hwo cn i get her back ???

India
January 27, 2007 11:57am CST
here is d story !!! i love one girl n more than love she is kinda my best friend !!! she starts loving me n she thinks dats nt crush !! i like her also !!! but due to d fact dat if this relationship does nt suceed their might be a possibilty dat we wont be able to talk to each other !!i dint agree to her at first but as time went !!! i also starts loving her !! too much !! n wen she realized dat im only d crush she starts feeling guilty n she starts regreting for everything ,one day she said she wont be able to take this dis relationship any further !!! at dat time i was too tensed due to some other personal problem !!! n wen she said dis i got depressed !!! ns tarts acting diffrently n at d same time she starts feeling more guity n she is blaming her for dis condition on mine !! one day she starts taking to me saying im d responcible for ur depression n this conditon !! its better i leave!! i from dat time she is nt taking to me !!! i want my best friend back !!! i cnt live without her !!! i now i hv made sme very big mistakes n acted very stupidly n unmaturely but plez help me !! what should i do !!! plezzz
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@wrdsofwisdm (1070)
• United States
28 Jan 07
You need to make sure you can be just friends with her before you go back and say you can be just friends. If you are not sure you can do this, you should wait until you know for sure that you can. I say this because if you try to be friends with her now and can't hold back your feelings, she will be out of your life forever. If you need time to get over the feelings, please take it and contact her when you are ready to be just friends. That way she will be in your life and you will have no regrets.
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• Philippines
27 Jan 07
sorry to tell you but can you type your message correctly the next time you satr any discussion. I can't even think a useful advice for you because I am having a hard time reading your topic. We'll here is my advise. Try to talk to her and explain everything and if she still want because you really want to make your friendship back. Although if ever she agreed to do that things will be different already, you both can't really pretend that things will be back to normal again because you already experienced some restrictions. If ever she don't want to talk to you ever again and keeping away from you then it's your move to free her and find another friends who you can rely on. You can really force anyone for your own benefit. Grow up and have a life not having her beside you. It's not forever that she will be by your side because she already planned to avoid you. There's a lot of things you can do as a single rather than having a partner. Try to find somethings that can really make you happy without her.
28 Jan 07
talk to her
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
Just want to correct some typo mistakes: "satr"=start. "You can really force anyone for your own benefit"= what I mean is you can't. Sorry for the mistakes. Just not perfect like a lot of us. :) Hope you'll get a lot fo advice.
• India
29 Jan 07
iam really sorry for my english !!! i use too many short words !!! i"Ll just take into concederation before i start another topic !! thnx for answering !!! hv a nice day
@RAMONES (537)
• Belgium
27 Jan 07
You could start by learning to talk and write some proper English... May be that would make a good impression on the girl, instead of the combination of vowls and sounds you're spewing all over MyLot now ... I do think that you see yourself as cool, but mark my words : in the end intelligence will rule !
• United States
28 Jan 07
calling her again may work sometimes in situations .
• Japan
28 Jan 07
lol@ramones , i know my english writing is rusty and all but you were right in that all those n, d, dat, dis etc.... just had me so frustrated i forgot what the topic was about but can guess most guys who seem unintelligent in the end wont make a good husband who can provide for a family , you may be fun but if your ignorant in the end you wont get the girl.
• India
29 Jan 07
im sorry for my english !! actully here we use so many short words due to chat n sms !! that sometimes i just forget to write porper english !! i do underdstand this is a international forum and not all people here know those short words and im really sorry for this n also thnkful also for understanding my situation n even wen i write so bad english which trouble most people here you do care to answer !11 thnx
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
27 Jan 07
Try talking to her as a friend and if you really love her you will let her decide on her own Don't pressure her then she will only do it out of guilt and never be truely happy or run away as far as posiible...
• India
29 Jan 07
thnx for ancring !! you are right maybe she needs some time !!! but you know !! i love her very much !! but even if she is with me as my best friend im happy !!
@326744 (10)
• India
27 Jan 07
u shud some how try 2 talk 2 her n xplain 2 her dat u were havin some other probs at dat tim n dats y u were so depressed. tell her dat she's vry imp 2 u n dat u wnt her as ur best fren so if d reln does not work out d other way it doesnt mean u cnt remain best frenz. if she refuses to talk get 2 her thru a letter or a card or make her confront u in person. after all a gud fren can never b lost. so keep tryin man
• United States
28 Jan 07
tell her that its not her fault and sit her down and explain till she understands
@maru_047in (1007)
• India
28 Jan 07
I think that is the only problem with the girls they start thinking guilty and they leave innocents like u and it is not fair and you just find out y she is upset and y she is not speaking with you and then try to solve her problem and create friendship once again i think that ll work out and let me know what happened.
