i love a girl but i am unable to tell her.how shud i approach?

India
February 2, 2007 2:37am CST
i fear she might refuse me.thats what makes me afraid.how shud i approach the whole issue?
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9 responses
• United States
2 Feb 07
Well I think it depends on the relationship that you all have already. Are you two friends? Because it would be weird to go to a perfect stranger and tell them you LOVE them. If you two are friends then I would tell her. Even if she refuses you I would ask that you too still be friends. I really wouldnt come out and say you love her I would first let her know that you have feelings for her, that you really like her beyond friendship. See how she takes to that first. If that develops then you can tell her shortly that you really do love her. If you are in a relationship with the girl just tell her. If she really likes you then she will be happy you did. If she doesn't say it back all is not lost she just may not feel that way about you - YET!! Best of luck. Let us know what she says!!!
• India
7 Feb 07
thanks dude.i will surely tell u the response.
• United States
2 Feb 07
Would it be worse to be rejected or never know how she feels? You should just come out and tell her how You feel. The worst thing that could happen is that her feelings are not the same for you. The best thing that can happen is that she feels the same and you have a long, wonderful loving relationship. If you never tell her, you will always wonder what could have been. Don't do that. Bite the bullet tell her your feelings and let the chips fall as they may.
• India
7 Feb 07
ur first sentence is quite catchy.i will tell her my felings anyway now.
@freak369 (5113)
• United States
7 Feb 07
I had a fortune cookie one time that read, "It's better to try and fail than to not try at all" That's great advice for your situation. She may really like you and may be having the same hesitations. If you don't start up a conversation or tell her how you feel, you might just miss the oppertunity.
@rosie_123 (6113)
7 Feb 07
In England we have an old saying....... it is "faint heart never won a fair lady"! So why not be brave and tell her? OK, she might refuse you, but then at least you will know, and be able to move on! And who knows? She may really like you, and be hoping you will say something! Go on - be brave! And good luck!
• India
7 Feb 07
well this is not a stage with which you are passing,me to experienced the same thing.so i hope my suggestion will definately help you in getting your love.before proposing you first of all try to come close to her so that she can't reject your proposal and also let her understand you and your feeling for her .than only propose her .definately she will accept your proposal even if at first she is not giving positive response then also dont get tensed give her enough time to think and continue the clossness with her.definately you will get your love.all the best
@vdhill (65)
• United States
7 Feb 07
If she refuses you, life will go on. Make a move, or move on.
@sreevasu (2717)
• India
7 Feb 07
At this stage, I don't think it as a love, but an attraction. An attraction towards her physical fiqure. (May be her hair, dress, smile, walk or what not) If you want to love her please know her better. Please talk to her on any subject of common interest. Know her personality, knowledge, beauty, anything and everything. If she too finds you as a good person, then the love will emerge naturally. It is not wise to initiate and force her to be in love with you. Love should emerge in between. Right?
@tcm9669 (44)
• Malta
2 Feb 07
Well I think that you SHOULD not be afraid of her refusing you. These are things that happen, if she does refuse you don't make a dram, well thats life, hard to live! Just go and ask her;)
• India
7 Feb 07
Dude i think you should tell her how you feel if are friends atleast and if not then atleast let her get familiar with you and then you can tell her. Keeping the whole thing will make you feel like a coward not for now but everytime you would see that girl in future . So go ahead. All The best.