Life of a Mistress: Do you think they're happy with it?

I guess it depends on the person. I would imagine that most of them want the guys to leave their wives. But anything is possible. People are strange.

I think some women want to be married to a man, but sometimes, it just seems that some women don't want to settle down, they're just happier being the other woman because they don't want to be tied down. I'm sure some mistresses have other men on the side as well, as I don't think it's limited to one other partner.

Of course they're not happy being a mistress. No one wants to be a mistress but it is a choice made my them. Maybe they love the person so much and they cannot live without them. At some in their lives, they wish to be the one and only wife.

I would always think that they would want to lead a normal live. Meaning, no need to hide or fear that the wives would find out about them. It's the guilt that will always haunt them until they break the relationship. It's something not to be proud of, i'd say.

I dated a married man once. It was hard because he was always leaving. I did love him very much, but eventually ended it because I felt I deserved much more than that.

i dun think they are comfortable nor happy.. what's the point of having a partner but he is not meant for us? i dun think that these people even have a peace of mind..knowing that they are always in the second place. a big no-no for me to be a mistress... i prefer to have a normal life..to be a wife one day... amiiinnn...

Well, I have wondered how they truly can be Happy with the life they are leading now. I would think they are just kidding themselves even if they seem Happy at the moment, and usually will end up having something happen in their life down the road that will make them regret their situation. I Honestly wonder how they can think that this is the answer?

I think they have low self esteem and are afraid to demand what they deserve.

of-course everybody in life want a committment to their relationship, you are absolutely right

I think anybody who could have any part in upsetting a marriage doesn't have any conscience which is disturbing to me.

I guess it's common knowledge that mistresses would always have to contend with the possibility of later on losing the man, or having to compete with the wife and/or kids for the man's attention and affection. This is very tough so mistresses obviously live a life of discontent or perhaps unhappiness because of the instability of the situation. The question is, "What really drives women to become mistresses?" Is it really love or could it also be for excitement or adventure? I know a lot of women really go for married men for the experience and perhaps for the fun, but later on suffer the consequence. Thus, since it's really difficult to know what goes on in the minds of mistresses, I could just surmise that there could be mixed feelings of excitement as well as discomfort.

I have often wondered why a women would settle for less than becoming a wife. You have to sneak around and can only go out with the guy at his conveince. I wonder do they start out being a mistress or after going with the guy does he propose this kind of a relationship. To me it is a very complicated type of a relationship. The holidays are the wives. What does the mistress have to look forward to on those days. I would be miserable and I can't picture any mistress being happy with their relationships like that.

The life of a mistress is a complicated one. You must be very independant. I never admired or wanted to be my BF wife. If anything I did feel sorry for her, that she couldn't see what a great guy she really had. My relationship started at a time when I really did not want a 24/7 kind of relationship. I was still trying to figure out what I wanted career wise and didn't want the emotional upheaval that a regular relationship has. While it started with attraction, it grew into a friendship and now it is love. Now, almost two years after meeting, we are living together while he is going through his divorce.