Do you think Marriage should come before Children?

I did things kinda messed up too. It started out how people want it to be...kinda. I had a son when my partner and I met. We fell in lust, as you said, got married, fell in love, had two children, fell out of love, got divorced, but found out I was pregnant, moved in together, had two more kids, move apart, moved back, had another child, move apart, moved back, moved apart, I became ill and needed help, moved back, almost moved apart again....we never got re-married and have seven children together (including the first). And, I don't see us getting married because we just have a hard time working things out. So, for the most part...I think we work things out for the kids. So, do I see a problem with your situation? Nope! You seem to be doing great to me!

There's no set order for everyone anymore. There are couples who want children but don't want to get married. There are couples that want to get married but don't want children. And there are couples who can't live together, married or not, but are geat parents.Also there are people who choose to be a single parent. I agree with you, as long as the children are loved and well cared for , it works.

There is not right or wrong in the order of these two. But if I could choose, I prefer to marry first. It's good to have some time alone first before the kids. You need to have some time alone for adjustments. Then you can have kids, that's another new adjustment period.