Would you date someone who smoked or if you do smoke have you been turned down

United States
January 22, 2007 5:13pm CST
Would you not date someone just because they smoked or have you ever been turned down by someone because you are a smoker. I know this has been come an issue over the years and was wondering how many people have ran into this issue over time. I have an aunt who use to smoke and no one is allowed to smoke in her house now which everyone respects and goes outside.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
Once I met a man I was instantly attracted to at a friend's wedding. The feeling was mutual at first. However, he dumped me by the 4th date - said he couldn't abide the smell of smoke in my hair, clothes, or breath, even though I brushed my teeth all the time. I was really devastated, but not enough to quit smoking! I finally did quit on my own 8 years later.
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• United States
23 Jan 07
Yes i would date someone who smokes because smoking is no reason not to date someone and i do not smoke
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@misskatonic (3726)
• United States
22 Jan 07
My most recent ex hated that I smoked and was really, really adamant that I quit. And I tried, I did, but if I'm going to quite it will be for myself. I finally just told her that I was a smoker, that was part of who I was, and she had to accept that. We didn't break up just over the smoking, but she was very intersted in changing me. I don't change for anyone.
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@XxAngelxX (2831)
• Canada
22 Jan 07
I am a smoker and have never been turned down by anyone for that reason. A lot of people, both smokers and non-smokers alike, have made their houses smoke free. I think this is a great idea and really I haven't heard any smokers complaining about it.
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@xXmeganxX (4422)
22 Jan 07
i have never been turned down by anyway just because of smoking, my old partner wasn't a smoker and i was but he didn't mind it which of course is great! :)
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• United States
24 Jan 07
I do not like to be around smoke at all. I get sick. In my home, people will smoke outside on the porch. My husband smoked when we dated, but he stopped when we got married. I cannot stand the smell or the tighting of my throat from it.
@jenalyn (675)
• United States
24 Jan 07
I quit smoking last year, and I have no desire to ever smoke again. However, if I met someone and really liked thier personality, I wouldn't let them being a smoker stand in the way of having a realtionship with them. I would not care if they smoked, I would just ask them not to smoke in my house because I don't smoke, and when I did smoke I never smoked in my house.
@kL1121 (60)
• Philippines
24 Jan 07
i used to smoke since i was 15 years old but i just stopped a year ago because i became pregnant. i don't believe that. although my boyfriend and i are both smokers, i could remember having a boyfriend in the past who doesn't smoke. maybe it depends upon the person, in our case if we're together i don't smoke. but if not, he wont mind. he just constantly reminds me of my health.
• Canada
24 Jan 07
First I am not a smoker, so I have not met the situation that because I am a smoker and been turned someone down. Second because my dad and my grandpa do smoke, so I can stand those people who smoke and if the one truly is my style, I will date with him.
@emisle (3823)
• Ireland
23 Jan 07
I don't think I could do it in the long term. I hated when my mother smoked, so if my partner smoked I really don't think I'd ever be okay with it.
@sizzle3000 (3039)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I would not turn a person down for a date because of them smoking. I may turn them down because they bite their nails. No seriously we all have bad habits of one kind or another. A person should be judged on the kind of person they are not their bad habits.
• Philippines
23 Jan 07
I'm a non-smoker by choice and I would prefer not to date smokers. Smoking is a great turn-off for me because I can't stand the smell of smoke and the smell sticks to one's clothes and breath. Brushing their teeth and gargling breath fresheners doesn't work for me either. I can still smell it. I know that I am cutting myself from dating fine guys who are great date material but are smokers but I'm the jealous sort of girl. During the date, I want his attention on me and I know that even if he doesn't smoke in front of me at the back of his mind he is thinking of it.
@nishanity (1651)
• India
23 Jan 07
i do not smoke... and i dont understand why people smooke in the first place... and i wouldnt date anyone who smokes!! i never liked the smell of smoke in my life and i always thought that people who smoked wree a little selfish... if they had gone somewhere private and did their smoking , then i wouldnt have bothered, but 99% of the smokers have to smoke in front of us, non-smokers... and its a proven fact that there is more damage to passive smokers than for active smokers! so why should i risk my life by being with a smoker??? i can stand occasional smokers but now i am beginning to doubt if such a breed even exists!
23 Jan 07
I dont think that would be much of a huge problem but i do know couples that usually figth and argue because of it ... one that smokes and the other that doesnt ... but nothing serious ...lol.. love wins all :)
@ram13288 (388)
• United States
23 Jan 07
i have never been turned down by a non smoker because i smoke and if i didnt smoke i would still gou out with a girl even if she did smoke.
@korek222 (702)
• Poland
23 Jan 07
This is a quite good question - personally i dont like smoking , but well if i would date a smoker i would try not to turn this person down but rather to influence her to quit smoking and start breathing fully ;)
@brettbum (304)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I would not date a woman that smoked. As I have gotten older the smell of smoke triggers my allergies and makes me miserable, so that just wouldn't work for me. I would not date a woman that had cats either for the same reason. Everything else is fair game.
@justreal (2367)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
First of I don't smoke, so that was no problem for anyone. I personally, do not care if the person smokes or not. What I care about is the person him or herself to have a good personality and character, that's what counts.
• United States
23 Jan 07
smoking is not cool at all. i wouldnt accept my gf if she ever smoked because... wow its just plain out nasty. you know the problems in smoking so why do it anyway? some of my family smokes and sometimes it just bothers me why they do it.
@anja31 (708)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
It depends the person has to be extremenly nice and handsome, than I will think about it. I am not a smoker and I hate smoke in my house.