Not everyone cheats!

@lisado (1230)
United States
January 22, 2007 1:25pm CST
Why does everyone assume that all military wives cheat on their husbands (or husbands on their wives is the wife is active duty)?? Can we not be monogomous?!? My first husband cheated on me, and having been on the receiving end, I know how painful it can be. My husband has gone on "Cruise" (6 month deployment, or longer in some cases) twice, not to mention he has to go here and there for training anywhere from a week to several months at a time. Why does everyone assume, then, that I must be cheating on him? My husband knows better, he should after 10 years, but it doesn't stop people from assuming that neither of us can be monogomous just because we have to be away from each other for periods of time. I am sure that truck drivers spouses, and others that are gone over periods of time, hear the same garabage. It's really irritating to me. :(
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6 responses
• United States
26 Jan 07
I know you've known a few people in/out of the military that did cheat; and you heard of those that did and sounded proud of it; but just be happy and content that you and your hubby have a special relationship. :o)
@lisado (1230)
• United States
7 Feb 07
What people did I know about and seemed proud of it? I know of three personally, and two aren't with those people anymore. The truth came out in one way or another. One was military and one wasn't. As for the third, I don't talk to that person much anymore and have no idea if they are still with their spouse or not? I'm assuming they are, but the husband knew about the affair and chose to do nothing.
@kylesmiles (1913)
• United States
22 Jan 07
I don't think it's fair to say that "everyone thinks..." Because I don't. I honestly have never heard of this and I don't think "everyone" does... As far as being monogomous, that is your choice. I don't judge. My husband and I are monogomous and we both trust each other. Oh there you go again... "everyone assume..." Well, I would have to say again, that not everyone does... Why do you let this bother you? :)
@lisado (1230)
• United States
7 Feb 07
My bad for saying "everyone".
• United States
8 Feb 07
This is news to me. I have never heard people say military people are cheaters or more prone to cheating. I personally think most people who cheat are freeloaders and golddiggers. I don't find that a fitting descritption for prople in the military.
@freak369 (5019)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I don't think that cheating really has much to do with a specific occupation; granted a long absence can lead to cheating but I don't think that there is one group that cheats more than others. Most of the military guys I've known that have been married seemed like real stright shooters. But hey, there are bound to be bad apples in every basket.
• India
26 Jan 07
My wifes family has a military background her brother, uncles and whole load of cousines are in Indian Army as well in Indian Air Force and I can vouch to the fact that they are as committed to their marriage as any common woman you found in the civilians life.I dont think they are as adultress as any woman you can find in civilians life. People carry a very wrong impression, may be due to the fact the approach of a woman with military background id quite a different than her counterpart in civilian life.
@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I know lots of military couples, and most of them (as far as I know) are monogamous. I have no reason to believe that you and your husband, or any of them are not. I don't see why anyone would make that assumption. Don't let them get to you.