Dead Beat Moms

United States
February 2, 2007 4:40am CST
I hear so much about dead-beat Dads - is that because more women are on the Internet than men and sit in these discussion groups? Well, what about Moms who are deadbeats? I just posted this in another discussion. My partner *was* getting $23 every 2 weeks from his ex-wife as support for 2 teenagers. That didn't even pay their lunch money for school. Her excuse was that was all she could afford. Now you know that if that was the father, the judge would be telling him to get a second job if he had to and send the support. I believe the state guidelines here are $100 per child per week. How she got away with paying so little just kills me. So she gets sick and stops working (actually was fired, for what we don't know) and stops paying support. Meanwhile, she and her new husband are buying new computers and fixing up their place. We have copies of the IM conversations where she's telling the kids this. She sent $25 for the whole month of Januar and nothing else since October. I just paid $30 for his son to have new sneakers cause the old ones had holes in them and it's been below zero. I just wish the Moms that are dead-beats to the custodial fathers would get the same treatment as when it's in reverse.
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3 responses
• United States
3 Feb 07
I think the dads who do not pay get more attention, but I know there are plenty of moms out there that did not get the kids in the divorce or separation and who do not help support their kids. The laws need to be the same for all - but I guess in this society it is still thought that dads are the big bread winners and that they really don't need the help even if they do have the kids.
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• United States
3 Feb 07
It also seems that society excuses the Mom somehow as well, as if "well, she must have a reason she doesn't have the kids, so let's be nice and not force her to pay either".
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• United States
11 Feb 07
I think we hear more about deadbeat dads because there are more of them, of course I don't have the statistics on that, but it would be interesting to see. I think that whichever parent that doesn't have the kids, should pay support, regardless of if they are male or female. I hadn't heard that women get it easier if they are the deadbeats but if that is true, then that is terrible! And then to brag to the kids about getting new computers...that's really bad. I'm sorry you have to go through that. Hopefully she'll get what she deserves someday.
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@kelly60 (4547)
• United States
9 Feb 07
Usually that is the case, although I do know of one mother who was recently taken to court in Michigan. The father has custody of their child and she was taken to court for back child support. I'm not sure what exactly she ended up paying, but was told that she had to come up with a large sum of money or it would be jail time for her. She now has a monthly child support payment that is being monitored. If she fails to make the payment 2 consecutive months, she must either catch it up immediately or go to jail for contempt of court. You are right though, this does happen much too often.
• United States
9 Feb 07
I just wish equality was across the board. Why does it have to get to the point where the mother has gotten that far behind? A father is behind a few months and it seems as if he is hauled into court. Women too often seem to accept a double-standard when it benefits them.
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