Don't know what to do
By kirenz
@kirenz (374)
Canada
January 28, 2007 10:23pm CST
I really love my fiance and he loves me too. but sometimes I don't like his behaviour, he just totally behaves carelessly even in my case, and when I try to tell him that I felt bad about how you behaved he says that I am keep repeating old stuff. I really dun't repeat old stuff alot. I dun have much girly habbits of repeating old fights. but All I want is him not to repeat that behaviour again. I really dun't understand what to do he even stoped talking to me onces only because some misunderstand happened and he didnt c ared about my feelings. All I said him after everything was back to normal that don't do that kind of stuff I feel hurt.I can't tell him that time because I dun't want to make things worse, we can't live without eachother too. What should I do? I even started to keep things to myself too but now I feel like a m apart from him, and feel like I am a stranger to him.
3 responses
@darkknight888 (200)
• India
29 Jan 07
Have you heard the old saying, you hurt the one who you love the most, thats what happening between you two. Its a sign to show more love. May be if is trying to make you jealous
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@darkknight888 (200)
• India
29 Jan 07
he may be making u jealous to see how much u love him. if u r really jealous u will get a red face towards him and i bet thats what he got from u.
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@kalpan_vasa (324)
• India
29 Jan 07
Hello Kirenz
I strongly believe that any relationship could stay longer in a healthy atmosphere only if it is based on Honesty, love, understanding and open communication. These all are inter connected. If you are not in open communication with your partner, you surely not going to understand him properly or he will not going to understan you as well.
Whatever happed to you was not good. Your fiance shouldnt have done that. But here what makes me more tense is, you have already talked about all this with your fiance. He knows that you don't like such things and you get hurt from such behaviour too. Still he is doing the same so I am sorry to say but I don't think, he is really loves you much.
In love or any other relationship like marraige, respect is alos a very important thing. Both the person should have respect for each other. They should have respect for other's feelings, opinions and all. I don't think he respects your feelings. If he does, he wouldnt have done such things.
What I could truly suggest you is, if you really feel just give it one more try. Try to make him understand in much more better manner and see. If after some days or time, you still finds not changes in him, I would surely suggest you to leave and move on.
You deserve someone more worthy.
All the best.
@kirenz (374)
• Canada
31 Jan 07
may be u are right, but i can't c my life without him. I even tired being without him but badly failed. and its not that he is not been nice to me. he is.. but he is neglecting my deep feelings. which really mean to me. . and he hates them, and if I start lving without those, I feel that I am not happy..
Is it just me or Do i have to sacrifise my feelings just to live? i sai dlive because I cant live widout him. may be it sounds a little too stupit. but sometimes we can't change wat we are.
@maribel1218 (3085)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
hi kirenz!
The foundation of a good and healthy relationship is base on love and trust and most of all open commnunication. All things about him either positive and negative should be freely discuss.
We sometimes build a wall between the one we love by keeping all the things that made us mad and that wall grew higher and higher as days pass by we sudden burst into great anger and that wreck our relationship.
A piece of advice is that try to settle things between disagreement before the sun down be honest to him and control your anger try to talk to him with soft spoken words.
