children sharing rooms

a baby sleeping - a sleeping baby
@wmaharper (2316)
United States
January 29, 2007 6:56pm CST
I have a four month old and a two year old (both boys), the four month old currently sleeps in the play room in his bassinet at night, but sleeps in his crib in the boy's room during his naptime. We would like the boys to share a room, but I am very hesitant to put them in the same room. My 2 year old is a very light sleeper, and I am scared the baby will wake him up alot in the middle of the night. DO you have any suggestions on the easiest way to do this? Thanks in advance!
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@mdilan (803)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Well, I have a 13 month old and a 3 month old. What we do is that we keep the bassinet in the master room and the crib in the other room. Now, we have a monitor for us to hear our toddler. Why do you want them to share a room if your 4 month old is so little?
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I'm sorry, I didn't clarify, I don't want them to share a room yet, we'll wait until he is at least 6 months, if not longer, just trying to get some ideas for the future. Thanks!
@mansha (6301)
• India
30 Jan 07
I think this ios a good thread I will keep checking it often, may be someone will really guide you. I am facing the same problem. MY son is seven year old and my daughter is seven month but she likes his room so much that she keeps pointing us to take us there or she will cry til you take her to his room and thing is she is a night owl and when everyone is feeling sleepy she is the one raring to go on. SHe does not let her brother sleep at all. She will keep saying eh eh in her loudest voice till he responds. I am dreading the future too. She prefers his room to all the others. I hope by the time she is grown, my so also would be better than he is now.
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• Netherlands
30 Jan 07
i wouldn't let them share the room, only if they are old enough to say thatthey realy want it! she is 7 months and already decides in wich room to sleep?lol my daughter is 8,5 months old and i know she is already trying to be the "boss"! when she cries in her bed she cries very loud! when i pick her up she is stops crying and ofcourse when i put her back to bed she starts crying again! so i let her cry! the first time it took 13 minutes, the second time 7 minutes and the third time only 3! ofcourse it is difficult but better for your son right?
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@jmp824 (741)
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
For me, kids sharing rooms is ok. they will be more bonded and close to each other. but since the other is a light sleeper, i think you have to separate the other one, put it in another room. My 7 and 2 year old sons share a bedroom. And my 7 year old loves it. He loves to cuddle with his brother early morning before he goes to the shower.
• India
30 Jan 07
but her kids r tooo small hgow can they share the room
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Oh, that's so sweet. I hope my boys are that close when they get older.
@apky12 (776)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I don't think it's a good idea to put them in the same room right now. You are going to have to wait until the baby is much older b/c he needs attention, food, etc. in the middle of the night.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
yes, I agree, see the above comment for more clarification.
• Philippines
30 Jan 07
Same here. It's quite early for baby to sleep in his brother's room. Maybe later when he's about 1-2 years old.
@Sir_bobby88 (8245)
• Singapore
30 Jan 07
I do think that you should try to monitor your little four month year old baby yea ... after it is better for him to sleep with you all , when he cries , you can immediately attend to it isn't it ? anyway you should let you 2 year old boy have more sleep in that case yea
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
well, he doesn't really wake up right now, but we will wait until he is older to put him in his brother's room.
• India
30 Jan 07
SEE ONE WHO IS OF 4 MONTHS LET HIM SLEEP WITH U BECAUSE AT NIGHT IF HE WAKES UP AND CRIES WHO WILL SEE TO IT THAT HE STOPS CRYING AND SLEEPS WELL
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Yes, we will wait until he is older, before we move him to his brother's room, but he doesn't sleep in our room right now, he sleeps through the night.
@minerc (1373)
• United States
30 Jan 07
My children share rooms now but they are older, when they were younger I didnt put them togather until about 1 year, I kept the baby in my room instead, I just felt more secure that way. If your 2 year old is a light sleeper it probally wouldnt be a good idea unless the baby is sleeping all night. I would at least wait until then, if the baby is sleeping all night then go ahead it shouldnt matter and if the baby does wake up in the middle of the night the 2 year old can always come in and let you know. Good Luck
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
YEs, he did sleep with us in our room for awhile, but I am such a light sleeper, every time he would sigh, I would wake up, so we moved him to another room. We will wait until the baby is a little older, and see from there. Thanks for your response.
