October 6, 2006 1:05am CST
Common courtesy is no longer common. It's a rare and dying breed and I miss it dearly. When did the 'me' in the United States become so overpoweringly important that very few people remain who practice the small courtesies on a day by day basis. I often wonder about this as I commute to work. I leave road access open and do not block the egress of stores. I wave people ahead of me when they are trying to get out. When I am in the grocery line with a full basket and the person behind me only has a couple items, I let them go in front of me. A simple thank-you seems to be beyond quite a few. When I was growing up, my Dad told me that when you drive, you let people in. If other people let you in, you be sure to wave a thank-you. Today, is that wave going to get you killed? And all the people I let ahead of me, why do so few say thank-you? Am I simple for following a simple courtesy? I think in today's times, that if more people would take the time to be thoughtful and courteous, that their would be less rage. It may be simplistic, but I think it's a good start. What about you? From the bank teller to the cashier at the grocery store to the customer standing in line, a little understanding, compassion and courtesy will go a long way.
11 Oct 06
I couldn't agree with you more. It seems that "responsibility" has not yet caught up with "rights". The day I decided to start focusing on what I do before what others do to me, I became a happier and less angry person. People seem to think that "doing for others" is equal to allowing yourself to be a doormat. I really believe that constantly framing the world around you in the sense of "I come first" is only fostering this "me" centred society. In school, I learned that was called being a sociopath-that may be a little extreme, but the more being a jerk doesn't bother someone, the more free they feel to be one. The more one allows action without conscience, the easier it becomes to act without one.