HELP!! My Daughter in Law is a Scheeming GOLD DIGGER!!!!

I'm a Gold Digging Princess - Sharpei wearing a tiara
@AskAlly (3628)
Canada
January 22, 2007 11:27pm CST
All she ever wants to know is how much this is worth and how much that is worth. And we aren't even dead yet. She suggested that my husbnad buy her a horse for $25,000.00 beacuse he was soooo cute. She keeps my son pretty much broke by buying everything in sight. It's like she wants us to die so she can move into our house and take over the ranch. Over MY dead body. She is making very hard to be nice, but I have to be for my son's sake What should I do with her????
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@ossie16d (11834)
• Australia
23 Jan 07
Sometimes it almost becomes too much and I wonder how you can not say anything, but I guess that it is because of your son. Well, firstly if this particular son and his wife are almost broke, then make some changes to the Will. Do not leave them anything at all, but instead leave it in trust for the grandchildren. Appoint any/all of your other sons that you trust implicitely as trustees of this portion of the estate. Even if the son and SGD (scheming gold digger) don't have any children yet, you can still leave portion of the estate in trust for future natural born children of your son. Talk to a good solicitor/lawyer about how to handle it, but the last thing you need to be worrying about is that the money that you worked so hard for will be wasted or squandered away. How do the rest of the family get on with them, and are they aware of what is happening? With regard to personal family mememtos you should be able to specify who they go to etc. My dear m-i-l specified certain things were to go to our son, because he has many treasures which other grandchildren didn't keep. So when she had to be admitted to nursing home (dementia) we just divided up all the stuff, except money of course, exactly as she had said. So you can choose now who is to get what amongst those special mementos. Having said all that, politely tell her that everything you own is going to the grandchildren and greatgrandchildren in 50 years time and if any of the sons don't have children etc, their share goes to the lost cats home. LOL This type of person cannot be reasoned with unfortunately, so why worry but make sure that they all know you plan to live for a very long time to come. :)
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@AskAlly (3628)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
as always, words of wisdom from you ossie16d. You have helped me take a step back from the situation and I will follow your advice. I think it is the best course of action. I am willing to maintain a relationship with her for the sake of my son. I hope they do not have children! But if they do I want to see my grandchildren so I will continue to bite my tongue. My husband and I had even considered approaching our son and making a deal with him....divorce her and we will help clear up his debt load. I can't remember that last time he truly looked happy. I think he sees the end comming and if they do divorce we will be their to pick him up and dust him off. The rest of my daughters in law are amazing but they see what is happening as well. Now I regret having my cats neutered and spayed. LOL I'll have to find some breeders!!!!!
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@ossie16d (11834)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
Because I cannot help myself AskAlly I will add that if your son and the SGD do separate, then whisk him down to a good Solicitor/Lawyer immediately, so he can file for a divorce. Pay the money for the divorce directly to the legal people and not your son, as that way she cannot get anything from it. LOL Oh and here is a true story, which I think you will appreciate. Many years ago b-i-l's wife left him which in general was no sad loss because she was a right proper B1TCH. However a couple of days before she left him, she went down to one of the big furniture places and ordered all this furniture to be delivered on a certain day. It arrived after b-i-l had left for work, unloaded from the truck and half an hour later, a removal truck arrived and took it all. Yep she absconded with all the money and left him with these huge debts. M-I-L immediately changes Will leaving b-i-l's share in trust for his children and not him, and had several provisos about when they could get trust money etc. Now I do have to say that B1TCH had been gone about 6 weeks before we saw bil because we lived in different states, but he was a changed man - changed for the better that is. Anyway after a few years, she eventually went for property settlement and maintenance for the children, and that was the first heard of her for about 3 years. Also got a divorce. The judge ordered that b-i-l had to sell the house and pay her half of the proceeds of the sale, after the mortgage was paid out. Also he gave b-i-l 12 months to do this because b-i-l said he was still renovating and needed the time. So what does b-i-l do but immediately remortgage the place, pay 2 months repayments in advance and nothing more. He eventually left the house voluntarily some 8 months later and about 6 months after that the bank sold it up. Certainly he got nothing, but nor did she. LOL Hope that gives you some hope my friend and just get some more cats, which will solve that problem. LOL Thanks very much for giving me best response for this discussion.
@AskAlly (3628)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
I don't want to sound like a snob, because we are far from being millionares. But this ranch has been in the family for just over 100 years. All the girls signed a pre nup. I am not having this place divided because some snot nosed chicky pooh decides she wants a divorce. Besides their house is on my land...... nanna nanna pooh pooh. As you can tell I am always in a generous mood when it comes to her.
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@matlgal (1687)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Oh Man !! donja' just want to slap her silly. You might take her to lunch and just be girl to girl and get in her face and tell her "your are of her intentions" and if she doesn't settle down and become the "Daughter-in-law" she should be you will make her life a silent living hell.! Not that there is ever the perfect mate for our children, but by gosh when it appears to be deliberate then you absolutely have to put in your 2 cents, Good luck ! I don't envy your position.
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@AskAlly (3628)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
I really do want to slap her silly. I have a hard time keeping my mouth shut when she is redecorating my house within earshot of me. I have 4 other boys, so how she figures she gets it all is beyond me. I may have to sit her down before I make the front page headlines if you know what I mean. lol
• United States
15 Feb 07
Oh honey, that is a tough situation you are in. I believe you are wise enough to know that if you say anything bad about her, you can loose your son. So my dear, you will just have to not say a thing to her or him. She is his pick for a mate, and you will have to harden to her inside. Sorry, but you cannot do anything. Blessings, M&M
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• United States
14 Feb 07
Goodness, this is terrible. Is she a really bad person, or is she just really into money? Your poor son, that is not the type of person that I would want to be married to, and not who I would want my son married to (if I had one). So, what has happened? Have you all had a sit-down with her and discussed this, or at least talked to your son. If she was doing that to me, I probably would have said something like, "Whenever you talk like this, you not only upset me, but you also offend me." "I feel as though you are counting the days until you can have all of our things, etc.." Maybe you could make trusts for your grandkids, or something. Some people just don't deserve it...
@wiessied (646)
• United States
23 Jan 07
Oh my that is terrible that she is that way ,how does your son feel about it ,i wouldnt give her a thing,Ild make some kind of scheeming plan of my own and see if she takes the bait to make your son relize that shes a gold digger.
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@blueskies (1186)
• United States
23 Jan 07
I don't think there's really anything that you can do. If you speak ill of her to your son, he is likely to move away from you, as she is his wife. If it were me, I would try to remain pleasant and available to both of them and just wait for the day when he wakes up and sees her for what she is. Be patient, he can't go on loving someone so selfish forever.
@AskAlly (3628)
• Canada
23 Jan 07
It's hard to be patient, but I know I have to be for my son's sake
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@chertsy (3818)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Turn around and be just mean as her. You and your husband can fix your will anyway you want. That's what is fun about it. You can put in a clause that he can't get anything as long as he is married to her. But first sit down and talk with him. Explain to him, that you might think he loves her, but a marriage can't be anything when your in debt 24/7. That you will help him get out of debt, if and when he choses to wake up and see that his wife likes a lifestyle that he can't afford to give her. This 25,000.00 horse better come with a really hot trainer, free food, etc., lol. Next time she asks what something is worth, make sure someone is around and say real nicely No, I don't but I can find out so I make sure you don't get it. Your son sounds so very sweet, caring, every woman's dream come true. Not to mention a loving family to boot. Good luck with this ugly situation.