Will you keep your ex-husband's last name after divorce?

United States
February 2, 2007 11:46pm CST
I think some people would prefer keeping it because they have kids and people might known her more with her ex's last name. Some people might not keep it if they have a bitter past with the ex. I am not sure what's the sense of keeping it if they are divorced already. Let it go!
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@wmg2006 (5383)
• United States
4 Feb 07
I did not keep mine or really ever change it to his. At first I used the hyphen, but then I dropped that too. my last name crried more clout and his was a bit tarnished when we met. He had horible credit and I did not want to ruin mine by associating my name with his. As long as everything credit wise was done through my last name things were great. I did have a son and he has his Father's last name, but plans to change it as soon as he is older. He and his Father do not even talk to one another, so why have his name.
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• United States
5 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
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3 Feb 07
I have kept with mine for several reasons. One of the main reasons was because it makes it easier when it comes to things concerning the kids like school and stuff. Other reasons are convenience, if I was to go back to using my maiden name it would mean having to change my name so many places like the bank, housing and having to produce marriage certificate as well as divorce papers, also my married name is a lot easier to pronounce than my maiden name and I tend to get annoyed when people mis-pronounce my maiden name more than once or twice.
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• United States
4 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
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@minerc (1373)
• United States
3 Feb 07
I kept it with My first because my child was small, but we did end up back togather for a few more years so it came in handy. For my second divorce I didnt keep it, he was a bad person and I didnt want my name associated with his anymore, we get along great he just makes bad decisions.
• United States
3 Feb 07
Thanks for sharing!
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• Canada
5 Feb 07
I don't think i'd keep my ex husband's last name if i divorsed him i obviously don't want to have anything else to do with him so why keep that name. Seems to me to move on you need to break that tie between you two.
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• United States
5 Feb 07
You're absolutely right! Thanks for reponding!
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
5 Feb 07
If I ever got a divorce, I would change my last name back to my maiden name. It's a hard name to pronounce. My kids would keep it though, I guess. I don't know how all that works out.
• United States
5 Feb 07
Thanks for responding!
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• United States
4 Feb 07
I took my maiden name back even though it meant my children growing up with a different last name. The marriage was over so I saw no reason to keep going by Mrs. (Him). I never had any trouble with schools, doctors or anywhere else due to the name difference. I think in this day and age with the prevalance of divorce and women keeping their own name when married, nobody really even notices. My youngest daughter also took my maiden name when she divorced and is now considering changes her children's name to the same.
• United States
5 Feb 07
I agree with you! I think after divorce, there's no sense in keeping your ex name. What for? Is it really a hassle getting your maiden name back? That's what some people say that's why they tend to keep the ex name. Thanks for sharing!
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
25 Apr 07
My mom kept my dad's name when she and my dad divorced. I'm not exactly sure why she kept it, but I'm guessing it's because it's a hassle when it comes to the DMV, social security, and whatnot with having to change it back. If I was to get a divorce, I'd probably keep my current last name to avoid those hassles as well as not confuse my kids. Plus, I believe it is my right as I've 'earned it' for all the years I have been married to my husband. ;) But that's just my opinion.
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• United States
2 Jun 08
I changed my name once after a divorce and it was a hassle to go through all that just over a name. The next time I got divorced I just kept it so I didn't have to worry about going through all that to change it. Heck when you get remarried you have to change it again anyway why bother with changing it after a divorce.
• United States
1 Jun 08
I'm keeping mine until all of my children are 18. Once they turn 18 and can legally change their names themselves if so desired we've all decided to change our last name to my maiden name. My ex tried to tell me I wasn't allowed to "keep his name". I laughed at him and said "not only CAN I keep it, but simply because it irritates you I'll WILL keep it until I'm dang well ready to change it back to a name I can be proud of." Yup, ticked him off even more! LOL
• Canada
16 May 08
My mother actually hyphenated first and second husband's last names, because she had children with her first husband. As for me, first off, I don't plan on getting divorced, but even if I did, I wouldn't keep my married name, because I didn't take my husband's name upon marriage in the first place!!