What do you when you are angry with your loved one?

@alextki (923)
India
January 25, 2007 12:43am CST
what will be your reaction when you are so angry with your loved one? what will be your loved one's reaction when you are angry.. how do you solve your issues.. will you keep your angry so long or how it will be?
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11 responses
@ichampin (593)
• India
25 Jan 07
Getting angry with loved one is obvious i think at certain times, because you love them thats why you get angry with them, you care about them thats why you gwt angry with them. when i get angry with my loved one. I simply didn't talk at that time because it would only lead us both into an argument which is the worst thing in this world, Arguments can create a big problems, so i keep my mouth shut at that time but later on I explain my cause of getting angry on her and when she is angry with me she keeps on shouting but I keep my mouth shut at this time only after few minutes, when she is back into normal nood then I explain her and listens to her. If i get angry with her it is normally a matter of few minutes.
@alextki (923)
• India
25 Jan 07
If she is a stub-born, and if she gets angry (if you discuss it again) even after she back to normal mood, what will you do?
• Indonesia
25 Jan 07
I will be going shopping... or do something in the garden...then back home and give him a real tight hug and kiss... so we both will be better and can talk in cold mind...:)
@alextki (923)
• India
25 Jan 07
You are great technician it seems :), sounds good.. keep going :)
@wesker311 (508)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
if were both angry we try to release our anger through punching! and ill be quiet then when everything seizes he'll come up to me and embrace me or kiss me or say sorry then ill do the same. we couldnt let our anger stay with us up until the next day he would always make the first move cause he's always the first one to make me angry!
@alextki (923)
• India
30 Jan 07
Thanks for responding.. keep me posted dude
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
when i am angry with my loved one particularly with my boyfriend, i just keep quiet for a very long time. He really freaks out when i do that, he actually feels guilty and apoligizes specially when its his fault. I prefer to be silent because i dont want us to argue onthings while we're both angry.I guess being silent is effective than arguing with the person. After being silent and putting myself back together and as well cooling myself down, i do try to settle things by talking to him. in that way we can settle are problem easily.
@alextki (923)
• India
25 Jan 07
If your partner is stub-born, and if he/she gets angry whenever you start the problem (even after 1 day),what do you do?
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
i have a high temper!i usually shout and say bad words.Lol!He just keep quite and make me laugh.Then we talk the issue when im not too much anger anymore.Behind my anger,when my partner give me some sweet words and touch,i would be okay then!So the issue will be solved very soon!
@alextki (923)
• India
1 Feb 07
Nice response.. keep me posted :)
@gangasa (220)
• India
25 Jan 07
i would like to talk on that issue...
@alextki (923)
• India
25 Jan 07
If you continue to talk, there will be an argument,that will follows a fight.. and angry, in such situations what will be your reaction?
@opinder (420)
• India
25 Jan 07
i try not to say anything. because i'm sure to say something that might hurt them. it has happened when i get mad at my boyfriend. but he is patient. when i become quiet, he knows that i'm angry. in case i yell at him when i'm in a bad temper, i apologize.
@cathiza27 (188)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
I'll try to control my emotion and temper, because if you really angry sometimes we say something bad that we will regret it after. If I'm mad, i try to loose my temper tru doing some sports like jogging or walking, surfing net, etc. Then after that I'll talk to him and compromise what whould be the best solution to resolve it and not to do it again. In that way we will understand more, and the repect will stick to the relationship.
@alextki (923)
• India
25 Jan 07
I somewhat agree with your point, but long will you postpont the talk with him? If we leave that matter for long time, that may lead for a negative mindset.. am i right?
@gurubhai (79)
• India
25 Jan 07
I dont know how other people's handle this kind of a situation but i have figured out a very good way to avoid getting in to a serious fight and it really works ,its just about understanding for eg. me and my wife have mutually agreed then when any of one is angry the second have to keep mum until the anger is wiped away ,then later when everything is cool ,the situation can be discussed calmly and it really works with both of us ,like the idea ,let me know
@alextki (923)
• India
25 Jan 07
yes i knew, now a days the couple are coming to this agreement early in their marriage life. But do you think this can be followed throughout their life, even in a critical/serious issue.
• India
25 Jan 07
At Thet time i never talk wid my love. then she comes to know i m angry, then she has to find why i m angry. if she know then she convievce to me with sossry. & she has to cleare every thing wats the matter . then every thing okie.
• India
25 Jan 07
Anger is a quick response from some one. If one gets time to thnk over from both sides , it can be solved to a certain extent. If loved one is getting angry with me, will keep silent for some time and will explain the solution or reason. will think from his/her point of view towards the problem. "To err is human, To forgive is divine."