• Canada
30 Jan 07
I am not sure what to say, but we were in the same type of set up while growing up and my older brothers got through it as I did and my next younger brother did when Neil, the last one, was born. 4 boys all in one big room, with the crib over in one corner with the baby. Your son will survive.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
wow, four boys all in the same room.. I'm sure you all got into trouble here and there. (: Thanks for your input!
@pclife (246)
• Malaysia
30 Jan 07
No, for me ,he is too young to let your baby sleep without you...At this age , I think it is recommended for you to be always close to your baby to avoid any harm ...It as safety precautious coz he is a little too young.... Any way , you may still let your baby sleep in separate room but it must be not far from your room & you can see & hear his voice if he starts to cry.. http://www.babycenter.com/expert/baby/babycare/newborns/9950.html
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
well, we won't consider having him sleep in his brother's room until he is at least 6 months, and even then we will decide based on his and his brother's development. Our four month old has been sleepign through the night for some time, but you always worry, putting them together if the 2 year old will understand that he needs to leave his brother alone. Thanks for your insight.
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
30 Jan 07
I think you should give it a try, you might find your older son will get used to it and become a heavy sleeper. When my youngest went into a room with my daughter, she woke up when he did for the first few nights. After a few days she stopped waking up when he did. I have found that they really bonded when they started sharing a room. If you try and it doesn't work, then at least you gave it a shot. Your older son would probably love to have his little brother in his room.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
YEs, I think you are right, my oldest would love it! He loves his little brother and cries when I have to put the baby down for a nap. He'll say "No, my baby, no night night, play!!" (: I have heard that they usually just get used to each other. thanks for your response.
• Australia
30 Jan 07
Luckily, we have enough bedrooms in our house to all have our rooms. My 2 boys aged 7 and 12 wanted to share a room but as they have a love/hate relationship, it never eventuated. Even if they did share a room, there wouldnt be enough room in the bedrooms because they arent very big.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Yes, we have enough room right now if we didn't want them to share, we would just convert the play room into a bedroom.. but we would like them to share a room, as they have a ton of toys, and I don't know how they would all fit in the bedrooms with them, and we think they would enjoy it, and we are planning on having another child (not right now.. or anytime soon) but if it doesn't look like it will work out, we may just have to bite the bullet and have them seperated. We'll see how it goes. Thanks.
• United States
30 Jan 07
My kids do not share a room. I have a 5 yr old boy and a 2 yr old girl. My little girl sleeps in a crib in my room. My son has his own room. The reason they don't share a room right now is because my daugther wouldn't go to sleep if she knew someone was in the room with her. I put them to bed at the same time and she wouldn't go to sleep. I have tried to go to bed in my bed at the same time I put her in the crib and she won't go to sleep. We are going to move soon, though and HOPEFULLY they can get their own rooms so she can get out of mine. My niece is almost 5 and she has a 1 yr old brother. They have separate rooms; however, she wakes up every single time he does in the night. Is that the case with you? maybe try to put them in the same room for a night or two and see how it works...your 2 yr old may surprise you.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
No, actually the 2 year old hardly wakes up anymore. So I'm not sure he's such a light sleeper anymore. He was very bad at sleeping deeply when he was younger, every move you made woke him up, I couldn't take a shower, and had to unplug the phones in the house so he could take a nap. But he has gotten better at tuning things out.. I am hoping that you are right and that he will surprise me! Thanks!
