When should we change beds....

United States
January 17, 2007 8:50pm CST
for my toddler? She is 2 1/2 and still in her crib. When should she move to a big girl bed? I think it should be now but my husband thinks she is too young. We have an 8 year old but can't remember when he went to a big boy bed. My husband is worried about our daughter getting up out of bed and roaming the house. I told him we put the child gate up in her door. What are your thoughts and methods you used?
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@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
18 Jan 07
You should take her out of the crib and put her in a bed when she starts climbing out. When she climbs out by herself, there is always a danger that she will break a bone or otherwise hurt herself. at least when she is in a bed, she won't have the chance of getting caught in the bars, or falling 3 or more feet and landing on her head or neck
• United States
18 Jan 07
That is what my husband has said but my daughter does not climb much of anything so I am not sure when this will happen, if it will happen. My son did climb out rather fast but my daughter doesn't have the desire to. Will she ever climb out?
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@rsmith512 (1561)
• United States
20 Jan 07
I think that any child given the right or chance to do something will do it. So, I think that yes she would climb out of bed. Maybe not everyday, just once in a while until you stress to her that it is wrong.
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@bethed (278)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I think you should just go by her size not her age.If she looks like she needs more room then move her.If she is okay size wise and safety leave her.You have to think about the comfort issue here.Physical and mentally.Physically she will need that toddler bed sooner or later but mentally children tend to hang own to the secruity of the crib.So the change of from one to the other may be quite tough. My son thought it was cool to sleep in a big boys bed for all of one night and then he cried every night after that.He felt so open and exposed.
• United States
18 Jan 07
Great point. Thank you. I did not think about the open and exposed thoughts she may have.
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• Malaysia
18 Jan 07
I'm agree with the suggestion that we should change the children bed if it not suitable with their size anymore. Don't see their age but their weight and height.
@xXmeganxX (4422)
18 Jan 07
hi, good question you ask really, id love to know when it's suitable to put my child in a big bed too. my daughter will be 2 in may this year and she still sleeps in a cot, she has one that you have to pull the side down to get out, but lately she's been climbing over it when it's pulled up, i get so scared going asleep becuase yesterday morning when i woke up she was in the spare room, i was looking everywhere and im so lucky she never fell down the stairs because i don't use stair gates because she clims over them, she's like a monkey at the moment. i want to put her in a big bed when she reaches two but i will be worrying so much because she could be up to anything while im asleep, what does anybody else think, do you think it's a right time that i should put her in a big bed shuckieduckie because in a way i do but i don't for health and safety reasons in a way, any advice would be great! :)
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• United States
18 Jan 07
If you have not already done so, get to child proofing your home. There are several non expensive things you can do to sleep peaceful. First off get those gates and protect your child from the stairs. next thing to do is look in your cabinets either move cleaning supplies high up or get guards for them. Get down on your floors and take a look at your rooms from her vantage point things that she can get hurt on move them or secure them better. At night time close off all of the rooms you can so that you are containing a wandering child the best you can.. and there is nothing wrong at all with putting a gate on her bedroom door. also remember that blind cord pulls are very dangerous to a young child. These are just a few examples but may take some of the stress off young mothers.
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@Meljep (1668)
• United States
18 Jan 07
If you get her a toddler bed to help with the transition to a large bed that will be helpful. If this is not an option you might consider getting a side rail to put on the bed and putting one side against the wall. This way she can used to the boundaries of the bed.
• United States
20 Jan 07
We have bunk beds where the top one can be taken off to put on the ground and it has rails. So we do have somewhere to put her but not sure if she is ready or if we are ready.
• United States
18 Jan 07
I always put my children in toddler beds when they were old enough to start climbing out of the crib, and possibly getting hurt. You always run the risk of the "roaming" but that too is a milestone and we do indeed deal with it. 2 1/2 3 years old seems to have always been the magic number for me too. I like you made great use of the child gates especially around stairs. Good luck, its always a scary thing to move on to the next step with our children but experience has shown me that far to often Parents are the ones afraid not their toddlers.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
Very good point about the parents being afraid and not the toddlers. Sometimes I think I need to relax a little more and let the kids make their mistakes but then again I want them to have a stress-free life.
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@magikrose (5423)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Honestly I think she is too old to be still in a crib. MY youngest just turned 3 and has been in a toddler bed for almost a year. She started climbing out of her crib so we left her in the crib long enought to get her a toddler bed and then we switched. She wont get out of bed as long as you continue the night timr routene as you always do now. If for some reason she does you dont say a word to her you just pick her up and put her to bed and get her tucked in, eventually she will get tired enough and just doze off.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
My son is three and has been sleeping in a big bed since the age of two. At first, they might get up. My son,if he did get up, came straight into our room to sleep with my husband and I. The gate might work for awhile. We never tried it. We just told him he had to be a big boy now. He wanted to be just like his other sisters and brother, so this made him happy.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
Well I have 5 kids, and the 4 3 and 2 year old all are in big kid beds. The 4 and 2 year old boys share a bunk bed, the 2 year old is on the bottom, and my 3 year old daughter has a twin sized bed as well. I started putting him in the bed soon after his 2nd birthday, he will be 3 in may, and he stays put. We have a rail too. But for the first week or so they will get out of the bed a couple times, and when you wake up they will be in your face staring at you, but once they get used to it everything is fine. I would put a gate up on the door, and a baby moniter, because i noticed when he got out of bed he rambled to himself before entering my room. Also, roaming the house usually comes after they go to your room. They enter your room first because its a comfort zone. If they get no response, then the roaming starts. But eventually they figure out how to climb over the baby gate and wake you up anyway.
