should i undergo surgery?
By invictus27
@invictus27 (18)
Philippines
January 31, 2007 11:09pm CST
I was diagnosed with rheumatic heart disease when i was 12. Now i'm already 25, and me and my partner wanted to start a family soon. The problem is, my cardiologist told me i can't bear a baby because it will be too risky for me. My left ventricle and aorta are damaged. She told me that i have to undergo an operation first before planning to have a baby. My partner said I should heed my doctor's advice but i'm reluctant because aside from the operation costs a fortune, I'm also afraid to put my life in the hands of the surgeon. help me with my dilemma. Should i undergo surgery? What are the pros and cons?
4 responses
@biwasaki (1745)
• United States
1 Feb 07
Have you considered a surrogate mother to carry your child? I don't know what the costs are for either process, but its something worth considering. If thats not an option, you could also consider adoption. There are many babies and children out there in need of a loving, stable, home environment.
Personally, I would be afraid to undergo such a surgery. But if the benefits outweigh the risk in the long run then it may be worth it.
Good luck to you whatever you decide!!
@lexiemuycs (55)
• Philippines
4 Mar 07
i agree..
i, too, have rheumatic heart disease. I'm 18... and my only maintenance is my monthly injections.
In your case, you might risk your condition if you won't undergo the surgery. But if you undergo the surgery, you will also risk somethings ALthough you won't know if it will yield a good result or not.
@invictus27 (18)
• Philippines
9 Mar 07
thanks biwasaki! i still prefer having my own baby, even if it means risking my life.
hi lexie! continue your monthly injection of penadur. that'll help you avoid further complications. i was so stubborn not to heed the advice and warnings of my cardiologist. i stopped my injection after a year of using it bcoz i hate the pain caused by that injectable medicine. now, i regret my stubborness. my cardio told me, i would have been fine now if i only continued my monthly injection.**sigh**
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
9 Dec 07
You are absolutely right my dear invictus27, you cant possibly risk such an operation, what point is there in going for this and you not only die, but also fail to get the much desired baby-Does this fiancee love you for the baby's sake? I know babies are crucial in marriage but what logic is there in going about it in such a risky manner? If you really need the baby, lets use the operation money to hire a surrogate mother-Doctors can extract your eggs and his sperm cells and externally fertilize them and then,your sister or a kind person could accept to bear the child! This is possible.
@beaniegdi (1964)
•
9 Mar 07
My son had to have major heart surgery when he was 18 as they had found out from a medical that he had a very large hole in his heart. I know this is different but he was frightened and put if off for a few months but they said he had to have it as he did not have a normal life expectancy. In England we are lucky as we don't pay for these operations as we have national health service, it was a big operation but he is fine now.
@rashidjamiri_3000 (27)
• Philippines
21 Oct 07
invictus im an open-heart- surgery operated person.dont be afraid of the operation.during the operation you will be asleep.You will be asked to take a sleeping pill before the operation starts.when you wake up,the operation is already finished.better heed to the doctors advice.ask for financial support from your politicians or charity institutions..now i feel much better after the operation.
