Your wife/husband is not a virgin, what will be your reaction?

@alextki (924)
India
January 25, 2007 1:02am CST
You came to know that your wife/husband is not a virgin at the first night after marriage, what is your reaction on it? will you agree or just tell me both guys and girls
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14 responses
@yahooguy (508)
• Romania
25 Jan 07
um ...none...people have a right to premarital s*x
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@alextki (924)
• India
7 Feb 07
I dont agree with you friend
@malini4u (896)
• India
25 Jan 07
yup it depends on the individual ur... coz if ur not virgin and expecting the other to be virgin its not fine... watever it may be be true and frank and be good to ur partner after marriage..forgot abt the past relationship...be good and tru after marriage..thhis is my view.
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@alextki (924)
• India
25 Jan 07
Either one is virgin, then obviously they will expect the other one to be a virgin, if the other one is not virgin, what will be your reaction, still you will accept, and more importantly its not a love marriage.
@malini4u (896)
• India
25 Jan 07
mine will be love..so no idea abt non love marriage... but in my case i will definitely accept it for my true love...the thing is he should also be true and franks with me ...dont care abt past things
@alextki (924)
• India
1 Feb 07
thanks, keep me posted
@berry9 (590)
• India
25 Jan 07
friend it would really make me mad if i come to know my husband touched someone else.love apart but to love him,he should be honest first.at the first night where you come with lots of expectations and thay break it by saying such things,it willreally put a person down.he must be frank but before marraige and come up.telling after marraige is great cheating.
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@alextki (924)
• India
25 Jan 07
I agree your points berry..
@gurubhai (79)
• India
25 Jan 07
Nothing is above love ,so if on the first night also u get to know about these things ,it may really upset you but you have to accept that and have to go ahead with that ,but it is better that it should be cleared before marraige but if not ,and the one u have married is your true love u can forgive them ,right?
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@alextki (924)
• India
9 Feb 07
thanks keep me posted :)
@vertex (803)
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
If you really love someone it doesnt really matter if she or he is a virgin because it is the who you wanted and not for that only.
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@alextki (924)
• India
26 Feb 07
thnaks and keep me posted :)
@ichampin (594)
• India
25 Jan 07
If i found out that my wife is not a virgin, then what I'll do is I don't get angry with her for not telling me before, but I keep my cool and ask her at sometime when she is in good mood about it, and after whatever answer she gives me, I would tell her that, Whatever had been your past, it is now past we should not look into it again anad again, Now I'll be faithful to you all my life and I expect you to be faithful with me. If there is any problem related to your past you can always have a chat with me over that.
@nw1911guy (1135)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Personally, I really don't care. I'm not and I don't expect her to be, but then that is sort of the way the culture has gone here in the US.
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• Indonesia
25 Jan 07
If you love that person.... Just love him/her no matter what he/she is... like it say..."L'amour n'est pas parce que mais malgre", i love you no matter what.... not I love you bcos... so thats not a matter for me...:)
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@oleinoleo (389)
• Malaysia
7 Feb 07
for me, i feel upset with him.. but, how to know men not a virgin anymore??? women suppose anyone know..but men??
@alextki (924)
• India
7 Feb 07
i mean, if he tells you that he is not virgin, then your response :), thanks for responding
• Malaysia
16 Feb 07
owh..sorry,supposely i cant accept it. but love is blind... but takes time to accept it. but if he really2 change, maybe i can...
• Australia
9 Feb 07
This should really be discussed before marriage. Along with whther you want kids, where you want to live etc etc. Honesty and frankness will help you more than expectations. I am not a virgin and I don't expect any partner I have to be. But that is my personal view.
@alextki (924)
• India
9 Feb 07
keep me posted
@scooby_13 (176)
• Italy
28 Jan 07
It's not important, I hope what my husband and I make love before the marriage!
@alextki (924)
• India
30 Jan 07
So it will not affect your relationship if your partner is not a virgin.. great.. but i dont think its possible in practical life
@cicci8331 (178)
• Pakistan
11 Feb 07
i think it is no problem with this,just you two are true lover,and there is no legal recourse if you find that your bride is not a virgin,and you have to be sure beforehand of either if she is a virgin or not,or if you are prepared to accepted her/him as she/he is(forgiven).i dont think i have enough faith for,and has difficulties of its own.
@edujccz (929)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
It is not important, what is important will be the outcome of a long relationship. This question for boys are one sided. Most boys probably will select a lady that is a virgin and not asking if he is a virgin himself. Thanks and good day
• Philippines
25 Jan 07
i don't think this matters anymore. as long as you love your spouse. beside in whichevers case, i think you should have talked about it before getting married in the first place.