what if your girl say she's a virgin and you found out she's not?

@nick826 (173)
Philippines
February 3, 2007 10:19pm CST
what if your girl say's she's a virgin and then when you get married you found out she's not a virgin anymore what would you do? will you still accept her and love her inspite that she lied to you?
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7 responses
• United States
4 Feb 07
If you love someone, you can accept that had a past that might include other lovers/boyfriends. maybe if she did lie, she regretted her intimacy with another,and regrets not waiting, perhaps she is afraid you will think less of her. I am not saying its right to lie, but I would get the bottom of the reason why she lied in the first place.Good topic!
@XxAngelxX (2832)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
I think this would be very difficult and you would have to confront her about it. It would be possible you misunderstood as a woman can have no hymen (due to several factors some as simple as bike riding) and still be a virgin. It is very difficult to have a relationship based on lies. It is hard to trust a person once you have caught them in a lie, and once the trust is broken it is very hard to rebuild. I'm not sure what I'd do in this type of situation (I'm female) but I don't think I would not love that person anymore. Love takes a lot to destroy. If the lying continued however, I would lose respect for that person very quickly.
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@nick826 (173)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
I think we guy's have the right to know if a girl still a virgin or not at least she should say it to us one day before our marriage.
@judyt00 (3504)
• Canada
4 Feb 07
How would you know she isn't a virgin? I hope its not because her hymen wasn't intact any more, because there are lots of things that can rupture such a thin membrane, even a bad fall. Love shouldn't depend on someone's virginity. is she upset that you aren't a vorgin, she expects the same consideration from you
• Indonesia
5 Feb 07
virgin is important, but her is very important for you. ask her why she lied and trust her. however, you have a promised to love her until the end of your life. everyone had fault, so..why don't you trust her and believer her? She's your wife right now, huh??
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• Indonesia
5 Feb 07
I tell you...it's a good topic!:)
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@nick826 (173)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
thanks for your comment
@gwenb143 (20)
• United States
4 Feb 07
is virginity that important to you, way more than the wonderful moments you've shared with this person? maybe she got scared of losing you and so she lied. think about it -- you may lose that one great person you promised to love and cherish --NO MATTER WHAT --just because she is not a virgin anymore. what is virginity anyway?
• Indonesia
4 Feb 07
I will asked her, why she lies to me? If I found the answer are most reasonable to me, i'll accept her. If its not, i'll TRY to accept her. However, you have already married her.
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• Australia
5 Feb 07
The fact she wasn't a virgin wouldn't bether me. What would tho is if she lied about that what else is she lieing about.
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