@babyreyn (934)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
that is the problem of not knowing the proper segregation of feelings for bestfriend and for love. It is hard to keep it again once you broke it. THe best thing you can do is try to talk to her, and please don't act as if she is your world. Too corny.
@arwenrey (316)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
Give it some time and move on with your life don't revolve your life around her. There is still a better world for you without her you just don't realize it because you're stuck with her. Go out have fun and meet new friends who knows you might find someone better.
@theone3nu (598)
• India
28 Jan 07
ok well i sat for 1hr for ur love and i am going to give a gud hint. First of all go to her friend then talk to her say all about this story to her and ask her if she can do any help or just pass this msg to ur best friend. Then next go directly to ur best friend and say sorry then say i love u. show ur true love to her by showing this mylot discussion to her. Be sincere this time dont be angry on her. say clearly about ur mistakes to her. be cool say sweet words to her. Then definitely i belive ur love will success. Believe me. I wish u all the best hey give me reply .
• United States
28 Jan 07
Seems like you scared her off---but it's OK. There is light at the end of the tunnel. She can't be around you because she feels guilty that you like her, and she doesn't feel the same way about you. With that said - you need to get her a card, explain how you feel, and also tell her in the card that you are going to leave her alone when it comes to 'those feelings' so she can be more comfortable around you, and also she can get help for her depression. The last thing you need is to be a stalker - you will lose her forever. Again - tell her how you feel - tell her you will leave her alone - tell her you will always be there for her in any situation. This will help you lay your boundaries and move forward. If it's meant to be she will be yours. I know it's hard to hear now but I'm sure you will learn from this. Good Luck!
@ddm610 (117)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
i think talking to her is the best way to solve your problem. there's actually no one here who can dictate what you should tell her but yourself. just be true to yourself and to your feelings. tell her what you really feel, but be mindful of the words that you use to avoid further misunderstanding. i just wish you luck dude..
@avs189 (1030)
• India
28 Jan 07
Buddy have a clear heart as to what you feel about her rather than meandering about the facts and tangling ur friendship and love together .......be candid and approach her ,speak ur heart up........and say what u feel rather than beating around the bush....
@aksagi (413)
• India
28 Jan 07
Talk to her n explain her each thing briefly till she is in any dilema or doubt u can't get her back.... Rest her wish
• India
28 Jan 07
try to talk to her.. explain everything to her clearly.. i am sure she will understand.. all the best..
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
Actually it happens to me also.. My bestfriend a guy, told me that he loves me long time ago. He just cant say it before because i have a boyfriend that time. Hes really my bestfriend, i can tell him everything even personal issues or even problem with my boyfriend. After my bf and me broke up, he confess to me that he loves me eversince. I dont know what i feel because i dont expect that from him, anyways im not comfortable hearing that to him.. honestly i make space with us, i dont talk to him for a while. But after some time, i realize that our friendship is important so i talk to him, and said that only friendship i can offer with him, he accept that and now were still the same, hes still a bestfriend who always there for me no matter what.
@trogoz (140)
• Italy
28 Jan 07
I think she doen't want you anymore. Sorry but some people is so stupid that feels guilty or sorry when they like someone and start a relationship with em. Also, she said you're responsible of her depression, which is really awful. I'd stay away from her.
@jaizdeep (397)
• India
28 Jan 07
Hmm i think thats a bad situation i guess Heres what u should do about it.....Try and contact her anyway possible..iF u know her address just get some flowers delivered to he and make her feel that u still need her Make her realize that ur life is incomplete without her presence and that u need her there whether it be a friend or love Just make her realize her importance in your life...MAke her realize that its her who can take u to success and that if she isnt there to support u u cant move nay further in life and u re stuck bad time She is ur friend and she cares for u very much i i think she will get back to u for ur good and thats the time u can con\vice her that both of u are meant for each other...thats ur best chance i guess good luck mate!!
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
First of all, don't try to act that way. Be a MAN for her and not some boy or kid. Be mature enough to tell her how you feel and at an APPROPRIATE TIME at that. Let her feel that you can handle yourself. If you can handle yourself then it would convey a message to her that you can handle her too. Good luck man. =)
@fedge098 (1331)
• Philippines
28 Jan 07
if you love her then you should fight for her. let her know how much she means to you. that is one great act you can at least show her. =)