Profèssional Moms ignore their children! Is it so?

Please do not judge us working moms...It is not fair either. I have a job that requires me to work more than 8 hours a day, but I don't ignore my children. Much as I wanted to take care of them, I cannot devote my full time on it... for I need to work to sustain their needs. I just see to it that I make up on then during weekends and holidays. I am the sole bread earner in the family. My hubby is at home cuz he's got no job and can no longer be employed due to age requirements. Thus he does the household crap, including taking care of them my kids. An arrangement that I consider fair to all of us. It is true that a mother's loving care is entirely different from dad's, but what can we do? We need to practice our profession because we need to earn. Lest, our children would starve. BTW, I earn more than my hubby can when he was still employed. The only thing that would solve this problem would be for the husbands to earn more than their wives could... so they can compel her to stay home and take care of the kids.

Hello there. Before I answer your question, it is my request to please go to the page of your profile and change the colour combination that you have selected for your page.It is very difficult to read what are your discussion etc. If people will not read them, you will not earn, so do it as soon as possible. Now as far as your question is concerned, Mother is always mother, if today she is giving more attention to her work, It is only because she is thinking of your future. As you will grow, your needs will also grow, she wants to give you a better educations so that you will have easy life and this now you are not understanding, but one day you will realise it. Mother's love for her child is always at first place and then the rest. so instead of complaining, start appreciating her. As she is not earning money, she is sacrificing her best time which she wanted otherwise to spend with you.

I don't think so. I myself is a working mom but my children are always first for me. I think that depends on the person.

i think that they can't raise thier children properly and its a bit unfair to the child but they have thier own neccesities

My wife retired recently and my daughter is working at a rather demanding job. I don't think either my daughter or my granddaughter are worse off as a result of having working mothers. Yes, having a full time job and giving quality time to your children is certainly a balacing act which many women are handling admirably. Also I would not like woman in family to lose the financial independence which a job brings. I have seen enough women caught in bad marriages for economic reasons. Those who can balance job and family should be allowed to do it. Recently I had a young woman colleague who gave up a lucrative career to be with her son despite the fact that the child was very proud that his mother traveled all over the world. I also have an example in my family where the husband decided to work out of home to let his wife pursue a good career. I have also seen stay at home mothers wasting time in day time parties and rabid TV watching to the detriment of their children. I have also seen fathers being hardly there during the formative years of a child. One thing I know for sure is that most working women often feel quilty about their children despite the fact that by any objective standard they are contributing very well to their development. I am sure those who happen to see this discussion would also feel quilty. I can only appeal to them to assess their own situation and take their own decisons rather than be lead by other's opinions. This is one area where one size does not fit all. If I have been long-winded in my response, do forgive me.

Until recently, I was a working mum (45 hours a week), and no it's not fair on them. I would finish work at 5.30pm, pick them up, feed them convenience foods for dinner and put them to bed, thus spending about 2 hours a day with them. They were playing up, needy and my eldest was just plain miserable. So in November last year, I quit work to spend time with them and they are so much happier now, and the time I spend with them is no longer rushed or stress-filled!

I don't think moms ignore their children it is just that they give less time to their children because of their work.

Not all working moms do this, I know some moms who have a career still their children are very affectionate to them. As per my experience I can attest to the truth that there are some who do tend to neglect their children, because they need to separate their family from their work and mostly they cancel on their appointments with their children to give way to clients.

unless she is really a superwoman then i'm afraid the pressure on her work might drain too much of her energy to deal with her children's issues. in a way the children would have to fend for their own homeworks and stuffs since their mom's time ain't really enough to handle all of those. well i bet it is really tough on a working mom how she'd balance work and quality time with her family

Unfortunately, not all women have the option of staying home with their children, no matter how much we might like to. Most working women are mothers first. When the child's school calls because he or she is sick in the nurses office, the mother takes time off work to get the child. When the child is sick and has to stay home from school, the mother takes the day off and takes care of the child all day. Working mothers have to make time for their kids, so the time, ends up being more quality than quantity. We come home from work, make dinner, help with homework, make sure baths are taken, teeth brushed, bedtime stories read. Then we go to bed ourselves only to get up and start it over again the next morning. A mother is a mother. My kids are my career. That other thing is just my job.

No way!!! I mean how one can categorized thimngs so easily, everything is not applicable to everyone. Somewhere sometime certain things changes with surrounding . If mother manages to give enough time to her babies , ofcourse she can, and if some one dont feel it important then doesnt matter if she is working or sitting idle at home. she wont give enough time to her kids.

I dont thnk so...........Its ntb always true! Jst depends on the atttitude of the mother!

Ya i agree that is xactly what happens a person cnt ride in two trains at a time!

I don't think most professional moms ignore their children. I think circumstances often force them (and their children) to have to juggle a lot in their lives and not have as much time for togetherness as a family where there is a stay-at-home-parent, but I certainly wouldn't call that "ignoring." Most professional moms I know work hard at balancing work and life. They try to make the time they have true quality time. They sacrifice their own sleep and time to take care of themselves to make up for the fact that they must or choose to work. They try to set examples that show their children they can be what they want to be. Not all professional moms are this way, I know. There are many who put their careers first and let their children be raised by babysitters and childcare agencies. But their are just as many who do the balancing act well.

Now the moms have come up in life. They realise the importnace of bringing up the child by listening to the stories of different moms. Moreover the revolution in communication has made them to get right informaton. There is no doubt that the child should be given right care and along with that the profession these days is also equally important.

Yup thats what is happening around here! Moms dont give time to their children such practisce should be stopped!