Fair Weather Friends?

United States
January 31, 2007 10:48am CST
I'm over fair weather friends, I don't mind helping a friend in need, but some friends tend to be so needy and are never around to help you when you need it. I avoid fair weather friends like the plague. Is that being selfish?
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@snowflake5 (1579)
• United States
20 Feb 07
I agree. I especially get irritated with friends who only contact you to talk about their problems or their successes. They arn't really interested in you at all, you are just an audience to them. And when you do need help, they are nowhere to be seen.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
I seem to be running into these people more and more often. It's very frustrating because I really don't mind helping people, I actually enjoy it. I just don't like disrespect and abuse.
• United States
17 Dec 08
This sounds just like a "friend" of mine. She only calls when she is sick or bored. She actually calls me to tell me how much money she spends on clothes, shoes and her kids. She even told me how much her boyfriend makes and how much she spends on food. More info than what I needed to know. She just loves to brag.It tends to get boring after awhile.
@bicklelady (1411)
• United States
11 Mar 07
I know exactly what you mean. There is a man that use to be a so called friend. It got to the point where everytime I see him, he would always ask for money. Now when I see him coming, I will go in the other direction.
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@sweetie88 (4559)
• Pakistan
26 Feb 07
I too help my friends maximum but actually, there is no such person who'll b sincere with u 100% except ur Parents. I have many fair weather freinds and i know that they r fair weather friends but i still live with them and help them. My God'll reward me and i always keep in my mind " a friend in need is a friend in deed."
• United States
11 Mar 07
I try to help my fair weather weather friends too! I don't expect my friends to return the favor but sometimes it is quite annoying.
@few00cent (2141)
• India
21 Feb 07
I don't really look for something in return.but i get irritated from people who acts as a friend just for there mean.i am one who call me as friend just for courtsey.i agree with you and i don't think you being selfish.indeed,we don't have any choice other than keeping distance from them.i have came across such people and believe me it had annoyed me much.
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• United States
21 Feb 07
me too! I was venting. LOL I get so frustrated. I do truly love helping people.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
20 Feb 07
NO not really, you are just trying to protect yourself. I don't think you have to be friends with anyone you don't want to. I think yes, you should be friendly, but you don't have to put yourself in a situation where you will constantly be taken advantage of. That's not selfish. We have quite a few friends that we are constantly helping, especially when they move, and they have never helped us. It doesn't really bother us much, we never really consider them to be true friends, and we know that going in to it. We don't have an intimate relationship with them, and never will, because they have proven that they are not real friends.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
It seems a lot of people cross paths with these people. LOL My husband always helps his buddies out but when he needs a helping hand it seems like no one is available. I have the same problem with watching other people children. From can you do me a favor and pick the kids up after school, I'm running a little late....several hours later they show up. I had to stop being so helpful because it starting interfering with my family's schedule. One women has picked up her children after midnight on more than one ocassion. I feel for the kids but I had to start saying NO!
• Philippines
20 Feb 07
Well I don't like those kind of people too. I guess it depends on the person. If she allows those kind of friends to be around, then it is not easy to get rid of them in your system. Just be careful with the people you mingle with everyday.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
20 Feb 07
No not selfish at all. Being used is not kewl. These people can be very tiring too. Life's too short.
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• United States
20 Feb 07
yep, they are the gimme gimme people. It does tend to get tiring.
@lifeiseasy (2292)
• United States
20 Feb 07
Yes for some reason its seems we all have a friend like that ... first I want to say no you are not being selfish in any way shape or form ... some people just seem to have bad habits and their bad habit is only being there for you when there is something in it for them ... I don't understand people like that ... Some of the best times I have had with my friends is when they need me ...but I must admit thats what makes me happy to be able to help someone else ...so avoid them if you can ...I wish i could say no more often ...lol ...thanks for that discussion I felt I needed that one ....sometimes it feels good to just say what you feel about some people ... lol
• United States
20 Feb 07
I enjoy helping people too. And I really don't expect any favors in return. I do because I want to help...but there comes a point in time when you're really not HELPING anymore, you are just encouraging them to be rude, inconsiderate and selfish.
@CRiley27 (984)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Is that being selfish? Absoutly not. I think when it comes to being a good friend (Or just a good person) I am very good at giving my help and such. But to have someone in my life that is just a taker, I can not have. While I do not do things for people to get something in return, but to know that someone is not going to offer some tye of friendship unless they need something is not a friend. I too stay away from takers.
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• United States
31 Jan 07
My point exactly! It's very frustrating at times.
@smille (831)
• India
11 Mar 07
its not at all selfish, but wht i do is just keep it in mind that they r fair weather friends, and dont be so close to them, thts wht i follow.......