Where do you draw the line between LOVE and INFATUATION?

@techsam (158)
India
January 30, 2007 6:38am CST
The question is very simple. Let me give you a scenario. There is this boy/girl you know for quite soemtime now, and you really like him/her. But, you are not sure whether to term this as love or infatuation? So how will you differentiate between both these feelings to gauge the true nature of your feelings towards this person?
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• India
31 Jan 07
Why do u hv to come up with such complicated topics hahahaha and as is it I will hv to put my thghts fwd on this topic too.... Since the scene is already been created and from the first stage of attraction the boy and gal have reached the second stage which is either love or infatuation and they cannot decide wat it is, then may be some simple tricks wud help: 1. Give some space to ur partner and to yourself. Get involved in ur fav activities or spend time with ur frnds rather than being with that person all the time, calling or chatting with him/her. If its just infatuation, after sometime the intensity of seeing that person or being with him will decrease, and u will realize that its ws just coz u were habitual or used to spend time with that person, u were missing him/her initially though u may still like the person and become a good frnd..... If its love the intensity with every passing moment will increase, the longing will be more and you will feel the same way for that person as you have felt for the first time, even if u r not seeing him/her regularly... 2. Be your natural self in front of that other person. Do not pretend and change urself as per the likings of the other person, and see if you still share the same frequency and closeness, u will soon realize whether it ws a mere infatuation or true love. I think this shud help..... Well to be really frank do not know whether it does :D, So if someone try this please let me kno if it does.....
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@techsam (158)
• India
31 Jan 07
So going by your first point love for someone is quite similar to addiction for something... u really crave for it, when you don't have it!!
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@opinder (420)
• India
31 Jan 07
i feel quite the same. you ought to give space to your partner and yourself too. live your life as you did before him/her. if you manage well (you'll take some time to getting used to being away from him/her for longer than usual)good....if you are constantly reminded of your partner,you surely have something more than mere infatuation for him/her.
• India
31 Jan 07
@Opinder: Right, u hv presented my thghts in exact words.... Thanks ! @Sam: Its more than an addiction. Its like Infatuation and Love are somewhat like Want and Need. You may want something, even if u dont need it and will be ok even if u dont get it......TATS INFATUATION ! But If u need something, u cnt survive without having it.....tats LOVE !
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
30 Jan 07
Whenever this situation is to be faced, A clear cut approach and open talk would resolve the issue. As such you have rightly raised the topic which happens with so many young love birds. This cofusion or in other words a cowardness or excess shyness stops the pair from opening the issue with each other. One out of two should open the heart, makes the trauma healed. A straight forward question like " Do you love me? because I do! " must come out. Other wise the line you wanted to draw is not one but they become two parallel lines going to infinity without intersecting anywhere(meeting any where)
@techsam (158)
• India
30 Jan 07
But, then how do you differentiate???? After all, I can go ahead and say "I love you" to someone onlly to realise that it really sin't anything like that after say a year!! That would be catastrophic!! So, how we know?? When we have seriously been hit by the cupid??
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• India
1 Feb 07
The understanding is simple if you take it in a simple way !! when you want someone to be just beside you whenever you turn around is the one. You neither attracted by the physical need not by that girl/by look !! I mean to say... although these two are important aspect of love life... these become immaterial to you that time you will know that you are in LOVE and else you are having an INFATUATION !!
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