truck driversand Cheating

United States
February 1, 2007 12:18pm CST
My man is a truck driver and he swears he never picks up other women ,but when I do his bed laundry I find all kinds of hair on the blankets. I have been snotty to him about it, like saying "who ever she is she has preet red hair." And he gets mad and says I don't know where that came from. I am like yeah ok, right. And walk away. I know many guys who are truck drivers and they all stick together like glue, no one tells on another. It is sick. Why do they think they can do this junk. I repeat all the time to guys when they are talking about a "Lot Lizzard" pick up, I say Herpies,Siphilis,AIDES! And they just laugh.Men can be nasty.
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@anja31 (708)
• Canada
1 Feb 07
my husband is also a truck driver. One thing is that I know i trust him. I work hard and I will never cheat on me. By the way he is at home by day.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
2 Feb 07
well you don,t have a problem since yours is home at night he does short runs and comes home nights.I believe this lady is talking about long hauls..
• United States
2 Feb 07
he does 3 days and 2 days out sometimes, and then some times he's home every night, At times I really believe him, but other times I just cant.I am not saying all drivers are bad, one of my uncles is & he is a church going man, and wouldn't never do anything to hurt his loveing wife .But the people my man works for are weird,they drivers for that company goes on a trip to Tenn. each fall to see the grand Rod Run Car Show,and no wifes allowed to go,due to they may cause a upset with the group!Silly huh!
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@katty0004 (387)
• United States
1 Feb 07
My husbands a truck driver to and he always says if you want a diease do a lot lizzard , thats not all thats out there , the cross dresser are just as bad hanging around the rest areas , he don't let anyone in his truck it to dangerous ,theres so much out there its a life on a road of danger , I guess he has seen a lot people killed in wreaks ,people jumping out in front of trucks to kill themselves , cars pulling out in front of them I don't see how they do it ,I think the only time it made him want to quit was when he saw 3 small children killed it really did work on him . But you have to trust them there our husbands trying to make a living doesn't really mean he messing around on you .
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• India
1 Feb 07
All the truck drivers are not cheaters. So we should not blame on all truck drivers. You should take some steps to change your hubby activities so that he shall not go for other womens. You are so beautiful. Your husband misses you that night. Dont let it happen still in your life. How could you tolerate your husband with a another women. Isnt it so strange.
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@badpenny (743)
• Seagoville, Texas
2 Feb 07
Hear, Hear!! My husband is a truck driver, and although he is very perverse at times, I trust him implicitly. I know he doesn't cheat, but if he ever did, I'd just get even. Harping on him only makes it worse. But I know that situation would never come up.
• United States
1 Feb 07
Ask him to take a lie detector test. (Yea, I watch Maury too much.) If he says he doesn't want to take it, he's probably cheating. Don't stay with him if he is. No woman deserves that.
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• Saint Vincent And The Grenadines
2 Feb 07
no woman and no man...excuse me? cheating is bad no matter who does it...and by the way do you know what innocence presumption is? some ppl could find her dignity wounded if compelled to go through a test without having done anything wrong...but of course if this was the other way round i'd be called sexist...all i want is a bit of fairness please...and stop talking about women dont deserve this etc...nobody does..and probably our friend who suggested this discussion is right, but not for being a woman, but cause she's found evidence that her husband is cheating...stick to facts please not to prejudice please!
• United States
2 Feb 07
Not all truck drivers cheat. My dad is a truck driver--over the road and he doesn't have the time to eat let alone cheat on my mom. He does 4 loads a week and his home Saturday morning and leaves Monday usually. Some do but I'm convinced they are just nasty people anyways. They were that way before they became truck drivers and they will stay that way. Umm...my dad doesn't stick up for truck drivers. He flat out says some of them are so nasty. There are a lot out there who do this to support their families not to get away from them. Generalizations are bad. I hate when people assume all truck drivers are poor. My dad sure as heck isn't. I hate when people assume they all cheat when a lot of them don't. I also hate when people assume all men/women in the military on deployments cheat.
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@Thomas73 (1467)
• Switzerland
2 Feb 07
I know what you mean. My dad was a truck driver and a bit of a charmer. I never knew the whole truth, but I suspect him to have had a woman in almost every major town where he stopped. My mum eventually divorced him, but for totally different reasons, as she apparently didn't have a clue. As the son, it wasn't my place to say anything anyway, mostly without proof, only strong suspicions.
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• United States
2 Feb 07
My husband was a long haul driver for many years and I know it's hard to trust them. I got so frazzled and fustrated with it all I had to just say enough. I don't know for a fact if he ever cheated or not, I have my suspicions but I had to make a choice. It comes down to are you happier with them or without them. My husband now works offshore and its almost the same situation. You have to either trust them or not, or either play stupid or not. Everyone has a breaking point. What is he is cheating and he brings home something to you. What then?
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@Marie2473 (8524)
• Sweden
1 Feb 07
I ahve been cheated one and if it was one thing that i learned from that it was to always follor my gut-feeling, If i feel that something isn´t right, it probably isn´t.. In a relationship you have to trust eachother, if u don´t then what´s the point..
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@avs189 (1031)
• India
1 Feb 07
I would say relnship can survive or can be life long only if mutual trust and faith persists between the two individuals that is they must be sure that really dont hide anything from each other...else both are going to suffer someday or the other whatever the reason may be ...either breaking of your marriage or getting infected with aids in both cases its a complete loos or mess ...so be early enough to warn him to bring him on track...
