Can you handle other people's opinions?
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
United States
February 2, 2007 4:39am CST
When you start a discussion - are you looking for people to come in and pat you on the back, tell you you're right and coddle you - or do you want honest to God opinions, views and advice?
If someone comes in and gives you their opinion in a respectful way, but it's the opposite of your view - do you turn around & '-' rate them for it or do you respectfully disagree like an adult and move on?
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50 responses
@kevkentis (590)
• Jamaica
2 Feb 07
Dont get me wrong everyone loves to be commended or to be told that they are correct and that everyone sees things in their point of view. But i rather a neutral response than responses that maybe bias.
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@michelledarcy (5220)
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2 Feb 07
I find that some peoples answers I rate positively even if I don't agree with them if they are polite in the way they answer and give a good argument.
If they are rude I don't rate them.
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
2 Feb 07
Just as I am in person, I am online...
I respect anyone opinions as long as they are respectful...
That's the key for me...also knowing I asked from the start...I, myself am opening up a conversation that could go either way...I respect that...Because I took the inititive to ask...
I'm pretty open-mind about everything and if the views are different, I will ask for them to help me understand why..still being respectful..
It's really no biggie to me...I'm not trying offend or disrespect anyone no matter what the conversation is and their opinions that may differ from mine...
I would just hope the other(s) I'm speaking with, in return give me the same respect when responding..
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@ronita34 (3922)
• Canada
2 Feb 07
I want honest to God opinions i believe in freedom of choice and the right to your own opinion on anything and everything!! I never rate a - for ones opinion and i never will! I respectfully state an opinion to their response!
@CRiley27 (983)
• United States
2 Feb 07
I love a good debate. I welcome others to have an opposite opinion of mine, and the chance to debate in a mature way. I would never give a poor rating just because someone did not take my side. Now, if someone was to just be stupid and have no validation in their statements, that is another story.
Not to mention, somethimes I have had an opinion, and someone has come along with such great points and reasons, I have changed my opinion. :)
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@Petrakkos (310)
• Cyprus
2 Feb 07
NOT ONLY I CAN HANDLE OTHERS OPINION BUT I LEARN FROM OTHER PEOPLE AND I AM LEARNED FROM THEM
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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3 Feb 07
I am honestly interested in open debate, if i disagree with someone I will always tell them so and I pull no punches. However, debate is what im after not agreement, just trying to get to the bottom of something that has been troubling me. I think mylot has the potential to be a great forum for debate, but for it to work properly it has to be an open forum where people are adult enough to discuss any subject. O.K, I know we all have our sacred cows, but everything should be open for debate without resorting to negative ratings simply because someone holds a different point of view to yourself.
I am slowly coming to a difficult conclusion that perhaps we should have an intelligence rating to go with the reputation rating so that we can tell at a glance if the person is intellectually capable of participating in the debate. Maybe we could have divisions with promotion and relegation dependent upon performance. The possibilities are endless
blesased be, keep on posting
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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3 Feb 07
by the way, you got a plus from me for this discussion because it made me think, thank you for starting it
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@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thank you - I agree with everything you said. If I could pick more than one best response, you would have been picked as well because this was a wonderful response.
Thanks for the + too :)
I hope to enjoy some healthy discussion with you in the future. Keep posting!
@dunetrekker (339)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Feb 07
I always make it a point to remind myself that everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion. So, it doesn't really bother me much if others view would be different than mine. I know that i ain't always right so, i always give a thought on others viewpoint. It's a way of learning things from others. However, i express my opinion in the way i see things. I don't give a negative rating to others opinion even it doesn't agree with mine.. i would rather give it a "+" as long as it contributes to the discussion at hand and of course as long as their argument isn't in a foul manner.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
3 Feb 07
You have me wondering now...lol. If I'm starting a discussion with a question about me do I put it in terms where I will only receive positive feedback? Am I fishing maybe for sympathy or maybe just empathy. Because I know I am overly sensitive sometimes and have low self esteem. I'll have to go check. lol.
The only times I rate negatively are as per the quidelines.That is, when people are rude/nasty; when they are off topic; when they answer "yes", "no", "I don't know", "maybe" or similar.
@HeavenUnaware (1757)
• United States
5 Feb 07
No need to wonder. I meant that when you start a discussion about something and someone comes in and says they do not share the same views as you do - do you get upset about it to the point of having to prove to them your views and if they still don't agree then do you neg rate them because of it? I wasn't speaking about you personsonally - just a general question because I've noticed that people will start a discussion on something and then if someone comes in and says "sorry but I disagree and this is why" then the person will come back and get upset that someone dared to not agree with them and will then try to shove it down their throats to get them to agree with them or else they neg rate them. I just don't get it. There are some discussions that I just plain do not agree with and sometimes I think by sharing why, it MIGHT give them something else to think about. If not, no worries but then they will instead get defensive and try to make me agree with them. They can't handle me not agreeing with them.
Personally, I want to hear all sides. Maybe someone will tell me something I didn't know - maybe not.
I'm also overly sensitive sometimes with low self-esteem so I know what you mean but I wasn't talking about you or your discussions :)
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
ill gladly accept any opinions that ive receive ...positive or negative opinions doesnt bother me as long as i think its in good intention...
@anant_awasthi (19)
• India
3 Feb 07
u have to go for the other sagession and u hve to work at the condition in which u go to capture the opinion of other's.
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@creationhub (3066)
• Malaysia
3 Feb 07
If the opinions are constructive critisms, I can. The problem is that lots of people like to give opinions when they are not needed. I remember one incident when a guest visit my home. She started commenting on everything her eyes set on. She should remember she was a guest and not the owner of the home. Anyway, most of the comments were about comparison to others and her home. I can do without such people around.
@Riptide (2758)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I want honest opinions, that is the whole sense of a discussion. Unfortunatley some people on here don't though. They want everybody to agree with them and expect a pity party. I love a good debate and if everyone would agree, what kind of debate would that be?
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@fortunatelee (170)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I like real honesty, real views and real advice.
I rate just about every post with a "+" and only give a "-" when a person is gross. For an example, I wrote about my cat, it was a fun post about a cat antic. A person wrote a response that spoke out with violent descriptions of what he would like to do to cats and dogs.
Too bad we cannot delete such posts.
I usually give facts if I have a disagreement with anothers view. I keep in polite conversation because that is what I would like in return (what goes around comes around).
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@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I may not agree with what someone tells me, but I'll at least consider it. My problem is that I might post about something, but not all of the relevant facts are there. I'd put enough so that the basic question could be discussed, but if someone doesn't know the entire background, their response might not be of use to me. I wouldn't be disrespectful of them though. It's not their fault if I didn't state everything.
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@addicted2luv (390)
• Philippines
3 Feb 07
I respect other people's opinions all the time, whether they're on my side or not. I am not bias, and don't judge people. There is always a reason why they think that way. we have to understand that we came from different cultures with different views so we must respect each other's opinions.
