You never do things right!! when will you ever understand?
January 30, 2007 12:12am CST
some angry partners tell their significant others these words. Do they really mean it? I mean, literally? If your spouse tells you this, how will you take it?
30 Jan 07
The term "right" is subject to huge scrutiny and opinion. You may well always do things right. In your mind it "is" right. In their mind they have another opinion on what they think is right. My response to them would be something like - Being right is a matter of opinion. What you see as right is different from what I see as right. Perhaps you could just accept this fact and learn to appreciate that we are all different! You are not as perfect as you think you are! Perfection is also an illusion as the correct term would be "different" not "perfect" We are all different in so many ways and its a positive not a negative. There are so many ways in which things can get done. Try to find a compromise and meet in the middle. You can both be happy then. However if your partner still thinks that they are perfect, then I guess you need to go back out there and find someone who has a higher level of maturity.
30 Jan 07
Very well said Soulistix! The term "right" is relative and a matter of personal perception. Or it can be that you both agree on what is "right", but your partner doesn't really mean what he/she said, it's just a sudden verbal expression of anger and frustration but nothing deep. In anger where our weapons are words, we tend to hone them as sharp as possible to inflict pain. I don't know, I tend to look at it this way. But your point is well taken. Cheers!