October 7, 2006 12:37pm CST
How would you discipline kids without hurting them? me i talk reverse psychology, how about you?
7 Oct 06
i personally feel that kids are like unbloomed flowers.....all they need is extensive care(by it i don't mean that be over protective)...at times one has to act like a kid himself....reverse psychology is an excellent means i agree with you here
7 Oct 06
yes you are very right.......actally kids are very sensitive if you beat or scold them....the first thing that comes in their mind is that mama or daddy dont love me anymore....but if you behave or talk by bringing your caliber level at their's they'll immediatley get ready to do anything for you....you see they can't bring themselves to such a level of urz it's you who has to make the sacrifice....and that is the key reason why mother's are made to handle the kids more and the father is made to earn.....coz a woman is just filled or made up of love and softness...whereas man has strong emotions he won't feel things as immediate as the mother will...these are the laws of nature by which we have to work....(now i'm not saying that fathers can never love please try to understand my point)
7 Oct 06
Well, don't get me started! There is no need to hurt children. I'll tell you now, that if you use reverse psychology, what you are doing is teaching your children confusion. A young child takes everything literally. Try it. Tell your child to 'hold onto his shirt' for a minute. He/she will do just that. And if you tell them to 'hold their horses', they'll look for the horses. So when you talk to a child in a way he/she doesn't understand, he/she just gets confused. They don't know what you want from them. And beleive me, All children want to do what their parents expect of them. They want and need that approval. I came here because I wanted to know what 'racing kids' were. I see you mean 'raising' kids. Big difference!! Although if you raise children incorrectly, they most likely will be racing. Here are some web sites meant to be of assistance: www.familyeducation.com/home www.Kidsgrowth.com www.wholefamily.com (you can ask an expert here) www.earlyconnect.org-13 http://csefel.uiuc.edu/ (this one has a parent chat line) I hope these will be of use to you...and your friends. Good luck
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3 Nov 06
Ok, ok...I have to ask.... and I don't mean to ruffle any feathers....really I don't. Tell me, how do you determine that your child (3 to 10 yr old) has Learned a lesson? Do you take their word for it? Is it then a trust issue. Let's say it is, then what happens when you have trusted him/her 5 times at his/her word and have been proven a fool? What have you taught him/her then?