@GardenGerty (90274)
• Marion, Kansas
30 Jan 07
The older boy may actually like it and be reassured by the company in his room. I think he will learn, just as we all do, to be selective in the sounds that are disturbing. I would probably wait until the baby is a bit older, but I do not think it is harmful. My son slept better after his sister was born. They did not actually share a room, but were in kind of adjacent alcoves. I am not kidding, Vince did not sleep through the night regularly and soundly until Sam was born.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
wow, I have actually noticed since the birth of our youngest, that our oldest sleeps alot better. I never really thought about the connection until you mentioned it here. That is very strange, I never would have connected it on my own. Thanks for your insight!
• Australia
30 Jan 07
I had five sons, three of them very close in ages. The three shared a very large bedroom for a number of years and they never had any problems. They are close-knit and all are quite fussy about keeping things in order. I think if you had one that was untidy and one tidy, things could get chaotic, but otherwise I think it is better for them to share. I realise you are not considering putting your sons together just yet. Time will tell and you will know, which way to go.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Yes, I agree, I think with more time I'll know if they are suited to share a room. My sister and I shared a room, and we are quite opposites. My mother always laughs about our room, as my side would be as clean as possible, and her side a disaster! (: Although, I don't recall it causing too many problems, as we were rarely even home. Thanks for your response.
@quispy (573)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I'm so sorry that I have no advice to offer you. My 7 and 8 year old share a room and it is pure torture. My 7 year old would just lay his head down and go to sleep if the 8 year old would just leave him alone. I can't put my 7 year old into bed earlier than his brother because world war 3 would break out right in my home. I'm at my wits end. It was much easier when they were younger.
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
ugh, I think if my boys end up doing that, they won't share a room.. that would be tough.
@hariharbhat (1314)
• India
30 Jan 07
I have a suggestion. you can make the children to sleep with you and neednot hinder their emotional growth in the name of independantly growing up.Whenever you feel that you two should meet for biological needs, can go to another room and can return to bed ,after that actions. Why not imlement in your life.We find it very homogeneous for family life and our children will not build up unnecessary emotional attachemnt with their friends and lead to diversions in their life.
@saunty (604)
• India
30 Jan 07
i dont think that childrens from such a early age should be left alone in a room at night...there are so many things which always go around their growing mind , they moght me taumatized of something unusual happens ...so i would suggest not to left them alone in a room till they grow up a little and be bit mature
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• United States
30 Jan 07
My sister and I shared a room until I was about 10 years old. It was fine. We actually became really close!
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@shopkaro (284)
• India
30 Jan 07
hey no problem over it i don't think there would be much problem as they are still too young to quarrel or argue so u need not worry much about children sharing rooms no need to worry.
@Geminigirl (1909)
• United States
30 Jan 07
I would not worry about it and go ahead and let them share a room. Back in the olden days, kids did it all the time. There was much lesss house space then. I think it will be ok, but you know what is best.
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@carlaabt (3508)
• United States
30 Jan 07
My nieces share a room, now. Not because my sister wanted them to, in fact she wouldn't let them at their old house. But at their new house, my 5 year old niece would get up in the middle of the night and go sleep in the floor by her sister's crib. Finally my sister gave in. And moved the little one's crib into the 5 year old's room. She didn't want them to share a room before because the 2 year old has a breathing problem and wakes up in the middle of the night a lot of times. Mackenzie, the 5 year old, was always a light sleeper too so she was also afraid that Savannah would keep her up. Now that they are sharing a room, though, Mackenzie only wakes up when Savannah cries and can't get back to sleep because of her breathing. And then Mackenzie will just go help her get out of her crib and they go together to get my sister or brother in law. They both love sharing a room. I would talk to the 2 year old about it. Ask him if it is okay if his baby brother comes in and sleeps at night. If he says no, give it a few days and ask him again. Maybe try to make it something fun. When my neighbors put their boys in the same room, they told them the first few nights that they were having a sleep over! The boys loved it. Then they wanted a sleep over every night so it worked out great. They were 17 and 28 months old at the time.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Thanks for the good ideas! YEs, I think we may wait until the boys are a little older, but this will help when the time comes. thanks again.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
30 Jan 07
Thanks for the good ideas! YEs, I think we may wait until the boys are a little older, but this will help when the time comes. thanks again.