How much help should you give your children with homework?

United States
January 29, 2007 9:05am CST
When my kids were growing up, I always emphasized getting the homework done early. My oldest child would sit down and 15 minutes to an hour or so later it was finished. My youngest on the other hand would sit down and work on 15 minutes worth of homework for the next 6 hours. I normally only helped the older one when she was stumped. The younger one always tempted me to help her just to get the ordeal overwith. Sometimes I caved in and sometimes I didn't. But, overall, I would have to say the younger one received 10 times the help of the older one. They have both grown up and completed college degrees generally without any help from me except huge piles of cash. So, neither approach seems to have a clear advantage over the other. I did, however, often help both when I deemed the homework as too extreme in quantity or difficulty. I also enjoyed working with them both on large longer term projects.
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• United States
29 Jan 07
As a former teacher I can tell you that I used to expect parents to help there child with the homework. It gives the child more practice and allows the parent the opportunity to see what is being worked on in class. Every teaher I know, expects that there are parents involved in the homework.
• United States
30 Jan 07
The only addition I would make to your response is to say good in front of teachers. My girls had a few (thankfully just a few) teachers that never graded homework and really only assigned it because they thought kids should be kept busy doing something. (Read that as seen and not heard) The only rub I had was the feeling that a few too many times they came home with no clue about how some of the homework was to be done because not enough time was given to the material in class. One teacher even said she was really tired after a day of performing for her students.(?)
• Philippines
29 Jan 07
as long as they are not having a hard time with their homework, i let them do it alone and have it all checked right after all has been answered. if i see any wrong or mistakes from it, then that is the only time i join with them to correct their studies.
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