Older Babe, Younger Dude: What Are Your Views On This Kind of Relationship?

Philippines
February 1, 2007 1:34pm CST
We see a lot of couples in Hollywood where the women are younger than the men: Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, Eva Longoria and Tony Parker, Cameron Diaz and Justin Timberlake (I know they just broke up but you get the point). My boyfriend and I are also an example - I'm 27 and he's 5 years my junior. Have you ever dated an older woman (for guys) or a younger guy (for girls)? What do you think about this kind of relationship? Any advantages or disadvantages? Please tell me your views.
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13 responses
@mickidmw (992)
• United States
4 Apr 07
I think as long as you are happy age means nothing! I went out witha guy almost 20 years my junior once and it really sucked! He was totally head over heels for me and he was the worst lover ever, very immature and a total jerk! We only went out a few time, but again, if it makes you happy, it doesnt matter!
@salsen (108)
• Turkey
25 Mar 07
It depends! It may not be a problem if they have a good relationship and if they respect each other. But I'd rather have a younger partner i look younger than my age. :) keep smiling :)
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@paraacbe (231)
• India
26 Mar 07
i have always had fantasies abt older women..i dont know why..is it OK??
• United States
1 Feb 07
My husband is 6 years younger than me. We have no problem with the age difference. In fact, people often say I look younger than him! hahaha! And he's very mature. So, it's really just a number for us. No big deal.
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• Philippines
1 Feb 07
i agree with you. age ain't nothing but a number. but i guess it also helps that you look like you're the same age.
@neon2000 (2762)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
My own point of view when it comes to who should be older, the man or the woman is I guess that thw woman be the much younger than the man. Because the Man can still bore a young woman with his children. Now can you make an older woman bore children when she is already at late 40's?
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
whoah... Well i can really relate on this one. My bf and i have this same situation. My bf and i have a 3 1/2 years age gap and him being young ofcourse. Actually on my situation its been an advantage since i teach him how to be mature enough. The advantage of it is that your the one whos under control you can reprimand him if he done anything wrong and he will just accept his faults, but dont nag. You can be best buddies and bf's and gf's at the same time cause his attitude is cool since he is much more younger than you. He will listen to you because you're much more matured rather than he is. But i think one disadvantage of it as i realize is this. You have to wait for him and you should be ready to get marry at your older year. Around 30's or so.
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• United States
28 Mar 07
I don't have a problem with age difference, either way. All my previous boyfriends were younger than me. The last one is 10 years younger than me. It's not really because I like going out with younger men, it's just that I'm kind of immature for my age (I was pampered too much when I was little), and I look 10 years younger my age (many people has said so). Besides, I often realize much later that I happen to be older than the guys I dated, because age isn't an issue for me really. I believe that age doesn't matter anymore as long as there's true love and respect between the couple.
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@snowgirl (22)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Actually my hubby is 12 years my junior and we've been together 10 years now. Sure there are a lot of setbacks/disadvantages like the so called social stigma, the occasional feelings of insecurity (for both parties) and very often differences in outlook (as in generation gap)etc... However, we find there are more advantages for both of us. There's certainly no boredom here because of our differences, we've learned to trust each other more & more as we raise our family together, we learn from each other's interests (like he's athletic and i'm a bookworm). And somehow we find that it is really love that's binding us together. I wouldn't have it any other way.
26 Mar 07
Happy together - Happy together, despite life's ups and downs
I am 55 years young and my partner is 29 years old. Ok that is a very big age difference but we have been together almost three years now and are very happy together. Like most couples we have our problems, mainly due to outside influences like our families, but we both feel this is right for us.
@lifeis2good (1186)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I don't see any problems with those kinds of relationships as long as both parties are totally mature and ready to deal with people who may have problems with it!!! I think that as long as both parties contribute equally to the relationship in order to remain strong and true to each other that is wonderful!!! As long as you guys are happy with each other then really that is all you should concern yourself with!!!! Enjoy it to the fullest!!!
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@ljcapps (1927)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I think it's very interesting that there's a social stigma placed on men who date older women, but there's no problem with women dating older men. Personally, i think if you've found that person that treats you the way you want to be treated, and makes you happy it shouldn't matter age, color, race, polka dots, whatever. LOL But women who date younger men usually get a lot of problems from other people about it. who cares? worry about your own life people, leave everyone else alone! :)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Well as long as the person is of legal age then I don't see what's wrong with dating an older/younger person. I'm a guy and am currently 22, when I was 20 I dated a woman that was 27 will it lasted for almost a year. Age wasn't a factor in that relationship though.
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@pelo26 (1553)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I don't think an age difference of 4 to 5 years would really matter that much in a relationship as compared to 10 to even 20 years age gap. I've known some friends who are in a relationship like that. I think what matters more is the love and understanding for each other. I wouldn't mind dating older women.
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• Canada
4 Apr 07
It's all very simple my new mylotian friend. You see with the older gents dating the younger chics, the cougars chasing the young cats. The gent feel like they're in their youth again, they're alive inside.. all over again like it was yesterday, today! And visca versa... To have that feeling once again is very empowering. While all this is happening the cats definitely like to come out and play.. with the cougars giving those older women that burst of young, hot feel throughout allowing them to feel like there's no tomorrow. What you have to really understand is when you have this sort of type of dating, it all about he or she rocking the cradle. It about the old feeling you again, and the young getting wiser before their time is up... but, it never stops there. Just wait until the next generation