Why do men freak out on Marriage?
By emquinsat
@emquinsat (1058)
Philippines
February 4, 2007 3:36am CST
I can remember just before I broke up with my guy, I had this dream that we're already married. I told him about that dream which I think was kind of sweet. But as soon as he heard that we're married in that dream, he totally freaked out. I don't get it. Why do men freak out on marriage? He said he loves me but why can't he trully commit?
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@sensesfail (2251)
• India
7 Feb 07
Marriage is a great responsibility in case you hav'nt noticed.It okay for a guy to take care of himself i mean in terms of expenditure,lifestyle,etc,. but when a wife comes in the guy is no more alone.It is onesome after marriage ie the guy and the girl are one they no longer are different they are one.So there is alot of responsibility to it.Thats why guys freak out at marriage.Even i would freak out at marriage.A guy would agree to marriage once he knows that hw's well settled.
@sensesfail (2251)
• India
7 Feb 07
But the man would also love to enjoy his good ol' bachelor days atleast for quite some time.Its also more about the responsibilities, he's got to get his mind ready for marriage.
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@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
We'll that's why marriage is a two way street. I mean the woman can help at the expenses too. It not just the man who would carry that in his shoulder.
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
LOL... I think you're right.But hey there a lot of things he can enjoy in marriage too.
@cuhkiz (568)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
Being married takes alot of responsibilities! Your ex-bf freaked out because maybe he's not yet ready for a married life commitment. Or He's been chicken out to be tied up with you for he's whole life, though theres divorce and so called annulment. Some men don't freak out too, those are the ones who wants to settle their life with thier partners and are well committed to the relationship. They can handle responsibilities and ready to have a family as well.
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
7 Feb 07
Maybe you're right. I think we're too young to think of marriage at the moment.
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
5 Feb 07
not all guys are like that, just to let you know, everyone is different, i asked my past ex girlfriend to marry me but we never end up getting marry so i move on and so did they.
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
I see. I guess there are just some guys who do this. Too bad for me.
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
6 Feb 07
I don't have a sister. Im an only shilc. So I don't think it could be a reason.
@blindedfox (3315)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
Well, freaking out on the idea of getting married doesn't neccessarily mean that you have to doubt that guy's love for you. Some (if not most) guys aren't just ready for a grand responsibility such as marriage. A guy may freak out at the talk of marriage but he may love you at the same time. It's just that generally, guys think of the future when marriage is brought up. They just don't want you to have a misrable married life (if the guy isn't ready yet).
Hope you got my point. =)
@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
5 Feb 07
Very well said. Thanks. I believe its what my ex bf thinks too. He's having a dillema since he has to do a lot of things before before settling down.
@inflamation (866)
• Pakistan
4 Feb 07
It's isnt so the way you are thinking. Not all men follow this action. If they have a true love with their gf then why wouldn't they marry her?
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@emquinsat (1058)
• Philippines
4 Feb 07
Oh is that so... :-c that means he doesn't really love me then. Ohh well he's my past now.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
11 Feb 07
Becasue they are not really men, thye are selfish and can't commmit. Just be grateful that they know themselves well enough to realize it before you were married.
My son is 21, he tells every girl he loves them, but he is not ready for marriage. He needs to grow up, and that happens with time.
