i want to adopt
By babyreyn
@babyreyn (934)
Philippines
January 27, 2007 7:33am CST
I am 24 years old and youngest among my 3 siblings. I want to adopt child, but my parents refuse to, because they want me to get married and have my own family. But I am not prepare yet. I just want to have child. If you were on my case what will you do? thanks
2 responses
@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
26 Feb 07
If you think you're too young and not ready for a relationship, what makes you think you're ready for the responsibility of a child? Sorry, I know you probably won't like this post, but it is honestly how I feel.
A child is a huge responsibility, a committment 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
For all I know, you could be the greatest parent in the world when you get the opportunity, but if you're not ready for a relationship, you really need to sit down and think what makes you ready to have a child? What are yours reasons for wanting it?
@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
28 Feb 07
I believe the child give the color of life, release the stress and makes you smile even you're tired. I know because when I was leaving with my grandma's house, I have a niece who ease my tiredness everytime I went home after work. I also see it into my parents. I see the happiness in their eyes when we were there, although I am the youngest, at my age of 24, they stil treat me as their baby.
@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
When you have the child, you also include the responsibility of being a mom, when the child gets sick, even you don't have money, you have to have money because the child needs to be hospitalized. Even if you are very tired and asleep, when the baby cry in the middle of the night, you are forced to wake up and look for the baby. Well, I guess you are not going to have a child, if you're looking for pleasure and love.
@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
2 Mar 07
I love my daughter more than anything, and I would not trade her for anything in the world, but nothing can really prepare you for the hard work and committment that it takes.
Babies don't ease your tiredness and stress when they've been crying for 2 hours because they don't want to go to sleep. If anything, they make you more stressed.
Everyone sees the fun, happy side, when baby smiles and laughs and wants to play. No one else sees the middle of the night feeds, the overtired screams, the screams for seemingly no reason whatsoever. You get the good with the bad.
Yes, you get the unconditional love, but I think that may be what you are looking for. You want someone to love you, without the fear of being hurt. I just think that is the wrong reason to adopt a baby.
@pinoyskull (333)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
You're old enough to decide for yourself. Your parents shouldn't interfere. But I don't blame them, every parents always looks at their children even if they are old enough.
The best thing to do is explain to your parents why you decided to adopt a child and assure them that everything will be ok and for them not to worry.
@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
27 Jan 07
I understand my parents actually, my parents want me to have my own family, not just an adopted child. They want me to my own family. But the problem is, I am not yet prepared, I am too young. I dont want to enter into a relationship if I am not yet sure. HOnestly, I am afraid to be hurt, that is why I dont want to enter the world of having relationship. I grew up in a family that full of love alhough luck of many things. That is why I am afraid to hurt.
