relationship legal. If you're both happy the way you are, then why mess with a good thing. :)

I believe that the only people who can actually decide this are you and your partner. What we say doesn't matter, it's what the two of you feel is right.

There are a lot of things to get consider with getting married. A lot of people get married with the idea that it will fix things that are wrong with their relationship, or that without doing so they can't ever progress within the relationship. Neither of these really seems to apply to you. There are some definite perks that come with marriage. Recognition of your commitment among your friends and family and legal protections that otherwise require a lot of paperwork to create are a couple of things that immediately come to mind. On the other hand, as one other poster pointed out, why change a relationship that's already working for you? Are you getting pressure from an outside source, like friends or family? Are your children experiencing some kind of difficulty over having unmarried parents? Make sure if you get married it's because you feel it's the right thing for your relationship and family, not because of some external pressure. Overall, my belief is that marriage is exactly what you make of it. My husband and I waited 5 years after we were together to get married, largely because I had seen very negative examples of marriage in my own family. I finally was convinced when he told me that our marriage would be OUR marriage, and no marriage before nor any marriage after could tell us what to make of it.