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@dbeamon (129)
• United States
9 Feb 07
My husband and i both are truck drivers. We have never cheated on each other. Most drivers dont cheat on there wifes bc of all the diseases out there. Have you ever been in someof these truck stops and seen these girls im not just talking about the lot lizards either some of the employees are just as bad. And to say that all truck drivers are cheaters is very unfair.We have drove over the road and locally togather and seerately. He now drives for about 7-8 hrs a day and i work for 15 out in a pasture with nothing but men. That doesnt mean i cheat either.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I don't every one is bad, I have one uncle who is one and he is a Preacher,and loves his wife dearly, and wouldn't do anything to hurt her, but then I have another uncle who messes with anything,I mean even 18 yr. olds and him 54,now that is gross.And I know the employee are just as bad. My troubl eis just getting the red hair outof my mind as well as the cat hair he has on his blanket,no one has a cat with white fur around us or his bosses, but as I said it is hard to get that stuff out of my mind as well as his blankets and cloths.
• India
2 Feb 07
Actually all truck drivers are behave like that. They have to travel a long journey with hard work. Truck driving is really a risky job as well as they have to travel alone. Travel may take 2 to 3 days to reach the destination. So, If they get any opportunity they will enjoy that to kill their loneliness and tiredness. .....
@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
2 Feb 07
There is no excuse if he is married or in a partnership. Does that mean it is alright for his wife/girlfriend to have an affair also as she is lonely when he is not around?
@medooley (1875)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Perhaps he is telling the truth? Why do you assume that he is lying, just because he has hair in his blanket??? He swears he never picks up women... maybe he doesn't maybe it is men?
• United States
2 Feb 07
Maybe it's men? That's quite the jump from he's telling the truth to maybe he's not just cheating on you, but he's also homosexual!!
• United States
2 Feb 07
I am A truck driver and my wife is too. We have never cheated. You know your man better than anyone. If your gut feeling is telling you he is then you gotta make a choice.
@maryannemax (12176)
• Sweden
2 Feb 07
yep. true. it's not a generalization i guess. it's just that most truck drivers she knows of are like that. but truck drivers or not, men and even women, too - have the capacity to cheat. not nice, bad and sad... but most of the time, true. and dbeamon is right, you know your husband so much and you know what he's doing just by looking at his eyes. trust your feelings and get some time to talk to your husband.
• United States
1 Feb 07
I don't know my grandpa was a trucker and He cheated all the time on my grandma.... She started cheating on him and he would get crazy mad! You know that garth brooks song where he drives the truck through the hotel? My grandpa actually did that . Thank god he did kill someone.All I can say is you married the cheater! noBuy a little Camera that undetectable Hide it in the sleeper when you change his bedding and then check it after he gets home . You can get them at those spy places! I know it sounds bad but I would HAVE to know ya know?
@justiman (428)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Hey spy girl, you're cute! You said thank god he did kill someone. Did you mean he didn't kill someone?
• United States
6 Dec 09
I know the feeling honey and I hope you and your father have become closer,ehat ever happens on the road is between your father and mother. I know my husband is out there and I hate it. He was married before and cheated then he married me left the road because he couldn't stand to be away from me now he took a job and he's only home twice a month for 48 hours. My heart is broken but I really try to kept the kids out of it. They are all adults and only 1 lives at home. This life sucks. Good luck to you and your family
• United States
31 Dec 08
As the wife of a long haul driver, I can tell you that not all of them are cheaters. I trust my husband completely. We have talked about the "lot lizards" when he first got the job. He had never heard that term before. The first time he saw one, he called me and couldn't stop telling me how disgusting she looked. He described her and he said he couldn't imagine anyone wanting to be with THAT. I had heard rumors that these ladies will sometimes be so bold as to just get into the truck, even without being invited and then not leaving until they get their way. My husband and his partner keep their doors locked when they are off the clock and they stay far away from these dirty lizards. We have a few other friends who are truck drivers and one of the guys told me that you see a lot of really sick things on the road. He told me about a time when him and his partner had stopped to get something to eat and the place had a game room. So while he is playing some pinball a little girl comes next to him and asks if she can go back to his truck with him. He was beyond shocked. This was a girl about 10 years old, maybe younger. Her brother who was also little was doing the same thing! Their grandparents were pimping them out to truckers. And that's not the worst of it. Shortly after the girl approached him .. he saw another truck driver leaving to his truck with her little brother! I wanted to throw up when he told me. My husband won't even tell me everything he sees because he says I do not need to know. He knows it will affect me and it's bad enough that he has to know about the sick things that go on at these truck stops. For the most part, he tries to stay at the places created by his company and not the random truck stops that are for everyone. I'm so glad that his truck almost never stops that long. He drives with another guy and that truck stays rolling. I know this discussion is really old but I hope if your husband was cheating, you found out and left him.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I'm sorry if you think your husband is cheating on you, or if he is, but its not fair to act as if thats just how truckers are. That is not true at all. Many, many truckers have strong loyalties to their families and would never even think of cheating on their wives.
• India
2 Feb 07
its about time you dump him and search for someone else cause hes playing with your feelings and emotions . Hes just of of those countless selfish self centered emotionless man. But there are other jewels to be discovered. So get going.. Watcha waitin fer ???
@freak369 (4376)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I never heard the term 'lot lizard' until a friend who is married to a truck driver started talking about them. He doesn't cheat on his wife and really talks badly about the guys that have to go to that length to seek affection. He was saying that one time he was at a truck stop and saw the one women going from truck to truck, one after another for the better part of three hours. I'd suggest getting tested for various diseases and if you honestly think that he is cheating on you, move on to greener pastures. No one needs to deal with that and no one deserves to have that in their life.
• United States
2 Feb 07
In a relationship there needs to be trust, if there is no trust then the relationaship would be all as disintergrated