im not your tyoe of guy

January 21, 2007 10:07am CST
so i was in this club home on friday night. and this gur cam tome and started talking. then all of the sudden he get weird. he says "i don't think i'm your type?". ME (not caring but curious) why?. he said Uh!. Me i said we'll go on, i kept pushing because i was already getting the "i'm not down with the brown" vibe from him, soi wanted to see if he had balls enough to say something ignorant. he did!. he says : you seem like you like thugs!" i replied "why?" and he says" most black girl like a thugs and i'm not a thug....
2 responses
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
30 Aug 08
oh that is just something i think would offend me. i mean otherss can't say or tell me what kind of guy is my type... well. i guess that is how people have this mind set on somethings. it can be really annoying most especially if they have already decided for you.
@goofy328 (15)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't know; I might have thought something like that but I'd never actually say it. If you feel that way you have to find a way to save face and move on. Perhaps you weren't that interested in him or maybe that's how you came off. It isn't a thug thing though, a lot of us are just boring, at least on the surface, and then you have to get accoustomed us over some time to really appreciate us. A lot of us, if we're not quick or can't make that initial first impression we've lost confidence in ourselves and we'll sabotage the whole thing, like that guy did. I've been known to do it, I may get a few initial conversations off, and they'll go well, but if the girl isn't initiating anything herself or I find that I don't really know what to say to her I'll chuck it up as a loss and move on. It isn't anything for me to say all of the right things, at the right time, and leave on a positive note then come back in a few conversations later with absolutely nothing to say. You think you're in a groove with someone yet you just had good luck, good timing, there's probably nothing in common and it's a bit embarassing. Maybe he thought he'd insulted you, and maybe he did or maybe he didn't. Hopefully he never says that to anyone else because you never really know why the girl doesn't like you and it isn't to infer that she's shallow and only likes a particular type of guy. Black girls like more than just thugs, but those are the only guys with the confidence to approach a black girl without any external motivation or encouragement on her part it seems. The autonomy in the argument is truly amazing, because if more of us were simply ourselves, and said what we wanted to say, regardless of how it came off we'd all be a lot better off for it. If she doesn't like it so much there's always someone else. But no if I feel like it isn't working I won't persist; if the chemistry isn't there with that little bit of interaction what point is there seeing what the possibilities could be there further down the line ...