Breaking Up With A Long Distance Love
February 1, 2007 1:39am CST
I wanted to share this to you. This is came from a letter sender from anonymous magazine. What can you say about it? Does she did right? Here it goes... Im not really confused. I just need to know if I did the right thing or if what I decided on and have done was irretational or unfair. It's been a month since I decided to let go of my boyfriend. He didn't ask for it nor did he commit any infedelities I now of. One night, I sent him a text message saying I needed to let him go so he could freely pursue his goals without the commitment in our relationship. We have a long distance love. He's in the States working for US government. In three years, he has failed to keep his promise to come home to the Philippines three times. He planned, bought a ticket but about a week or two before coming home, something would come up. He'd call to say he couldn't come home because of work and would promise to come home next time.It turned worse when he told me he had big job offers and he was apprehensive to come in the next 12 months. This was disappointing because promises to me are like commitments that, once broken, make me lose my faith in the person. I thought about letting him go for three months before I finally told him I was letting him go for his dreams. That's the hardest thing I've ever done. I sent Him a "thank you" card for all the years of our relationship. Until now we haven't talked. I love him very much but it seems I was led to that decision because I feel I need a break from all the upsets I'm going through . I also feel I need to give him the freedom to pursue all his personal goals that he has always wanted.
15 Feb 07
opportunity knocks once, twice.. the guy grabbed the opportunity and stayed longer in the states, but he never let go of the girl because obviously, he's committed and his trust in their relationship is total. its so sad because the girl decided to end it up. there's so much thing to do.. if they'd tried to work it out, i believe it could work.. but if the other party isn't willing, then the journey i guess, is over..
15 Feb 07
in having a long dstance relationship, so called LDR, we are tested how far we could go with it. our committment, fidelity, faithfulness, etc is being tested.. how much we believe with that relationship, and how eager we are to make it work .. staying in love with your partner who's away is a challenge for the two of them to face. we have to remember, sacrifice goes with it.. everything's a choice.. either you stay committed and go with the worthy pain, or have no comitment and move on because you cant bear the pain anymore.. she've already waited for years, she'd passed them..why breaK it off??.. who knows, maybe its worth all the pain.. maybe its worth the wait..
• United States
3 Feb 07
I think that the woman did the right thing. He never came to see her, I understand about being tied up with work but it seems like in 3 years, there would at least be one time he would have gotten off. I'm in the US and I don't think that the US Goverment makes it's employees work 3 years straight without some kind of a break. He made her false promises and though he claimed work was the reason, he seems maybe he was just leading her on.