Whats the best way to get you partner to help you around the house?

well here are a few pointers....they usually work... thank your partner everytime he shows any kind of inclination towards gelping...even if its a small deed, appreciate it...he WILL unconsiously do a bit more the next time... if its a mess you are talking about...let it remain till it starts to irritate him...he will clean up...then when he's done tell him what a great job he's done...dont tell him how to do it or even point out anything. just show appreciation. if he comes and makes a mess or something you disapprove....then DO NOT tel him...guys seem to want to reaction positive or negative...dont react negatively...but always acknowledge even the smallest positive points... soon you will automatically ignore being negative...and he will stop doing the wrong stuff...and mostly do things that please you. cheers... i read about these tips in 3 different books....they all were saying similar things....they work on everyone...let me know the difference....btw i'm a student....and it works when i'm doing my projects with a group.