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@sylvrrain (661)
• United States
18 Jan 07
My daughter got her big girl bed on her third birthday. The bed was a single size canopy bed that sat very low to the floor. She did fine, but I did not get much sleep. Every night for about a month, I would wake up with her crawling into my bed. I would not have minded much, but she would kick the heck out of me in her sleep. LOL. After that, no problems. I was usually awake before her in the mornings, so I always heard her when she woke up. It is true that us moms worry too much, but I have learned, we need to give them some room to grow and learn for themselves.
@coolcatzz (1587)
• Canada
18 Jan 07
I think right now is the time. It should go side by side with potty training. The whole purpose is if they have to go they can get out of their bed and call you or go. My kids were in their own beds at 2 1/2 so now is the perfect time for you.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
I don't know about introducing too many things at one time. If you put them in the big bed at the same time as potty training them then I think you run the risk of overwhelming them. Toddlers need to be independant and learn new "responsibilities" but at the same time too much at one time is simply too much!
@feeding11 (222)
• United States
18 Jan 07
She is plenty old enough to have a toddler bed and as long as you have that safety gate up then everything should be fine. Just because she is a girl or the youngest of your children do not coddel her, you actually hold them back still treating them as if they were a baby. Take her shopping with you and let her pick out the big girl bed and be very excited about it, let her help put it together, and make the new bed. Believe me she will not want to get out of it for a couple of days "cause she is a big girl" that makes them feel great!
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@micheller (1365)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Yes, I think that she is old enough to have a big girl bed. Just do what you said and put a gate up by her door. She can easily get hurt if she tried to climb out of her crib, so i think it's better to get her a regular child bed.
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• Japan
18 Jan 07
i think it is a perfect time for her to be in a bed. I would put the gate up and put a baby monitor in her room so you can hear when she wakes up!
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@Sarah1977 (495)
• United States
18 Jan 07
Your daughter is probably ready for a toddler bed. At her age, she is most likely able to climb out of her crib, which can be dangerous. My youngest son recently turned 2, and we are in the process now of transferring him to a toddler bed.
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@sproutz (260)
• Canada
18 Jan 07
We moved my son @ 2 1/2 and had very few issues./ It depends on your child. Will she fall out of the bed? Will she be mroe likely to play? Good luck!
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@cdirock (289)
• United States
18 Jan 07
We changed our son into a bed about 2.5. That is the average age I believe. You should be railings on the side though. I agree with you about the gates. Good Luck.
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• United States
18 Jan 07
Every child is different. My oldest went to a toddler bed just after turning 2. My son was 20 months, my middle daughter was about 2 1/2 when we converted her crib to a toddler bed. My son was the earliest. He wasn't even 2 yet when we put him in a twin bed. He started climbing out and fell twice in one night and that was it. The next night he went to the big bed and did great. Until he learned to open doors a couple months later (still before he turned 2). So we put those door knob covers on his door to keep him in at night. A couple months later he learned to pry them off, lol. He was a handful. If she seems ready then try it. I think most kids go to a toddler bed between 2 and 2 1/2 but it varies widely. We really needed the crib for the next baby so we tried to get each one out early.
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@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
18 Jan 07
My daughter, who will be 2 this weekend, has been in her toddler bed for about 7 months now. She loves it. I never find her sleeping on the floor in her room either. She stays in her bed, which really amazes me, none of my other kids did. We bought one of those eye hook locks and put that on the outside of her door to "lock" her in at night so she wouldn't be falling down the stairs or getting into anything. A baby gate would be great too. I always have to have 2, stack them on top of eachother so you know they won't climb over! I prefer to shut the door, so you don't have to worry about them getting hurt on the gates. Good Luck. I think she's ready!
• Netherlands
18 Jan 07
We changes beds when my son and daughter were 3 years old. My son was climbing out off his crib when he was 1 1/2 yaurs old so a crib isn't anything also. It even can be dangerous when a hild is climbing out off his crib. When your child has a bed she can't fall from a great hight. I also recommend you to have a cild gate anyway or when you have a stairs a gate in front of that. The saver your house is the better it will be for your child.
@jenbatres (800)
• United States
18 Jan 07
I think each child is different. My oldest was in a toddler bed her first birthday. My middle child was in her crib until about 18 months. My youngest was out by 10 months. I think when you feel your child is able to stay in bed, you should switch them. I have never used gates at my kids door they just stayed in bed. best of luck
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